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Social Acceptance of Multiple Partners...
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Social Acceptance of Multiple Partners...  I'll get right to it; does anyone want companionship anymore, or are we all just looking to screw ourselves to oblivion? This is not a rant per se, but it's beginning to bother me a bit. The online dating industry is now over 2 billion dollars a year, and growing. Even this site here has become a publicly traded company-I wonder how many of you knew that. There are over a billion people using one form of online dating or another, so the bottom line is, we're having tons of sex, for sure. The question is, at whose expense are we doing this? Let's look at the scenarios; 1. Lots of couples now play together, sometimes with other couples, but many of them play with single people, sometimes together, and other times with other partners separately. They're secure in their relationships, so they're just having extra fun. 2. Married people who play around secretly. Now, I'm not judging anyone here, but this demographic accounts for a large chunk of that 2 billion dollars. Married people playing secretly go back home to their spouses, leaving behind someone they just slept with. 3. Very good-looking single people. Now, these people get the most attention, right? Everyone wants a taste of them, male or female, so they get to pick and choose. In this case, they sometimes hurt people emotionally, and in other cases, they hurt themselves, all without even realizing it at first. Let's face it; good-looking people have feelings too. 4. Dishonest people. These people are by far the worst offenders-those who wear emotional masks along with their contraceptives. They say and do whatever it takes to penetrate people's defenses, leave behind the carnage, then go somewhere else to do it again, and again. And again. 5. Semi-casual partnerships. This area is rather gray, for a number of reasons which I won't delve too much into here, but these are people looking for a steady partner they can do things with both inside and outside the bedroom. No need to put a ring on it, but be about each other more than their individual selves. These people also tend to be the most vulnerable in online dating, also for a number of reasons, but I won't delve into that either. Yes, it's now socially acceptable to have multiple sexual partners; married couples playing, poly-amorous relationships, side dishes with the main course, or any other forms of multiple partners. On the surface, it's all fun, but the fact is, whether we like it or not, someone usually gets hurt. Most of the hurt tend to suffer in silence, because they went in usually knowing what they were getting into. Some don't, because they got mixed up with a Number 4 type of person. I've said it before, and I'll say it again-it's fine to be alone, but it sucks to be lonely. When we're young, we put more emphasis on having fun, and that's mostly a biological predisposition, so we don't care as much about being tied down. But when we get older, the emphasis gets put on having someone there to talk to, break bread with, travel with, share secrets with, go to bed and wake up with, tell us how beautiful we are, kiss us like they mean it, and just like us for who we are rather than what they want. These types of people are growing in number because no one cares about them anymore. The more closed our society becomes, where we get more attached to our electronic devices and pets than other human beings, the more we're detaching ourselves from companionship, or detaching others from it. Our closed society is beginning to create a very lonely society. What's the solution? For starters, lets just be honest-if you're just looking for a fuck, say so-playing nice temporarily for a fuck is downright evil, and online dating makes it easy not to lie. If you can't have sex honestly, just do the world a favor and pay a prostitute. Beyond that, those of us looking for a companion can't give up. After all, you can't win if you don't play, so you'll have to endure a number of benefits of the doubt before the right partner comes along. I'm still an optimist, so I know that whatever any of us wants in life is out there-it's not always fun finding it, but finding it is so rewarding! |
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Thanks, Kalia. I wrote this a whole ago, and since then other online dating options have become available, and this site has grown less popular as a result.
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You are absolutely right! I think that societal constraints still make us keep a lot of our sexual secrets to ourselves, and only share them with like-minded people. Maybe that's just social etiquette, eh?  Thanks for reading!
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