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Beautiful Experience
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Beautiful Experience BEEEP! "Welcome to Dawn. You've just accessed The Beautiful Experience. This experience will cover: Courtship Sex Commitment Fetishes Loneliness Vindication Love & Hate Please enjoy your experience." - the NPG Operator's intro to the track, "The Most Beautiful Girl In The World" from the CD The Gold Experience, by the recording artist Prince, when he was known by the unpronounceable symbol, o+> The track was an instant classic. Prince, still in great form as an artist, singing about his appreciation and admiration of his woman's inner and outer beauty. But it was the intro that had a bigger impact in my life. Years ago a female co-worker named "Rita", who may or may not have liked me, asked me and a few others to go out to lunch with her when her sister came to pick her up. I'd spoken to her sister on a few of the occasions she called the job. But not being sure about what to expect, the two sisters wanted others besides me to come along so it didn't resemble an actual date. We left. We ate. We talked extensively. We got back to work late. Before quitting time, one of the few guys I worked with who was privy to the purpose of the luncheon asked how it went. I told him nothing was going to happen but we talked a great deal. He asked what we talked about. I thought for a second on how the conversation flowed and moved from one subject to another. And before I realized what I was saying, I said, "Courtship, sex, commitment." And hearing myself say those things in that order and thinking some more about our talk, I continued, "Fetishes, loneliness, vindication, love and hate." I stunned myself. She and I knew that we were being matched up but were intent on finding out if we were actually compatible. We amicably decided we weren't a good match by the time we completed our lengthy discussion because we covered those 8 subjects and honestly expressed ourselves in regard to each. I kept this epiphany to myself for some time, confident that it was a viable "tool" when looking for a prospective mate. Via thorough conversations on each subject, one can determine if they can get to "The Beautiful Experience" of a happy, healthy relationship. Look at the breakdown: Courtship - What is your idea of courtship? What activities do you engage in and at what point into the courtship do they escalate? Have both parties articulated their expectations of what constitutes courtship? Sex - Pretty much self explanatory but must be discussed freely and understanding must be assured. Dos and don'ts should be discussed. Commitment - What does that mean? Are rings or any other visual clues required? Extended vows taken? Chastity belts? Discuss how you define commitment. Fetishes - Again self explanatory but discussing ahead of time can save headaches and heartaches down the road. If blood-letting is your thing, then you must make sure it's OK with both of you (Mr. or Ms. "Right" is actually Mr./Ms. "Right-For-You" in case you didn't know). Loneliness - Assuming that you're both single at the time, you describe what you're missing, what you yearn for, and what you'll do to get it. Vindication - This is an important subject because here you make each other understand what having a special someone in your life means to you. It's best to express yourself selfishly. Explain why you deserve to be with someone and why you feel it should be the other person. What do you think makes it right for you two to be together. Love & Hate - Discussing the previous subjects give you opportunity to cover these last two but make sure you take it a little further. Offer your definitions. Give examples from your past. Explain what it takes to show it to you and what you do when you show it yourself. Another area where you may want to express yourself selfishly. When I met my wife, we talked on the phone for hours at a time, night after night after night. I kept reminding myself that these things (not in any particular order) had to be discussed, openly & honestly. I made sure we understood each other and that what we wanted, need, & expected from each other was acceptable to both parties. After a few months, we started actually dating. A few months later we got married. We love each other dearly because we know we belong together. A Beautiful Experience. "That's my opinion." - Supreme Speaker, @ 1974 "To each: His reach. And if I don't cop, it ain't mine to have." - George Clinton, @ 1975 "But what do I know? I don't know anything." - DeftDECouple "Guess Who's Back" - William Michael Griffin, Jr. @ 1997 |
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11/9/2009 10h47 |
omg....what a beautiful Post....I am going through a courtship at the moment and I know of what You speak of...a beautiful experience indeed....wishing You both happiness, love and belonging together! hugs TASTE LIFE IN ALL IT'S FLAVOUR
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