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Are my Morals Fucked?  

im_soaking_wet 40F
4262 messages
7/4/2015 1h50
Are my Morals Fucked?

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HappyChick43 52F  
1042 messages
7/4/2015 2h02

Tacky to say the least. All you can hope is karma comes around and bites her on the arse at some stage.


cyclingfool 62H  
6666 messages
7/4/2015 4h59

It is a slippery slope for both you and her. Based on your age I am guessing they are in their 50's?? If so they are young and have a long life to live and SHARE. I can only hope she didn't jump in to fast and she isn't after money, or to be a wedge between him and you and your siblings.
I've seen this play out in a positive way only once or twice and in a negative way a few times also..
If she has had this family relationship as long and strong as you lay out, I would think you could have a heart to heart with her at some point and get a better feel for her intentions?? But be careful...


DoctorBooty 43H
6426 messages
7/4/2015 5h46

Tough situation.

Would I approve of it? No, probably not. It would seem to me like a betrayal of my mother's trust.

I would have to put myself in the shoes of your dad, and try to imagine how much he's lost, and how heartbroken he is. In that case, if enough time has passed, I could see anyone trying to make him happy as a positive, and let him follow his own judgement on where things go with her. He may have similar issues with doing anything with her as you do. I'm assuming your parents were in love and it was a good marriage.

But as I recall it has not been all that long? if it hasn't then its rather crude of her.


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h40

    Citer HappyChick43:
    Tacky to say the least. All you can hope is karma comes around and bites her on the arse at some stage.
I didn't explain everything she's done thusfar, but let's just say it isn't pretty. Here karma karma karma lol


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h42

    Citer Buffman555:
    Yeah, this can go both ways, but mostly the way you are suggesting that there should be morals and ethics played into the situation. Wonder why she has to go for your dad when there are many men out there, has she been waiting for an opportunity to get together with him? So many questions and who knows what she might be thinking, good or bad. I agree with you, try the best you can to find him a wonderful woman who suits you and him both.
My dad... Without sounding weird - is a catch. From seeing the texts, was waiting for mom to pass away it's pretty cold....


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h43

    Citer Uberman57:
    You are placing the Blame on her but was it Initiated by your father? I see not reason why he should have to avoid her friends after she died. I don't care who dates anyone I have been with when I die. Life goes on a piece of your mother is with That lady maybe that is why he is choosing her. Anyway what is important is your Dads Happiness.
I've seen the correspondence and seen him struggle with what she's insinuating. She initiated and is continuing to push. He's uncomfortable with her advances, but doesn't know how to handle them


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h44

It's been less than a year....


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h48

You say it's wrong but don't give me a reason other than its not my concern. If you're going to debate a topic, please give me more information.

Unfortunately it is my concern when she is using me, my social media and unfortunate situations in our families lives - to better the intended relationship with him. Again, there's a significant amount of events that she's created that are inappropriate to say the least.


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h52

    Citer cyclingfool:
    It is a slippery slope for both you and her. Based on your age I am guessing they are in their 50's?? If so they are young and have a long life to live and SHARE. I can only hope she didn't jump in to fast and she isn't after money, or to be a wedge between him and you and your siblings.
    I've seen this play out in a positive way only once or twice and in a negative way a few times also..
    If she has had this family relationship as long and strong as you lay out, I would think you could have a heart to heart with her at some point and get a better feel for her intentions?? But be careful...
The problem is, the two negatives you posted, are real issues.

So you're rigut, it's a slippery slope


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h54

    Citer DoctorBooty:
    Tough situation.

    Would I approve of it? No, probably not. It would seem to me like a betrayal of my mother's trust.

    I would have to put myself in the shoes of your dad, and try to imagine how much he's lost, and how heartbroken he is. In that case, if enough time has passed, I could see anyone trying to make him happy as a positive, and let him follow his own judgement on where things go with her. He may have similar issues with doing anything with her as you do. I'm assuming your parents were in love and it was a good marriage.

    But as I recall it has not been all that long? if it hasn't then its rather crude of her.
Agreed. He isn't al that lost tho, which is nice. He's enjoying life right now.

But you are right, it has been less than a year. It's a little crude


im_soaking_wet 40F
1024 messages
7/4/2015 10h55

Lol you're right. Her and I had a conversation about who of her friends would make him happy and who she would be ok with. This woman, was not one of them


Mister_Blue66 41H
382 messages
7/4/2015 14h29

When my aunt died her kids all encouraged their dad to get back out there. None of them liked the lady he ended up with. Not because she was an old friend of the family (she was), but because it wasn't their mom. Rationally, it makes sense and my cousins don't want their dad alone. For their lives though it was always their mom and dad so seeing someone, anyone, touching their dad the way that their mom did felt wrong.

I can't speak to your morals, but I do understand where you're coming from


DoctorBooty 43H
6426 messages
7/4/2015 17h43

    Citer im_soaking_wet:
    Lol you're right. Her and I had a conversation about who of her friends would make him happy and who she would be ok with. This woman, was not one of them
Well that would pretty much seal it for me.


willlawson6549 58H
8 messages
8/4/2015 16h15

AWESOME...


richierich1940 84H
83 messages
14/4/2015 15h39

You are right to protect him if he is unhappy with advances from her. But he should chose. Every sound source I find says men that have had a good relationship and like companionship will and should seek it again. We are the weaker sex. Quite often who the spouse would chose is not what the Husbands wants or needs. Don't be angry with Dad for not wanting to be alone. Be happy someone wants him


sam_sybian 59H
638 messages
22/4/2015 20h23

There are some lines you just don't cross. I would find it disrespectful to your mother, so yes I think you are right.


SkinOnSkin_n_Sin 52H
578 messages
15/5/2015 23h48

Your mom's 'friend' is a cunt and needs to be informed of that fact. IMO.


hunterpt 62H
13507 messages
16/11/2015 6h17

Though situation, but i think you have a point there. Kisses


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