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Your Opinion - Boys & Their Toys  

GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1810 messages
13/9/2018 10h27
Your Opinion - Boys & Their Toys

Boys and Their Toys (and other fancy things)

I had a male friend who had a profile on a more vanilla site at one time and he had posted some pics of his “toys”.

I am curious as to your opinions of this...Do you think it is a good idea and will attract a woman to him? Or do you think it is a bad idea?

Obviously we are all free to have our profiles the way we want them and free to post on them anything we think may “help” the cause...lol

Personally my opinion would be that it smacks a little of a desperate man - hoping that his “toys” will help him get a woman….when all else fails.

I also think that it may attract a woman for all the wrong reasons. Men seem to complain that some women look at them as a “sugar daddy”, and it seems to me that this would certainly be the reason in a case such as this.

Do men really want a superficial...materialistic woman? Are some so desperate and dare I say pathetic (in my opinion) that they would resort to something like this?

Hey...if you're lucky enough to have nice things....great! But maybe get a woman on WHO you are first, and then let her see WHAT you have?

What do you think?






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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 10h31

Just my opinion.....to attract someone to you in that way....you'll never really know if it's YOU....or the STUFF! Maybe they don't care?

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


Nimothy777 67H

13/9/2018 11h12

I hear you Lady! For me I want to know it is me. But, I also know a bunch of guys who just want the sex. It is the old reality, "men give affection for sex, women give sex for love." I know many a guy that is that way. Me, I know that I am in the minority.


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 messages
13/9/2018 11h29

I have to agree with you as I don't think showing toys is a good idea comes across to me at least as kind of desperate and they have a hard time getting a woman.

But this is just my opinion, as I feel a man who will take the time and talk to a lady getting to know her and having a sense of humor is so much more important than the things they have!!! I hope you have a great day hun..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


redrockrascal 65H
23580 messages
13/9/2018 11h42

I've read a number of profiles on PoF where the woman posts pics of their cars or motorcycles and their interest in cars/bikes is written about. If there is to be common interests and someone is a "car guy" or girl it would be fairly relevant info.

I have also seen a couple women here do the same.

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 11h54

    Citer Nimothy777:
    I hear you Lady! For me I want to know it is me. But, I also know a bunch of guys who just want the sex. It is the old reality, "men give affection for sex, women give sex for love." I know many a guy that is that way. Me, I know that I am in the minority.
Glad you are in the minority!

I want to know as well that someone wants me for me, not what I may have.

I want someone for the right reasons, not the wrong ones.

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 11h57

    Citer Tmptrzz:
    I have to agree with you as I don't think showing toys is a good idea comes across to me at least as kind of desperate and they have a hard time getting a woman.

    But this is just my opinion, as I feel a man who will take the time and talk to a lady getting to know her and having a sense of humor is so much more important than the things they have!!! I hope you have a great day hun..
I'd rather know someone is interested in me...the person - than the material things I may have.

I agree with you - a sense of humor, honesty, personal integrity are more important than the material things someone has. But that's just me!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


mikelookin2 53H

13/9/2018 12h01

People should be attracted to the real person, the mind, the wit, the soul, the intellect, even the physical. Stuff can come and go, so toys are just that, toys.


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 12h04

    Citer redrockrascal:
    I've read a number of profiles on PoF where the woman posts pics of their cars or motorcycles and their interest in cars/bikes is written about. If there is to be common interests and someone is a "car guy" or girl it would be fairly relevant info.

    I have also seen a couple women here do the same.
I'm sure it works both ways...I am not interested in women (in a romantic or sexual way) so I don't generally look at their profiles all the time, but I'm sure some may post their "toys" as well.

My opinion would still remain the same though....more for show of what you have - than who you are. Perhaps it's the same...the only way they can get interest.

I'm not saying that (common) interests aren't relevant....but perhaps better to be shared in the getting to know phase, as opposed to the possible "reason" for getting to know.

I did not mean to discriminate in the post, so sorry if it came off that way...

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 12h10

    Citer mikelookin2:
    People should be attracted to the real person, the mind, the wit, the soul, the intellect, even the physical. Stuff can come and go, so toys are just that, toys.
Exactly! To me those things you mentioned are more important!

I was with a guy that had nice things like I pictured, but it didn't matter. I found out about those things much later. They were never the reason I was with him (and I'm not now).

To be with someone for the things they have seems materialistic and shallow....but that's just my opinion.

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


pocogato12 71F  
37235 messages
13/9/2018 12h22

Frankly, pictures of his toys whether they are cars, cycles, or sexual toys have very little appeal to me- kinda in the same realm as dick pics. They show me no reality as to who the man really is

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Owatalife 67H
1711 messages
13/9/2018 12h39

Gold Diggers are not hard to find so your pal will no doubt get plenty of responses for all the wrong reasons though.


ItsThtPervertGuy 44H
484 messages
13/9/2018 12h44

OOOps. At first I thought you meant sex toys! Guess I have to tone the pervert down at times!!

But this is a good question. I not only think no believe it shows desperation (allot) but also makes you seem to be 1. A sugar daddy. Superficial and quite boastful and a target as you never know who are on these site looking to set someone up. I think more older Men have a habit of doing what you are saying as a way too attract younger Woman!!

Just be yourself and try not to over reach. You don't want end up tied up with a gag on ( not in a good way) with guns in your face asking where is the money!! (Seen something that on one of those lifetime movies this past Sunday!! Yes I watch Women's tv stations! Some really good movies!! )


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 12h44

    Citer pocogato12:
    Frankly, pictures of his toys whether they are cars, cycles, or sexual toys have very little appeal to me- kinda in the same realm as dick pics. They show me no reality as to who the man really is
Same here....it just makes me feel almost like they are trying to "buy" you (a woman) in a way.

I'm also a firm believer in dick pics being insignificant - they don't tell who the man is, what he has inside of him...who he is! THAT is much more important than the size of his dick!

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 12h47

    Citer Owatalife:
    Gold Diggers are not hard to find so your pal will no doubt get plenty of responses for all the wrong reasons though.
Exactly.....and if that's what he should want....then good luck on anything of quality or substance.

Even just for sex....it is pretty pathetic in my book...but that's just me I suppose.

Be Honest..Be Sincere...Be REAL


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
13/9/2018 12h53

    Citer ItsThtPervertGuy:
    OOOps. At first I thought you meant sex toys! Guess I have to tone the pervert down at times!!

    But this is a good question. I not only think no believe it shows desperation (allot) but also makes you seem to be 1. A sugar daddy. Superficial and quite boastful and a target as you never know who are on these site looking to set someone up. I think more older Men have a habit of doing what you are saying as a way too attract younger Woman!!

    Just be yourself and try not to over reach. You don't want end up tied up with a gag on ( not in a good way) with guns in your face asking where is the money!! (Seen something that on one of those lifetime movies this past Sunday!! Yes I watch Women's tv stations! Some really good movies!! )
LOL.....even the sex toys should be reserved for a little later....lol

I agree...desperate...boastful and downright stupid are correct words to use. I also agree at times it is older men (this friend is) that may use this "tactic"...whether it is aimed at attracting younger or just anyone - could go either way.

You make some good points about possible motives for a woman going for a man like that. YIKES.....robbery - I hadn't thought of that one...lol

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Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
13/9/2018 14h44

I get grief at times about my truck. I refuse to get rid of it. I love that truck.

But it's also something that's held over from when I used to do Estate Tax Planning. I had a client that was worth over 40 million. He drove a old truck, dressed in old jeans. You'd never guess he was wealthy, I asked him once why he didn't just get a new truck. He said, why? This one still runs.

These days, I'm sorta the same way, except I don't have his millions. haha. But sure I could just go buy another truck, but why? This one is just fine, and did I mention, I love that truck.

It's also been a great qualifier for me. if someone doesn't like me because they don't like my truck, then they're probably not just interested in me.

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Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
13/9/2018 16h53

Well duh, it's a Ford. Is there really any other real truck?

" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


let_me_see1 64H

14/9/2018 7h35

As others have said, yes, I thought at first you meant sex toys. And who needs toys to have fun in bed, right? LOL

But I think there is another perspective on the issue of having and bragging that you have something nice and expensive. If a person thinks that much of their toys that they need to make it an advertised item here or on other dating sites, how much time will they have for me in their life? I have seen women post pics with their Harley's and pools and at extravagant vacation spots. Those are all nice, but will they be more interested in those things than a partner? Time is an investment of life into something you love. So, I am not keen on the car pics and pics of the seven dogs that someone rescued. Ok, that is my two cents! LOL

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
14/9/2018 10h03

    Citer Platosgames:
    I get grief at times about my truck. I refuse to get rid of it. I love that truck.

    But it's also something that's held over from when I used to do Estate Tax Planning. I had a client that was worth over 40 million. He drove a old truck, dressed in old jeans. You'd never guess he was wealthy, I asked him once why he didn't just get a new truck. He said, why? This one still runs.

    These days, I'm sorta the same way, except I don't have his millions. haha. But sure I could just go buy another truck, but why? This one is just fine, and did I mention, I love that truck.

    It's also been a great qualifier for me. if someone doesn't like me because they don't like my truck, then they're probably not just interested in me.
Ahhhhhh....but you don't have pics of that truck on your profile! I looked....lol

Btw.....I love your profile, well written and funny!

It's not a man having the toys, hey more power to him if he can afford them....unless he came from money (again - good for him)...he probably worked hard to get and afford them.

it's the using of them as an "enticement" on a profile that is what I find somewhat distasteful! The only thing more distasteful is a woman that would decide to fuck the man because of his toys, or what she hopes to get from him!

Thanks for your comment to my post

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
14/9/2018 10h14

LOL....I can be a perv too and God knows I love me a good sex toy...hahaha!

I absolutely agree that a man posting pics of his expensive toys is most likely to attract the "gold diggers" of the world out there. Hey...if he wants a woman that only wants him for his $$$....then he's just looking for a shallow and materialistic person, not a woman of substance. He deserves what he may get....

To me the toys would be a nice perk, don't get me wrong....but they are not in the least what is important to me! I want the WHO a man is....(hopefully - caring-honest-funny and possessing integrity) not WHAT the man has!

Had a man who had nice things.....but he lied to me and lost my trust!

Shame on him.....his nice things did nothing for him with me, he lost a decent woman...oh well!

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
14/9/2018 10h20

Damn straight Joy.....they do nothing for me either and don't impress me!

I imagine if he's posting those kinds of pics and has half a brain - he knows what he's going to attract, and that must be what he's looking for!

A real woman would probably intimidate him....

Glad you liked the post....thanks for saying

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
14/9/2018 10h21

Yep.....good example! And I'm sure there are tons more......lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
14/9/2018 10h30

    Citer let_me_see1:
    As others have said, yes, I thought at first you meant sex toys. And who needs toys to have fun in bed, right? LOL

    But I think there is another perspective on the issue of having and bragging that you have something nice and expensive. If a person thinks that much of their toys that they need to make it an advertised item here or on other dating sites, how much time will they have for me in their life? I have seen women post pics with their Harley's and pools and at extravagant vacation spots. Those are all nice, but will they be more interested in those things than a partner? Time is an investment of life into something you love. So, I am not keen on the car pics and pics of the seven dogs that someone rescued. Ok, that is my two cents! LOL
Ohhhh.....those kinds of toys can have their place in bed.....lol

Hmmmmm.....you introduce another side to it that I hadn't thought of!

I can't stand a braggart.....so someone posting pics like that would send up a red flag for me anyway. Not that they have those nice things, so much as clearly those are the things in life that are so important to them - that where do I then fit in? So I agree with you......

Someone like that tends to be shallow and superficial.....self absorbed and usually not really a giving person!

No thanks......lol

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Paulxx001 66H
22642 messages
14/9/2018 12h02

I think that men... Really.... Don't... Give a shit - except for those that do... and they're faking it... Lol ok.. Not all men. I'd love that Merc btw. I have absolutely nothing to offer, except a home that's paid for and a cook who's willing to share a smile or two with a member of the opposite sex.. Omg sex? Eeee... Lol. I'm low key.... Under promise and over deliver. Cooking is not the only game that I play. Each man has his own strategy. Does it lead to a warm and wet and safe place? Ooooo.. I'll leave now...


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
14/9/2018 15h39

    Citer Paulxx001:
    I think that men... Really.... Don't... Give a shit - except for those that do... and they're faking it... Lol ok.. Not all men. I'd love that Merc btw. I have absolutely nothing to offer, except a home that's paid for and a cook who's willing to share a smile or two with a member of the opposite sex.. Omg sex? Eeee... Lol. I'm low key.... Under promise and over deliver. Cooking is not the only game that I play. Each man has his own strategy. Does it lead to a warm and wet and safe place? Ooooo.. I'll leave now...
You're most likely correct. Most are just happy to get laid and they care not much for the how or why it happens. Just that it does. I suppose that saddens me a little honestly.

I guess I'm a dreamer, or perhaps just delusional, and hope that there are some that actually care to have a woman want them for who they are.

My last lover was more interested in how wet I got and how many times I came...with the focus on my "nether regions".......not the fact that she foolishly cared for him, and was a decent, honest woman.....who possessed personal integrity.

Yikes.....that got all deep and heavy.....sorry......lol

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Paulxx001 66H
22642 messages
14/9/2018 16h55

The advantage of commenting last, is that I get to read everyone else's comments and your replies. My gosh, you're deep and so serious, considering it is a Friday! Would you like to join me in a glass of wine? Some men AND some women, play THATgame. The trick is, to find out early - what game they are playing. Yep... It's tough to figure out. Like I said.... Show nothing and surprise them.... Just like BBQ ribs.... Low and slow.... Low.... and ... slow... Best of luck dear...!


virginguy4woman2 41H

18/9/2018 15h37

hmmm


TrucknLuvn 59H/41F  
1622 messages
22/9/2018 22h15

I have yet to be impressed by any guy that tries to use his "penis on wheels" sports car as a selling point with the ladies.

Wow. He has a car. I have one too. I prefer personality over possessions.

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
23/9/2018 18h32

    Citer TrucknLuvn:
    I have yet to be impressed by any guy that tries to use his "penis on wheels" sports car as a selling point with the ladies.

    Wow. He has a car. I have one too. I prefer personality over possessions.
LOL.....I like that: "penis on wheels"

Funny because that's exactly what it is when you think about it.

The only women they are getting with it are most likely not worth having, because they are shallow and out for what they think the guy will provide for them.

I agree 100% that there are other facets to a man much more important and attractive than his fancy "stuff".

Some men don't care as long as they get any piece of ass.....

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
23/9/2018 18h34

LOL....thanks for your opinion

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alohashirt50 73H

8/10/2018 7h51

all my toys are for me, not to attract a woman,


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
10/10/2018 5h57

    Citer alohashirt50:
    all my toys are for me, not to attract a woman,
I'm sure they are....but I'm just saying that men that post pics of their toys to get a woman's interest could be asking for trouble.

Nice toys could equate a man with some money, and she could want to divest you of some.....lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
10/10/2018 5h59

Well then if a woman chooses you - she is strictly choosing you - for you....not what you can buy for her because of a perceived wealth.

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astute2r3 68H

12/10/2018 11h32

Do enjoy the toys, but they are not advertised nor used to attract. They are just enjoyed by me . I would imagine that "some boys" just enjoy their toys in the same way that "some women" enjoy their toys too. I have noticed that some women have "Boy Toys", which kind of redefines "Boys and their Toys" all together.


champ3702 54H

12/10/2018 22h11

My 73 vet got me play back inn the day, miss that car,lol


GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
23/10/2018 11h25

    Citer astute2r3:
    Do enjoy the toys, but they are not advertised nor used to attract. They are just enjoyed by me . I would imagine that "some boys" just enjoy their toys in the same way that "some women" enjoy their toys too. I have noticed that some women have "Boy Toys", which kind of redefines "Boys and their Toys" all together.
Nothing wrong with enjoying your toys....and nothing wrong with enjoying your toys with a lady. Just using them to "attract" someone or try to impress someone is what I speak of.

But ultimately it is someone's choice to do what they want.

I personally would want someone to want or be attracted to me - for me, not the possessions I have.

LOL.....yes some women have boy toys...it is not my thing. I like mature gentlemen

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
23/10/2018 11h29

    Citer champ3702:
    My 73 vet got me play back inn the day, miss that car,lol
I'm sure it did.....and it's always a personal choice to use fancy enticements to impress or lure in a prospective playmate.

For me though....I would prefer to know that it's me that is the enticement...not my possessions!

Hmmmm....perhaps you could get a fancy new vette? They're pretty cool looking....lol

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GreenEyedLady_60 63F
1925 messages
26/12/2018 12h45

Your toy seems to be a part of your blog, not meant so much to entice a woman to date you. I could be wrong.....lol

There are some men who post the toy pics who are clearly trying to show their ownership of nice things to convince women they are successful or well off.

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Likes2use 42H/40F
18 messages
1/8/2019 18h12

we think its the only way they can or think they can get a woman. neither of us are materialistic nor are we attracted to such people. we do like nice things but weork hard for what we have and dont feel as if we need to show off anything (except our sex lives, we love to show that off lol) but hey to each is own and all that.


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