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Today's topic? How did you NOT see that coming??
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Today's topic? How did you NOT see that coming?? I in my office yesterday when one of the employees appeared in my door, crying, holding a doctors note. "[Employee].... Are you ok?" "I'm depressed. I have so much going on right now, I'm having to shell out so much , my doctor says I'm depressed...." She went on to tell me she hadn't been able to sleep or eat and cried the whole time. Had this not been the third employee to show up in my office and cry today, I might have actually felt a something.... Maybe not. This particular employee is a 63 year old woman who had married a 23 year old mail order husband from Tibet. What's causing her depression? You guessed it! As soon as he became an American Citizen he filed for divorce. I sometimes wonder how the rest of the world can see something coming but the people in the moment cannot. This particular woman *looks* like a 63 year old woman with all the aches and pains that come along with being 63. This particular man is a 23 year old man with all the needs and urges that come along with being 23. I'm just going to be honest here.... The woman with the coke bottle glasses who just had bunion surgery on both feet is probably not satisfying those needs and urges. He used her for citizenship. Boss #2 had been in her office and overheard part of the conversation and came over to help me out. Thank God.... Cause my 'Give A Shit' had given out. I sat and listened as she poured her heart out, and really did try to empathize.... But inwardly I kept thinking, you HAD to have seen this coming. There HAD to have been signs and indicators that he not fully committed to this relationship. You HAD to have known, but chose not to see it. I think I would have felt differently if the situation had been different. What if he had already been an American citizen, would it have made a difference? I'm going to say yes. If they had met organically and there no lure of a better life in America, I would have been more apt to believe there a heartfelt foundation to that relationship, age difference and all. I'm definitely not one to judge age difference. My ex husband years older than I . We met organically though, and spent years together.... There is one aspect to this whole situation that does pull at my heartstrings. And, that's the aspect that I think she genuinely did commit herself to him. She put her heart into the relationship only to have it crushed when she no longer needed. Having experienced heartbreak of my own, I can't help but feel compassion for that. Such is life.... Happy Friday! |
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I saw problems with my first wife right away but chose to ignore them and put up with a lot for 4 yrs. Right now, there are a couple of women that are talking to me and I'm sure that 27 year old is really into me. LOL. Again, I see flags, but taking my time, because the 37 year old, seems to be more sincere, at least she hasn't flooded my phone with naked pics. Meeting organically can be difficult especially when you're an introvert like me, but there are those smooth talkers on both sides of the spectrum.
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Most resolutions are broken in the first fourteen to twenty eight days. Everyone gets a second chance today. It's Cristian Orthodox ☦ New Year's Day 🎉 🌹 What does THIS have to do with that poor lady? Fuck all, but it was a sad story. Cheers 🍷 🍷 to twenty twenty-two... again. 🍌🎉❤️🍷🍷😎❗❗
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This happened to a friend of mone. As an older woman she met a young man in the Gambia on holiday there. She eventually married him; he moved here in the UK and promptly walked out on her. It's difficult to blame either; she was convinced he loved her and he saw her as a way out of poverty. 
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I know someone who did the same thing. She is well educated and everything. Met some guy from Kenya online and couldn't stop talking about him and how they were going to marry, albeit they had yet to meet in person. She flies over there to meet and bring him home, haven't seen her happy ever since.
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I usually don't put those rose-colored glasses on until after the wooing is over and I'm invested. Once the real personality starts to emerge and they aren't on their best behavior anymore... I over look what I don't care for and remember the stuff I liked in the beginning.
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You cant fix stupid. Maybe she can get a refund. 😏
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Here's your sign!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Some people just have to much faith in other. She had to very lone and he promised the world so he could get what he wanted . His day will come carma that for sure maybe covid or cancer. She may learn but who knows. People get taken every day in some way of another.
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You have GOT to wonder what was going through her mind. We KNOW what was going through his! But it is still tragic that she fell for something like that. Loneliness can do that to a person though. 
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They say love is blind, they didn't mention it was sometimes stupid, too.
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It can be hard enough to gauge the sincerity of a person when you are wooing face to face. On-line it can be impossible. I think a lot of people know this in their heads but loneliness can make what may have knowingly started as a fantasy seem like it is real. I wonder how many people who got scammed on line are the type who have problems with meeting people in person. (That is before Covid. Now it is hard to meet people in person.) If you see me in the real world, come say "Hi Justskin." I always behave. Preferably not well. 
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Ms. secret_lade, All I can say is Wow. I saw the very same thing back when I was in the service, except the guys had meet the ladies organically while overseas. I have even had something close to this happen, but I saw the red flags. I mean what young, beautiful, unattached woman is going to fall for a man old enough to be her grandfather. Granted the attention is flattering, however many times it is just a come on. Sorry your co worker got had, but the signs were there.
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They say love is blind, they didn't mention it was sometimes stupid, too.
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I think she was just probably very lonely and when he took an interest in her she fell hook line and sinker. I wonder if she has any children and if so did they try to talk her out of it? At least she wasn't cat fished and taken for a lot of money. It does make me wonder if she could report him and let the government look into it and possibly strip or deport him for fraud. I have no problems with an age difference but 38 years of an age difference would make me wonder.
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You have GOT to wonder what was going through her mind. We KNOW what was going through his! But it is still tragic that she fell for something like that. Loneliness can do that to a person though. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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You have to feel for her, but gullible women are easy pray for monsters like that.
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You have to feel for her, but gullible women are easy pray for monsters like that.
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I think she was just probably very lonely and when he took an interest in her she fell hook line and sinker. I wonder if she has any children and if so did they try to talk her out of it? At least she wasn't cat fished and taken for a lot of money. It does make me wonder if she could report him and let the government look into it and possibly strip or deport him for fraud. I have no problems with an age difference but 38 years of an age difference would make me wonder. We have two lives, and the second begins when we realise we have only one - Confucious
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Some people just have to much faith in other. She had to very lone and he promised the world so he could get what he wanted . His day will come carma that for sure maybe covid or cancer. She may learn but who knows. People get taken every day in some way of another.
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Here's your sign!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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You cant fix stupid. Maybe she can get a refund. 😏
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I know someone who did the same thing. She is well educated and everything. Met some guy from Kenya online and couldn't stop talking about him and how they were going to marry, albeit they had yet to meet in person. She flies over there to meet and bring him home, haven't seen her happy ever since.
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This happened to a friend of mone. As an older woman she met a young man in the Gambia on holiday there. She eventually married him; he moved here in the UK and promptly walked out on her. It's difficult to blame either; she was convinced he loved her and he saw her as a way out of poverty.
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Most resolutions are broken in the first fourteen to twenty eight days. Everyone gets a second chance today. It's Cristian Orthodox ☦ New Year's Day 🎉 🌹 What does THIS have to do with that poor lady? Fuck all, but it was a sad story. Cheers 🍷 🍷 to twenty twenty-two... again. 🍌🎉❤️🍷🍷😎❗❗ ... is there another way to look at it Going Too Fucking Far NEW Blog Features RevealeD O O A Foolproof Method Posted Over on that NEW site O O
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I saw problems with my first wife right away but chose to ignore them and put up with a lot for 4 yrs. Right now, there are a couple of women that are talking to me and I'm sure that 27 year old is really into me. LOL. Again, I see flags, but taking my time, because the 37 year old, seems to be more sincere, at least she hasn't flooded my phone with naked pics. Meeting organically can be difficult especially when you're an introvert like me, but there are those smooth talkers on both sides of the spectrum.
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