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There is no such thing as Not Playing The Game
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There is no such thing as Not Playing The Game . This can go in either extreme. Some guys are way too passive and polite. They hear all the outlandish stuff guys do online, and in a misguided effort to differentiate themselves just can't ever seem to get a conversation onto anything exciting. Other guys seem to have the attitude of “You’re a horny gal, I’m a horny guy, what’s left to discuss? Let’s do this.” Instead of flirting and conversing and cultivating interest, this is often a line that’s used to justify skipping critical steps in the process and jumping straight into getting naked together. My guess it is that people who are doing this think it portrays a certain confidence or machismo by being above it all. It doesn’t. Whether you want to call it the Mating Ritual, the Mating Dance, the Art of Seduction, or simply The Game, you simply cannot opt to not play. So you better learn to play it well. And yes, it is a game. There are winners. There are losers. There are rules. There is a field of play. Otherwise, you’re in the Game even if it’s against your will. However, I don’t believe for a second it is against your will. You joined the site, didn’t you? You filled out a profile, didn’t you? You took obnoxious pictures of your dick, didn’t you? Explain to me again how you’re somehow NOT playing the game… Don’t try to pretend that you’re somehow above it all. So what is the Game exactly? The Game is about building sexual tension. It is about simultaneously getting to know her, and still having enough finesse to signal sexual interest. Either one in isolation results in rejection. The correct amount of both is the objective. Be less focused on the goal, and more focused on the journey. Each stage of a budding relationship is exciting in its own unique way. The end-game of sex, while arguably the most enjoyable, is still only one of many things to savor in a relationship. Her: What are you looking for here? Always a good sign when the woman asks this question, but you’re not out of the woods yet, there are plenty of ways to blow this You: Just seeing what trouble I can find for myself Her: I’m all kinds of trouble! You: I only have your word to take for it. How can we put this to the test? Her: You have something in mind? This is the critical question in the entire conversation. She’s clearly expressing interest and inviting you to up the ante. So how do you play this game? Let's analyze the options as to what to say next... Option A: Don’t blow it here! Resist the urge! Play it safe! You: I’m sure you can think of something Option B: This is my chance to get nude pics out of her, SCORE! You: Find a cucumber, stick it in your twat, snap a few pics of it and send it to me Option C: I know what I want, she knows what she wants, why pretend otherwise? You: Get your fine ass over here so I can bang the hell out of that pretty little pussy of yours Option D: Hey, she’s opening the door for it, push those boundaries and see what happens! You: Hmm … let’s see … how about you take your panties off, put them down next to you, and take a picture of them so I know they’re off Here’s the thing about these options, the wording doesn’t matter! Even if you worded your request for nude pics a bit more tactfully, you’d ultimately get the same response. A polite way of inviting her over will work no better than an obnoxious suggestion. While the wording of the response would naturally also change to match the level of tact used in the question, ultimately both are conversational dead ends. Option A is playing it too safe. You’re being Mr. Nice Guy. Nice Guys are safe and trustworthy, but those attributes are hardly panty-droppers. Remember, she wants to be a slutty bad-girl, that’s why she’s here! She just needs you to draw it out of her. You’re never going to win if you don’t play the game. Option D is the clear winner. It is suggestive (very suggestive), but not sleazy. This takes the conversation in the direction you want it to go without trying to by-pass the entire game in the process. As the conversation progresses, she might be induced to take increasingly trashier pics of herself (yay!). She’ll get there, but not all in one step. It advances the game at the appropriate pace. A conversation like that is FUN. I’d give my right arm to be in more conversations like that. Instead, all I ever seem to get is Mr. Play It Safe and get boring conversations. Or I get Mr. Let Me Pound Your Pussy Until It Hurts who doesn’t say anything other than “Got any nude pics?” and “Let’s meet.” Don’t be either of those extremes. Learn to play the Game and learn to play it well. One final thought: For those of you who think this is all a waste of time, there IS a way of not playing the game and still being successful. It is called hiring an escort. Something to think about for those of you who want to be above it all. |
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Another excellent read. Not anything earthshattering to say really mainly just trying to up the traffic for you. But I would like to add that only most of my cock shots are obnoxious ; ) " The answer is there. But there is not a fixed position" my blog
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I could spam the blog list with mind numbing insanity with such titles as "Don't you just love a nice [whatever]" and dare everyone to tell me I'm not adding something to blogland. As if random internet porn isn't ubiquitous enough that it has to flood the blogs. In fact, I'm offended that my blog has to be pushed down the list into oblivion because some idiot feels their nonsense merits 12 posts in 6 minutes. (one of these days I'll make all that a post onto itself) -------------------------------- I know what you mean. I got tired of those unoriginal post titles myself. Don39t ya just love original post titles Or not
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I'm curious, how are you defining "game"? I think you are spot on with the idea that we look all look for different things, woman's rude pig is another's Casanova. I tend to think of the process as a gradual, mutual self disclosure. Each step along the way, both people are assessing if the other is someone they are interested in.
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I enjoy these blogs on this specific theme of late; you give enough examples of lazy and weak male offings in the hypothetical conversations, as well as the pitfalls of mindless crudity which can never seduce a woman There is no excuse for men who read this kind of blog to then keep being as dull as dishwater Even better is that yousee through the fawning 'feminist' men and the ballbusting coven of witches on here
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Oh and one more thing I forgot hun there is a phrase about playing the game. And it goes like this "Don't hate the players, hate the game, but if your going to play the game learn to play it right"!!! Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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Oh this is well stated, thank you so much hun for this blog. Some of the men here don't understand how much the art of Seduction would help them in getting a lady here on the site interested in him. This used to be not the case here, but as years have passed here less men have the skills in order to Seduce us ladies and for one I miss it a LOT.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..
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Thank you my dear, I've never heard it said so well. I've been both of those extreems. while between my two marriges, I was seeing six different women. I was winning the game. Then, after thirty three years of being happily married, and sex having dried up at home, I have become that passive guy. Don't know if it is because I'm happily married or operating out of fear of being caught on here???
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If you're going to play, might as well play to win
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& yes, the art of seduction is truly an art. All women, deep down ,want to be a naughty little slut. The key for men is pushing the right buttons, at the right times... a little bit of bad boy, mixed with the right amount or Mr. Chivalry, will almost always yield the desired result. Good news gentlemen, this is something that can be learned...
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Show me a man who doesn't understand this and I'll show you a man whose not getting laid... Whether it's this site, or out in public, women & men game each other all the time... The why some men are known as "players", they have essentially mastered the "game"...
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very nice
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If you're going to play, might as well play to win
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