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what do i do?  

dpguy1957 67H  
9 messages
17/11/2019 19h38
what do i do?


I have a dilemna which i hope you all can advise .

while doing a search in the area i live, i came upon a profile from the next town over from me. i open it up and it's a pic of a from my church (non-denominational) . she's a lot than but we are pretty friendly, i've often told her she was the most beautiful woman in the congregation. she would always smile then blush. and would always give a hug (with usual reaction of movement from me.lol) .

suffice to say, i sent a flirt, and also a message which because she's a standard member so i dont think she can read.

do i approach her and tactfully tell her i saw her profile. but how do i do it tactfully? or do i do absolutely nothing and hope my lust for her will pass?

advise is desperately needed, especially from women. thanks!!!

dpguy1957 67H  
501 messages
17/11/2019 19h42

help is needed


jajo696 113F
4287 messages
18/11/2019 1h32

If you are both free and available, since you belong to the same congregation. Ask her for an outing while at church. That is when u decide or not, to bring up your mutual membership here.
If you both are attached in some way, i would not approach and admire her from afar.

Just think of all the ' what ifs' before making any move. Good Luck ~~


picturefriendly 81H

18/11/2019 2h41

I would never approach her in person. She might be on passion for something discrete . If you are able to check out her whole profile then you being a gold member maybe see if you might be close to what she is looking for. If your not just leave it alone . If she is really on looking for sex well make sure its her. Profiles can be fake so make sure she is her. Approaching someone from your church can be something you need to be careful as the wrong move could destroy her and her family if she was found out by someone she might not like. Good luck with this.


Heathen_G 65H
7974 messages
18/11/2019 4h27

i've often told her she was the most beautiful woman in the congregation. .... You don't want to do that when you see beautiful women, because that goes to her head. Often the woman thinks, "Well if this guy thinks I'm beautiful, I'm sure I can attract other better looking men".

suffice to say, i sent a flirt, and also a message which because she's a standard member so i dont think she can read. ... She can't read it...

do i approach her and tell her i saw her profile. .... Yes. Understand this: She knows, very well, what kind of site this is.

but how do i do it tactfully?.... You don't! ... That would likely turn her off if you did try tact.. You want the woman excited about you.... not looking at you like you are her brother catching her doing a nasty.


or do i do absolutely nothing and hope my lust for her will pass? .... Fuck no! You man up, you approach her and you tell her you are also on passion... and see where it goes from there. Don't be shy. That would turn her off.

I promise you, if you just let this pass, for the rest of your life you will be wondering , "What if".
She's a church girl. She wants a man to be a man. .... I'f I'm wrong, [I'm not]..well HEY.... chickening out of this was on your mind anyway. But now you know.


dpguy1957 67H  
501 messages
18/11/2019 6h09

thanks for your replies. maybe i should just practicesome patience and give it some time to develop on its own rahter than force any issue. wish me luck


Heathen_G 65H
7974 messages
19/11/2019 12h54

    Citer dpguy1957:
    thanks for your replies. maybe i should just practicesome patience and give it some time to develop on its own rahter than force any issue. wish me luck
Give what some time to develop? Patience for what?

You're here, she's here... what's the matter with you.... you think she's hot, she's on a sex site, step up and see what happens.


dpguy1957 67H  
501 messages
19/11/2019 11h58

    Citer Heathen_G:
    Give what some time to develop? Patience for what?

    You're here, she's here... what's the matter with you.... you think she's hot, she's on a sex site, step up and see what happens.
I am friends with this woman


Heathen_G 65H
7974 messages
20/11/2019 4h46

So you're saying she doesn't want to have sex with you, because that would ruin the friendship?

Or are you saying if you have sex with her , you're scared that will ruin the friendship?

"I am friends with this woman". So what? You're both on a sex site. Maybe now you can be FwB.


dpguy1957 replies on 4/2/2020 19h15:
finally took your advice and spoke with the church girl. chatted for about ten minutes when i just asked her if the ad was hers. she gave the surprised look and denied it so i mentioned maybe someone hacked her and placed the add. (gave her an out). she then asked me why i was on the site, i told her we all have character defects than come to the surface. when i got home about two hrs later and signed on here it showed her online. of course because shes a standard memeber i couldnt IM her, but i did send some points her way. the ball is in her court, so who knows what the heck will happen.

secret_lade 49F
9227 messages
10/1/2020 22h01

I've had this happen to me before.... I very much appreciated the tactfulness of my friend. In my case, he started by telling me he had been reading my blog and was interested in taking me to dinner. I knew immediately he meant my blog here.


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