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First Time Meeting How come some many guys act so stupid when meeting a couple for drinks for the first time? During our online chats my husband and I tell the guy that meeting for drinks is exactly what it is and nothing is going to happen, its a ice breaker for us. Well when we arrive at a local bar or club we enjoy each others company having a few drinks, chatting about our jobs, what we enjoy and even family life. Of course there's some flirting which is great because I believe that's a sign of feeling comfortable with everyone involved but then the guy will act stupid and start trying to push our fun get to know each other moment to what we had discussed prior to meeting was not going to happen at our first meeting. To me this is such a turn off, we had discussed this before setting up the first meeting but these guys just think they can make something happen. We have met a few guys and everything was great and we even set up a 2nd meeting which turned out to be amazing. All I am saying is guys take a moment and let things progress so everyone is comfortable, it's not that easy for me and I think some other wives to be another man after being married to someone for more than 20 years, I enjoy the new lifestyle but I also like being treated like a woman and receiving others attention.  |
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I know exactly what you mean I thought that we had talked about what was going to happen and if you just relax it will happen no need to be so anxious about it. Let things just happen and we can all have a great time
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Can't rush perfection... and attraction collapses when anxiety rises... first meeting is to test compatibility and comfort level... take it slow... 
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1 message 25/8/2018 6h18 |
It's sometimes difficult for a man to control his lust when drinking with an attractive woman, particularly if you are receptive to his flirting and knowing there may be something intimate in the future. Not making excuses or saying it's acceptable but i can understand the desire. It's probably a good sign that you need to look elsewhere.
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7/5/2020 5h33 |
I do agree with with everything you said..For me personally, I couldn't jump into bed with someone I just met..getting to know someone would make an experience much more pleasurable.
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1 message 25/5/2020 13h07 |
I agree completely. Socializing seems to be a lost art. Meeting someone for the first time is a little like a job interview. You are getting to know the other the other person and they are getting to know you as well. It should be a time to decide if either or both parties are comfortable with taking the next step.
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If they can’t have patience and get to know you at your pace then they’re probably not a good fit. Move on. I’m sure there’s no shortage of men that would be willing to meet and progress on your terms.
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You are 100% correct. Such a frequent mistake and one easily avoided. Alas, "you can't fix stupid." Good luck out there...you WILL find guys who get it and will let the moment come to them. Be safe and enjoy. CB
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3/9/2021 14h11 |
Greetings, I wish I had a good answer, but there isn't one. I would say it's a combination of factors that include stupidity and lack of respect for the wishes of others. While stupidity can be forgiven, perhaps even excused, lack of respect cannot be. If anyone can't respect you and the limits you have already established yes, you should calmly walk away. All parties should be comfortable and only the one who set the limits can change it. I have no doubt that if you wished to change the ground rules you would tell and/or show it. Otherwise guys, respect the ladies and/or couples wishes, after all it's their choice. Best wishes and good luck.
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