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What surprised me the most?
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What surprised me the most? Mr. Loveland here. I would never have considered the lifestyle or even mentioning the possibility of it with my wife of 23 . You hear this from others but our marriage has been a storybook one. We have never had a fight in our entire marriage. Oh, sure, we’ve disagreed with one another but we’ve never had a yelling, shouting, name-calling fight in all our time together. We know how unusual this is. I especially know how unusual this was and decided long ago never to do anything the would mess up my marriage. Cheating is the surest way to, pardon the phrase, FUCK it up. A few back, we went to Saint Maarten on a cruise and spent one afternoon on a clothing optional beach. We discovered that day that we both loved being naked in public. If you’ve never been to a nude beach or nude resort, understand that there isn’t much sexual energy at a nude beach. I think that’s what we enjoyed the most about it. We stripped bare and the world could witness the beauty of a normal healthy pasty white redhead couple. We’re not supermodels but we are comfortable in our skin. My wife complained, once back on the ship, how the hot couple next to us didn’t doff the clothing. That was my first surprise. My wife wanted to see the hot guys cock. Well, we didn’t stop with our one experience and over the following have traveled to clothing optional hot springs and resorts. We have come to appreciate the natural beauty of the human form. We’ve seen it all and never once during all our vacations and trips did we think of being in the lifestyle or having sex with other couples. Being a nudist is not about sex, but body acceptance. This past winter, after our latest cruise to Mexico, we decided to try an adult only clothing optional cruise. I contacted the travel company and booked us our nudist cruise. A couple weeks after we paid our deposit and first installment I learned this cruise was a lifestyle cruise first and a nudist cruise second. WAY SECOND. The internal debate raged. Do I tell the Mrs.? After verifying it, I informed my wife that it was a swinger cruise first and foremost. My second surprise came when she didn’t demand I cancel the cruise. Hmm… So… Why not bring up the possibility? I did. As many of you have been new to the lifestyle at some point in your lives, sure you’ve read the articles that state very clearly that you MUST HAVE A STRONG MARRIAGE. I’ll admit, I wondered if I was stupid when I brought up the idea and question about swinging. I feel I must defend myself here. I did not book the cruise knowing it was a swingers cruise nor have I ever wanted to be a swinger. Don’t get wrong. I have fantasies but my marriage was near as perfect as I could imagine. Mrs. Loveland didn’t shoot down the possibility and that opened the door for our rebirth. I won’t lie and say she was excited about it. She and I read and read different articles and blogs on the lifestyle. Did she want to do it or didn’t she? What would it be like? Would I be able to get it up? So many questions raced through our heads as we struggled with the internal shift of our mindset. We had two questions we had to address before making that leap. Is swinging cheating? And...for her, is this a sin? I couldn’t help her with the last one since an atheist but was raised a Christian. not exactly a fair arbiter when it comes to heaven and hell. Don’t get me wrong, not anti-religion. I just don’t believe. Mrs., however, believes and I’d never push her to go against her wishes. We spoke for many days and hours and finally decided we’d go to a club. NOT NEAR OUR HOME. But, we’d be going on vacation and we’d go to one there. To answer the first question, what is cheating? Cheating is when we are lying and going behind each other’s back. Cheating is when we only think about ourselves and not what the other needs. The second question is about sin. Sinning is when you are doing intentional harm to others either directly or indirectly. If we are not cheating then we’re not committing adultery. Thus, same room, no hall pass. This includes emotional cheating between couples. If my wife is talking to the male half of the couple it’s done on with group chat so Mr and Mrs of both parties can view if they wish. The day of our first club party came and Mrs. had an unexpected visit from Aunt Flo. “ARE YOU #$@@# KIDDING ME,” I thought but I didn’t say it. Life happens. As our vacation was winding down, the weather cleared up, and we decided to try again. I won’t go into detail here but we had a wonderful time. We met a wonderful couple and had a few hours of fun together. We both checked off a number of bucket list items. I’ll write something up later about our exploits, but this blog is about surprises. “That was so AMAZING!” my wife exclaimed in the car on the way back to our hotel. I orgasmed twice with the other couple and had a massive one after we got back to our room. not 20 anymore and I admit, I was impressed that the sexual energy was high enough for to enjoy the time fully. My biggest surprise was how much my wife enjoys the lifestyle. Dare I admit that she loves it more than I? Perhaps it’s because she discovered she loves eating pussy? I admit, it’s nice but I think it had more to do with the attention and care given to the women in the lifestyle that she fell in love with. Her biggest surprise is how it’s made our marriage stronger rather than hurting it. We’ve had amazing sex since first getting into the lifestyle. She fantasizes about other men and women as well as developing new fantasies that she’d never even considered before. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve had great sex over the and have our , but enjoying our time with others has made all the difference in our marriage. We still have our cruise booked in April as well as Caliente before we sail. We love sex and hope to share this love of sex with many many more. --Mr. Loveland |
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