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A poll for standard members about the IM change  

FresnoWoman 53F
269 messages
21/7/2019 12h51
A poll for standard members about the IM change

So we know standards no longer get 3 free IMs a day to send, and now you have to spend points to send.

However do you spend/lose points if you receive IMs?

IF and only if you're a Standard member, please vote. There is one option for Golds who want to vote but really, this isn't your circus.
Female Standard Member - I lose points if I answer an IM
Female Standard Member - I don't lose points if I answer an IM
Male Standard member - I lose points if I answer an IM
Male Standard member - I don't lose points if I answer an IM
T/NB/Couple Standard member - I lose points if I answer an IM
T/NB/Couple Standard member - I don't lose points if I answer an IM
I'm a Gold member who just has to vote for some reason


FresnoWoman 53F
883 messages
21/7/2019 12h51

Repeating the text in case words get deleted from the post:

So we know that standards no longer get 3 free IMs a day to send, and now you have to spend points to send.

However do you spend/lose points if you receive IMs?

IF and only if you're a Standard member, please vote. There is one option for Golds who want to vote but really, this isn't your circus.


jajo696 113F
4287 messages
21/7/2019 12h56

.......and a circus it indeed is ~~


Johnhorning2003 64H
12 messages
21/7/2019 13h00

Its bullshit! Cant even chat with people..... Talk about controlling...smdh


GhostofH 65H
22788 messages
21/7/2019 13h02

    Citer Johnhorning2003:
    Its bullshit! Cant even chat with people..... Talk about controlling...smdh
It seems that IF you want to 'play'... you have to 'pay'....


hornyman5650 73H

21/7/2019 13h04

I think passion wants to do away with standard members completely


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h14:
Yeah, I'm getting that impression too.

1_Sweet_World 59H/58F  
3 messages
21/7/2019 13h10

IM rarely works for Gold Members. RARELY.


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h15:
That sucks. It should work, since you're paying for the site membership.

kazw24 48F

21/7/2019 13h15

there is no chat any more its advertise has free but its all charge


pagancountrygirl 66F
6466 messages
21/7/2019 13h22

I'm not sure they realize...and I'm sure they don't care....just how many standard members there are on this site. Eliminating them will have a negative impact on the paying members as well.

Pagan
Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!


redrockrascal 65H
23580 messages
21/7/2019 13h39

    Citer pagancountrygirl:
    I'm not sure they realize...and I'm sure they don't care....just how many standard members there are on this site. Eliminating them will have a negative impact on the paying members as well.
VERY good point PCG. Since the IM changed happened I've been watching my searches, women only within AZ, and it looks like both gold and standard ones are less active then they seem to have been.

With less people male/female, gold/not gold, those here will have less choices therefore less possibilities of interacting. Interacting, in various ways, is th only thing dating sites have to offer.

Far as the OP's question goes, I have only looked once at IM since the change. I did not see where I could use points to contact someone. Is that actually still possible and, if so, how?

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro.

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h17:
I don't know that from personal experience. Just that other standards have been saying it now consumes points to initiate IMs.

hornyman5650 73H

21/7/2019 14h00

By charging points they will eliminate a lot of FAKE PROFILES and SCAMMERS most of the fake profiles are standard members


gr8pussyeater256 40H
81 messages
21/7/2019 14h10

I lose points if I send the IM or receive the IM.


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h22:
Really? I don't lose points for answering IMs. I wonder if it's because your profile is set to M instead of F, or if it has to do with when somebody signed up. I signed up in '11, though I didn't really do much at the time.

MyBaffies 54H
4983 messages
21/7/2019 14h21

I haven't had an IM since the site changes so don't know if I lose any points or not.

However, I used to report those members who would send their email address in an IM and I'd have to click Reply so I could copy the message I was sent and paste it into the online report and then close the IM.

And because I'd clicked on Reply, I'd lose one of my three points. Even though I hadn't actually replied.

Baffies

Link to my blog: MyBaffies


lonlyforlove2 81H
32704 messages
21/7/2019 14h27

I think now there is a question?? Does the originator of the IM pay ? The recipient ? Or do both have to share in this expense??

Stop by at lonlyforlove2
also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow
Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker"
also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 messages
21/7/2019 14h33

I am not a standard member, and this is straight up BS and they need to give back free IM's and email. This site is going to down hill each and every day!! It's all about the all mighty dollar for them. I am always trying to help out standard members who need points..I hope your staying cool hun and enjoying a peaceful Sunday..

Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h24:
Thank you for that. I think the standards who are sincere, rather than bots or scammers, do add to the site, rather than detract from it. And yes, I'm staying cool in this hot weather.

OlBlueEyz46 57H  
769 messages
21/7/2019 15h23

you know what else is annoying...

I can read emails from guys but never from women unless it is the 1st 4 or 5 words.

Great!


s2ndegree 65H
9800 messages
21/7/2019 15h30

It used to be vital to read someone's profile and now it's more important to be able to chat to those who can't read them?

Using more than all the road!


kk_dream_flyer76 47H

21/7/2019 16h51

    Citer hornyman5650:
    I think passion wants to do away with standard members completely
Yeah then have fun at this sausage fest


kk_dream_flyer76 47H

21/7/2019 16h53

    Citer pagancountrygirl:
    I'm not sure they realize...and I'm sure they don't care....just how many standard members there are on this site. Eliminating them will have a negative impact on the paying members as well.
And wayyyy fewer women will get free gold memberships for being “one of the most popular members on the site”


flowerkings2012 60H
4312 messages
21/7/2019 16h54

Even though I was a former Gold member, I'm currently standard, which doesn't make me tight, despite the stupidity of tartwiffaheart and moronic observation- and we don't know if she's one of the many many many women who were given free gold status on the back of paying male members

Yes, we lose points now if we answer an IM, and have done for days, so not effective from 20/7/19 as the site claims. The points are lost even if person we msg or reply to is offline or ieven if msg is unread or just in sent status. I have even been deducted points for a follow up msg to same woman later on despite it in effect being part of the same 'chat'

There are plenty of similar mind to tart who only thnk Gold members are worth engagin with, though no doubt plenty of Gold members are total morons, as no doubt many of you can testify

This does have an impact on gold members being able to interact with all members on the site and devalues their membership, but, there are plenty of points like this that can be made that are way beyond the capacity of some idiots to comprehend


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h31:
I'm beginning to think this might be a male profile versus female profile thing. I haven't lost any points for answering IMs and so far, no female standard member has voted for the first option on this poll.

I deleted Tart's response because it was overly vitriolic. If my poll had been set up to say that golds should continue subsidizing standards, then maybe the level of anger in her comment would have made sense as a response to this poll. But as a response to a poll for gathering info, it was unacceptable to me.

YoungGuyinWelly 31H
35 messages
21/7/2019 17h05

they're obviously trying to make changes to the site in order to stay competitive with stuff like tinder or whatever, but this seems like it will in the long run drive people away. if there's only 5 gold members left in one city and they can't talk to anyone else why would they keep paying for it? i suspect the whole thing will fold sooner or later.

If you want to contact me send me a message on my postbox blog: My Postbox


resant78 45H  
3326 messages
21/7/2019 17h14

I would consider paying, but the site itself doesn't appear to be a stable platform and their functions seem to work sometimes or are buggy.

It's a tough call.


BigDickRaymond12 42H

21/7/2019 17h48

Totally bullshit


letmesukit1 51H
22 messages
21/7/2019 18h08

It sucks but since not paying i cant complain.


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h26:
Yeah, I don't complain either. I was just wondering where and how points get deducted.

JustThatKindaGuy 52H  
9 messages
21/7/2019 20h30

As a gold member, it's a joke. A lot of people sign up to see if there's anyone local and once they can't interact at all, they're going to move on. Having a limited number of free contacts per day would go a long way to encouraging people to become paying members, even going back to the old tiered membership structure with a cheaper, somewhat limited option.... Just my two cents


FresnoWoman replies on 21/7/2019 20h33:
Yep. Allowing people to try before they buy, or use the site in a limited but still enjoyable way, seems like a better marketing strategy. Especially since they use number of members as a selling point. Oh well, it is their business (to run into the ground as they see fit).

LUB2423 31H
13 messages
22/7/2019 2h44

Yeah you do lose them either way. I wouldn’t have a problem with the change if the messenger worked everyone but it sucks when you waste time getting points and it doesn’t work. Plus getting charged 10 points when they don’t respond is kind of bs.


jajo696 113F
4287 messages
22/7/2019 3h15

the more i listen n read....i think the male profiles get charged either way. Th females....so far.....only get points deducted IF they initiate the IM. The IM has been tempermental for eons.....the site has done nothing.

There are others here that also feel that gold is the only way to go...and they spout off that opinion every chance they get. I, at one point, thought they worked for the site , trying to drum up more paying members. Many stories of the site making unauthorized charges on ones credit card. I would only giv them a pre paid and zero balanced after card. Especially since the gold member features/access are spotty..at best.

I have been told that the only free gold nowadays is thru making an Ice Breaker. A few people in the past week have received gold for that.

Its becoming more n more of an elitist environment....its already heavily male laden. Once they chisel the standards down to nothing, they will be recycling all gold members. An incestual cesspool in the making, IMHO~~


kesheridan2 68H

22/7/2019 4h39

10 points to use IM is too much especially when most times it doesn't go thru. I am also on Alt and they are charging only 1 point and USUALLY it at least goes thru


WHOZFUN44 52H

22/7/2019 8h19

A bajillion years ago when I first got on here you got 20 free IM's a day!!!


Philharmonik3 46H

22/7/2019 8h58

It‘s a shame about the lost of these 3 free IM…passion is going to loose money again I guess…no one will pay for that !


RikDotJames001 71H

22/7/2019 12h53

Even when Standard members got 3 free per day, I never, ever had a reply to my sent IM. So I'm not missing much. Also the only emails I get is from passion trying to get me to go Gold. I'm not surprised, since we live in a monetary society and nothing is free except the gimmicks.


Discreetmeetfish 56H
41 messages
22/7/2019 15h11

seems that any points you might earn get taken one way or another.


LordMandrakeJB 67H  
666 messages
22/7/2019 15h41

Before they start putting all the restrictions and rules on the IM function, why don't they FIX the damned thing first!!! I'm a gold member and cant answer IMs. And I doubt people see mine either.


southernflirtfem 45F

23/7/2019 2h58

it ucks


wantyoufucked 59H

23/7/2019 4h13

Never been a gold member , this im charge is ridiculous. Messages charged for even though not read . Crashes during chats and have to pay more to carry on. This site is getting to be a money grabbing one


oralguy200 77H
26 messages
23/7/2019 7h58

New policy sucks. Also use together points for writing a story. Why is that gone?


Blksecrets1914 48H

23/7/2019 10h04

I use to have an passion and ALT membership and ALT SUCKS cause its not that many so you are forced here. For the standard member after you have filled out your profile and even confirmed ID its a race to meet all the other criteria to keep this thing free.


CvilleM4U 63H

23/7/2019 12h11

passion has wanted to limit the bandwith used by std members for a long time. They've been making little cutbacks to the service allowed for std members for years.


looking4fun12114 50H
48 messages
23/7/2019 13h13

same for the men xxxx


nymphwanted2 60H  
60 messages
23/7/2019 14h16

obviously there goal is to get more people to pay for there service, but as for me, I think membership fee is a bit too high. especially considering that the service is subpar. the apps on this site are very fickle and in a lot of cases inoperative, I was a paying member several years ago and opted out of continuing to pay due to lack of reliability. in reality they would make more, if they lowered prices and fixed the site to work properly


TinaCd4men 62T
7 messages
24/7/2019 12h18

Personally I hate receiving IM chats from standard members who cant even see who I am or what I am looking for.I come online and before I have a chance to switch my IM to busy I get IM chats coming in.In my profile I have stated that I am not here to receive IM chats.I am not sitting here waiting for them ,I like messages sent the regular way so I can answer them when I feel like it not have to answer immediately. Usually IM chatters are just masturbating and want to get off.I am not looking for that.


FresnoWoman replies on 24/7/2019 12h48:
As a standard member, I can see the first sentence and part of the second sentence if I hover over your picture. You could put the "no IMs, email only" part there if you wanted. That said, I've gotten too many IMs or emails from gold male members who are married, even though they could have read my profile to learn I want single men only.

However, I think a way to filter the IMs you receive would be a much better feature. If you could set your preferences for who can view or IM you by age, location, sex, standard vs. gold, etc., I think it would really cut down on the unwanted messages that female and trans members get. Some people will lie and fill out their profiles erroneously but such a filtering feature would help.

Herewego0622 62H

24/7/2019 4h40

Standard member here. It is what it is. I will never provide them with my credit card info. Not worth the risk. I can still read blogs and stories on occasion.


majichands46 62H

24/7/2019 11h43

If i try to IM a female its rare they even reply back. I dont know if its me or IM dont work. Either way you lose points. Then if you try to contact them later it cost you 10 more points which sux.


FresnoWoman replies on 24/7/2019 12h49:
They might be swamped with IMs already, you might not be the age they want, or some other reason. They could at least make it so you don't lose the points unless you get a response, but I doubt they will implement that.

frustratedguy48 58H
5 messages
24/7/2019 15h15

I am afraid that it is the end of the world as we know it.. lol.. sucks a LOT though and not in a good way.

What with the guv'ment shutting down backpack, craigslist classified etc.. this place was one of the few left


frustratedguy48 58H
5 messages
24/7/2019 15h18

    Citer Tmptrzz:
    I am not a standard member, and this is straight up BS and they need to give back free IM's and email. This site is going to down hill each and every day!! It's all about the all mighty dollar for them. I am always trying to help out standard members who need points..I hope your staying cool hun and enjoying a peaceful Sunday..
I have NEVER had free mail.. every message, INCLUDING ones from the site, used to cost $1.95 or so if I wanted to read, which I did not. So, MOST of the mail I got went right to the discard bin.

However, that ONE person who emailed me.. I really regret not getting back with them


vagatariun 67H
118 messages
24/7/2019 16h47

Well, they baited the line, now let’s see how many sign up for full membership, my experience here has been 0, most are trolls and not serious about meeting let alone chatting, unless Western union is involved


woodinworker62 62H
30 messages
24/7/2019 19h17

i do not like it. This tends to be as much if not more about dating then sex


woodinworker62 62H
30 messages
24/7/2019 19h20

do not like the format


brandini734 29H
179 messages
24/7/2019 23h41

Yes, I've noticed that I had to pay 10 points to respond to an incoming im earlier in the morning. It sucks for the rest of the standard members since they have another restriction for this site which is only going to drive a good majority of them away rather than making extra money. In my opinion this is just going to hurt everyone else and the site itself in the long run but what do I know?


Superman4695 39H
168 messages
25/7/2019 12h45

    Citer redrockrascal:
    VERY good point PCG. Since the IM changed happened I've been watching my searches, women only within AZ, and it looks like both gold and standard ones are less active then they seem to have been.

    With less people male/female, gold/not gold, those here will have less choices therefore less possibilities of interacting. Interacting, in various ways, is th only thing dating sites have to offer.

    Far as the OP's question goes, I have only looked once at IM since the change. I did not see where I could use points to contact someone. Is that actually still possible and, if so, how?
You just type your message as usual and a box comes up saying it will cost 10 points to send and you have to click on the box agreeing to it. No guarantee it will reach a valid recipient because you know how this site works.


Superman4695 39H
168 messages
25/7/2019 12h46

    Citer lonlyforlove2:
    I think now there is a question?? Does the originator of the IM pay ? The recipient ? Or do both have to share in this expense??
Like cell phones and pretty much anywhere else both ends get charged.


FresnoWoman replies on 25/7/2019 22h51:
I don't get charged to answer IMs. I think for now, women can still answer for free.

Acquaman2019 48H
25 messages
25/7/2019 2h30

It's boring without free messages


mtguy2019 69H
185 messages
25/7/2019 6h43

When I can Im someone it works well enough fore. But, sometimes it's a waste of time cuz never got lucky on here yet. Besides, it's not always about sex. Company? yes


Fredomm33 49H

25/7/2019 6h47

It sucks !! They IM sometimes boots you off and you have to spend another ten points to get back in . This happened four times in a row to me yesterday. This site could be so much better !


Shoretosnow 31H

26/7/2019 13h23

It's a pretty crap way to do business but granted the chat function has always been the least important future for them. Considering it's broken half time gold or standard


mtbikeguy14 62H
25 messages
26/7/2019 14h06

Even with the old 3 message limit you were lucky at best to even get though with a reply


dbsimms 54H

26/7/2019 23h13

well I wouldn't mind paying if I knew it was worth it. But since I've only met one person, I'd say the likelihood of me spending my hard earned money is extremely small seeing as it isn't proving to be worth the expenditure.


FresnoWoman replies on 27/7/2019 15h22:
Both your profile pics are grey blurs for me, so I assume they're set to be naughty for a reason. If it's women you're trying to meet, a clothed full-body picture, a tasteful torso picture, or a face picture would be much more appealing than any dick pic. It won't help the male/female ratio but would put you ahead of the dick-pic crowd.

icecubeheaven 43H
25 messages
27/7/2019 12h09

Now if they had changed the system so it allowed standard members to reply freely to gold members who initiated contact on either IM or email it would have made things a lot better, the fact you have to pay to reply as well will in my opinion reduce the use of the site..


Dover4funn 61H
37 messages
27/7/2019 16h35

And now as a standard member it serms I cannot view or comment on advice lines?


dbsimms 54H

27/7/2019 23h31

Thanks for the tips! I'm not sure why my pics are grayed and blurred, I didn't think my profile pic was that bad. I'm hesitant to put a face pic on the site due to my occupation.


southernsupguy 59H/60F
1 message
28/7/2019 6h14

I think it bullshit that u have to loss points when u chat


Daddydaks 49H
6 messages
28/7/2019 6h20

* disagree


67AugustWest 56H

28/7/2019 8h25

Wont pay.. Too expensive for an IM that sucks!


engcumman 54H
53 messages
28/7/2019 12h38

I suggest using an alternative message channel. I know a number of people are using k1k and also sky1pe in the chat rooms. Certainly on the latter you can set up multiple accounts if you would rather keep your passion life and your real life separate.


FresnoWoman replies on 31/7/2019 14h12:
It's not possible to have more than one k|k account? But yes, those are options, as well as exchanging text numbers.

oraldeelite 61H
18 messages
28/7/2019 21h37

I've paid b4 and it the same thing, you might get to message more but IM STILL FREEZES UP!!! not paying for that .


RustyDick72 51H
51 messages
28/7/2019 23h21

I think this the 2nd time, IM stop giving free. It happened few years back, but they revert back to 3 free IM per day.

Anyway is up to them, when they are giving free IM, there tends to hv a lot of members online ( mostly fake online ) , but it give a impression that there is alot of activities going on.... but now, no free IM, it will get even worst,


FresnoWoman replies on 29/7/2019 13h50:
It'd be great if they restore the former IM functionality but I won't hold my breath.

bigbootysmokaaaa 31H

30/7/2019 5h15

Lose points for answering. cant even do 3 free ones/day anymore


oraldeelite 61H
18 messages
30/7/2019 9h51

My biggest complaint is you get charged for ten points when the other party doesnt reply back to your IM message


FresnoWoman replies on 30/7/2019 12h57:
I'd be annoyed to lose points that way too. At the same time, as a woman, I'm happy to benefit from a mechanism that forces men to be more selective in whom they message.

kiwiyoulike2 53H

30/7/2019 22h02

time for a new web site to be created ! by someone else


FresnoWoman replies on 31/7/2019 14h12:
And you'll get right on it, won't you?

MrPub72 51H
217 messages
31/7/2019 2h13

This is the management decision, if the end result, doesn't see what they want to see, then they have to seriously look into it


mrpub1972 51H
28 messages
31/7/2019 20h20

I believe there are reasons,the management made this decision, well , let see their next move.


nhex99 48H

1/8/2019 12h19

The IM doesn't hardly work at the best of times, but its a downward slop for the site imo not letting 3 free IM's.


jonilovebig 76H

1/8/2019 12h26

I have had 3 guys try to get with me on im it cost me 10 points each time but when I answer them they don't receive my message won't answer any more on im


spicybicpl 42H/41F

3/8/2019 1h03

It's a money grab scheme by passion.They did that so standard members would have to upgrade to gold or better


Realdeal01844 48H

3/8/2019 15h08

This website has turned to shit


Tigerfofpussycat 51H

3/8/2019 15h10

I'm ok with the new I'm system


shootitome2 73H

9/8/2019 1h19

I can count on one hand the times I have been IM'ed. I personaly don't play that game. Don't chat either. If I receive a message I simply reply with an email address.
I've been responded to twice by 2 very nice gold member ladies.
passion is a pay to play site. Hard site for a "standard." But!!! There are was to play around passion... read the TOS.

PEEKING!!!


6FitTallFun9 56H

23/9/2019 9h07

10 points is a tough pill!


Bbsupya 46H
1 message
21/9/2020 11h51

Is fucking crap


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