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What a Social Generation
 

Platosgames 102H
2246 messages
23/10/2018 13h21
What a Social Generation

Lets face it. We are firmly entrenched into a social media driven society. As much as we fight it, don't like it, or in my case, suck at it. It's not going anywhere. Some of us have acclimated more to it, while some of us just avoid it at every opportunity. I would say I suck at it, and anyone who has texted with me would verify that. That overbearing young lady who wanted a response within ten minutes of texting her boyfriend would hate me. Hell it could take me 10 minutes just to type out , "yes dear, anything you say dear." on that little phone keyboard. Ok, maybe a little bit of an exaggeration, but certainly not poised to win any texting speed competitions.

That said, shouldn't it really be called anti-social media? Is it really socialization skills that are being used? I think it's created just the opposite. Where one doesn't have to be accountable for their words. Where no one has to learn the arts of conversation, and listening? The art of discussing things without having every conversation lead into a text war. Lord knows half of whats on social media would never be said to someones face. Not without some repercussions. Well, I guess one could "unfollow" them. Damn that sounds so harsh. Dude, you better not mess with me or gonna unfollow you.

It's everywhere. We have complete news story's now days, that are really just a collection of peoples tweets. Like you couldn't just write a story about what happened? No, just find a bunch of non-credentialed fools that are posting their opinions and Bingo. You have a news article. LOL I find those really funny, cause people get all worked up about the opinions of god knows who this guy is, that's tweeting. But hell, now it's news, so it's got to be true..Right?

Just a thought, did they name it Twitter, cause there's just so many Twits on there?

And they pick and chose which parts of the "viral video's" gets posted. Something I saw yesterday, solidified my thoughts on this subject. A guy, obviously a social media wanna be, thinking he can say and act like a douche bag, with no accountability. He's on the corner, harassing the hell out of some poor lady. Calling her vulgar names..and talking like he's the toughest guy on the street. They show that part on the news feeds.

Then later the rest of the video shows up..here comes the poor lady's son. LOL. All he has to do is walk up to the social media's hero and say, "you calling out my mom". And boom, our "hero" is now seen running, not walking away. Haha. Now I could stand to see more of that. ( which by the way, I just read he was fired from his job as a "Data Specialist at Self Enhancement Inc. LOL..self enhancement. You can't make this stuff up)

I often wonder what would happen if for some reason, it just all went away. Would all the younger generation just be completely lost? Reminds me of a conversation with my second son, when he was in high school. He dropped his phone in the toilet. (don't ask, I don't know how someone does this, but he managed it twice) I told him I ordered him a new phone and it would be here in 5 days. His reply was, "but Dad, how I supposed to get a date if I don't have a phone?" flabbergasted. I mean, really? Did you just say that out loud?

Told him to maybe just go talk to someone. It's pretty complicated. First you have to find someone you're attracted to, then you have to walk up and talk to them. Yeah...I mean like face to face!!!!

Scary Stuff...

I think if you pulled all the social media at once, the entire younger generation would just fall flat. It would be like an social Armageddon. The end of the world as they knew it..

But an interesting thought. Would that make all us old timers, the new "cool kids"? You know those of us that could still socialize without a media device?

willing to give it a try....LOL
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx
Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 13h23

 This is meant as a fun post and lets please keep it that way. I know there's some hot spots around that could be used to bring up a political viewpoint...but this isn't the place. Just keep it fun.

Thanks for playing.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


sexysixties2 106F
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23/10/2018 13h43

 In my view it's very anti-social. People need to to talk....face to face...in order to get to know each other. It has contributed to the isolation, loneliness and depression so apparent in our young. It does have its uses though. I use FB to keep in touch with friends and family all over the world but have never had Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat accounts.....I just don't see the point. I guess I am a dinosaur who has almost been dragged somewhat reluctantly into the 21st century.
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Paulxx001 67H
22642 messages
23/10/2018 13h45

 I think the kids would make out fine after a period of adjustment. How would we do if things were pushed back to the radio days, or the telegraph days? I know I'd adapt. I be fricken annoyed, but I'd adapt..


superbjversion2 69F  
24388 messages
23/10/2018 13h46

 I remember when my daughter was in high school and she was making plans with a friend. 15-20 minutes of texting. I looked at her and said that if she just called her friend, plans would have been made in 2 minutes!

I get asked - often - why don't I get a smart phone. My response is Why should I? I don't need an internet umbilicus.
Opportunity may knock only once, but temptation bangs on the door forever!


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 14h09
    Citer sexysixties2:
    In my view it's very anti-social. People need to to talk....face to face...in order to get to know each other. It has contributed to the isolation, loneliness and depression so apparent in our young. It does have its uses though. I use FB to keep in touch with friends and family all over the world but have never had Twitter, Instagram or Snapchat accounts.....I just don't see the point. I guess I am a dinosaur who has almost been dragged somewhat reluctantly into the 21st century.
I'm with you. It all just seems so impersonal. I like to look in someones eyes while were talking. Not stare at my screen. LOL

I think there's quite a few of us being drug along for the ride.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 14h11
    Citer Paulxx001:
    I think the kids would make out fine after a period of adjustment. How would we do if things were pushed back to the radio days, or the telegraph days? I know I'd adapt. I be fricken annoyed, but I'd adapt..
You could be right...but I also think adaptation isn't a strong point in a lot of the younger generation. I could go back to the radio days in a heart beat.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 14h12
    Citer superbjversion2:
    I remember when my daughter was in high school and she was making plans with a friend. 15-20 minutes of texting. I looked at her and said that if she just called her friend, plans would have been made in 2 minutes!

    I get asked - often - why don't I get a smart phone. My response is Why should I? I don't need an internet umbilicus.
LOL..exactly.

My daughters try that with me. Texting me asking questions. Hell it would take me forever to answer. I just hit..Call.

I have to have a smart phone for my business, and god I hate that thing.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


lonlyforlove2 81H  
32704 messages
23/10/2018 15h13

 “Scary Stuff" Yes, to the new generations it is not easy for them to comprehend how we made social connections way back in the old days. The instant gratification of making a 10 sec text, tweet or instagram, one being shielded by the new electronic media, is the in thing, It is hard to make one understand how much more information can be gathered with a face to face contact with a person. You can see their eyes, their smile, how they act in real life, so much more information in just a few moments than could be exchanged in100s of text and photos.
Some how the new generation seems to want to hide behind the keyboard; say and do anything, to about any one, things that he/she would never do, face to face or in public. Why this has happened, I am not sure, but it sure is not a good thing. How did the world ever exist without our “smart phones”, our internet, or other Instant messaging systems, I was a shy kid in school, but never had any trouble getting dates; as I grew older, when I would see some one of interest, just walk up and say "Hi" all they can do is say no, but a lot of the time one would be surprised. The new generation is used to being hidden in the bandwidth of his device and can act any way he feels and it allows for a lot of foolishness to be said ( written).
Yes, What a Social Generation, and I agree it is not going away, It will get even worse( if that is possible) in time as faster and more coverage is implemented. Something others and I are just going to have to accept, like it or not! Sociable with out some media device, sure , it worked in the past, us old timers made it, I think it can be a part of the modern society, just give it a try. Social Armageddon a big thought, could it happen, what would be the results, the teacher could not contact their students for school work. So many things would just stop. So many people would not know what to do next?
Any way, a good subject for some one who can easily remember when their was not even TV, telephones were party lines, you pump your own gas at 15 cents a gallon, a deluxe model car had an AM radio and spare tire included. NO power steering or brakes, few automatic transmissions. But some how we made it, and in that the time created the “ New Generation” . To all enjoy what we have..
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Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 15h28

 Yeah, I think we're pretty much in perfect agreement here.

I noticed how bad it has gotten a couple of months ago , at a movie with my daughter. Waiting for the previews, looking around the audience. Everyone was on their phones, typing away. Hell there was a lady who looked about 70 right in front of us, texting faster than I could. LOL
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Tmptrzz 61F  
107039 messages
23/10/2018 15h29

 This is definitely the technology generation my kids and their kids constantly on their phones it drive me crazy. It's like if you ask them to have a conversation they are like what the hell is that..

I don't get it to be honestly I would much rather have a great conversation with someone other than text them. I hope your son was able to talk to a girl and get a date with out his phone.

I dread to see what's going to be come of the next generation omfg its like they would be lost without their technology it doesn't matter what type it is!! I am not on twitter or snap chat but some of my older grand children are. I think its a dangerous thing as you never know who's watching you.

Like many I use my FB to keep up with my kids who are scattered all around the states. I hope you have a great evening and thanks for sharing this great read as it's so very true..
Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on..


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 15h31

 Yeah..it seems like an impossiblity to get them off the phones completely. It's more of a how many minutes can I get them to put it down.

The internet and technology has brought us many benefits..but I'm not sure the cost evens it out.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 15h39
    Citer lonlyforlove2:
    “Scary Stuff" Yes, to the new generations it is not easy for them to comprehend how we made social connections way back in the old days. The instant gratification of making a 10 sec text, tweet or instagram, one being shielded by the new electronic media, is the in thing, It is hard to make one understand how much more information can be gathered with a face to face contact with a person. You can see their eyes, their smile, how they act in real life, so much more information in just a few moments than could be exchanged in100s of text and photos.
    Some how the new generation seems to want to hide behind the keyboard; say and do anything, to about any one, things that he/she would never do, face to face or in public. Why this has happened, I am not sure, but it sure is not a good thing. How did the world ever exist without our “smart phones”, our internet, or other Instant messaging systems, I was a shy kid in school, but never had any trouble getting dates; as I grew older, when I would see some one of interest, just walk up and say "Hi" all they can do is say no, but a lot of the time one would be surprised. The new generation is used to being hidden in the bandwidth of his device and can act any way he feels and it allows for a lot of foolishness to be said ( written).
    Yes, What a Social Generation, and I agree it is not going away, It will get even worse( if that is possible) in time as faster and more coverage is implemented. Something others and I are just going to have to accept, like it or not! Sociable with out some media device, sure , it worked in the past, us old timers made it, I think it can be a part of the modern society, just give it a try. Social Armageddon a big thought, could it happen, what would be the results, the teacher could not contact their students for school work. So many things would just stop. So many people would not know what to do next?
    Any way, a good subject for some one who can easily remember when their was not even TV, telephones were party lines, you pump your own gas at 15 cents a gallon, a deluxe model car had an AM radio and spare tire included. NO power steering or brakes, few automatic transmissions. But some how we made it, and in that the time created the “ New Generation” . To all enjoy what we have..
I agree. I would take 10 minutes of face time with one lady, over 100 texts with five. Any day of the week. You just can't get the "feel" of a person on a text.

One would think with the ability to be rejected, without having to physically be there, it would be easier for guys to remain respectful. But with the social media..it's just the opposite. Like you said, they say things they'd never say in person.

I remember a lot of what you brought up at the end. Though there was TV, we didn't get a color tv until i was around 10. I remember the cheap gas. haha. It's also funny , I know of very few people that can drive a stick anymore. It's what I learned on. The times they keep on changing.

Great response, thanks.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


jthp36999 39H
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23/10/2018 15h57

 yeah thats awesome wow nice


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 16h00

 What you're describing is true..it has been a gradual build up to it. I guess that raises the question...can it get worse?

And if by "they still talk" you mean text or messages. It's just not the same to me. We've "talked" on here, but nothing even remotely as interesting as a conversation with you in person would be. I would bet on that.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 16h17
    Citer Tmptrzz:
    This is definitely the technology generation my kids and their kids constantly on their phones it drive me crazy. It's like if you ask them to have a conversation they are like what the hell is that..

    I don't get it to be honestly I would much rather have a great conversation with someone other than text them. I hope your son was able to talk to a girl and get a date with out his phone.

    I dread to see what's going to be come of the next generation omfg its like they would be lost without their technology it doesn't matter what type it is!! I am not on twitter or snap chat but some of my older grand children are. I think its a dangerous thing as you never know who's watching you.

    Like many I use my FB to keep up with my kids who are scattered all around the states. I hope you have a great evening and thanks for sharing this great read as it's so very true..
My daughters are so bad...I had my "adopted" daughter down to visit this summer. They're sitting at the beach..her and my youngest, in lawn chairs. 8 feet apart. Texting and snap chatting each other. LOL

I just don't get it.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 16h18

 and the award for the most profound comment goes to.......
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 16h23

 See, there's a point we'll just have to disagree on. When two kids text each other in the same room..it's bad. When guys can't just walk up to a girl and talk, without texting to ask permission first...it's bad.

Socialization skills aren't just about talking..it's also knowing how to be tactful..how to read the other person. How to gauge body language. How to listen, and interject without being rude.

For instance...how many times have you read a blog post on here, with women complaining about a first meet conversation? Now can you imagine that getting any better, or worse?
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


pagancountrygirl 66F  
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23/10/2018 17h00

 Hey....I can still drive a stick! You were talking about a broomstick...right? No?? Crap... OK, I can still drive a stick. I have a CDL. lol

"Dude, you better not mess with me or gonna unfollow you."
I was cracking up over that one. I can't even "unfollow" someone. I've never been on FB so I couldn't block them, unfollow them or anything else. I'm a dinosaur of the low tech variety. We're on the verge of extinction. Again.
Pagan
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japaneseass 56F  
50231 messages
23/10/2018 17h34

 maybe...just maybe...the young kids nowadays are afraid of being rejected??? so they hide behind the device, in case if they are rejected, they don't have to show their looser face...

as growing up, we went though a lot of rejections...sure we were disappointed and sad, even miserable and defeated, but we knew it's not the end of the world...we just picked ourselves up...and carry on...

i think people nowadays are so scared of being rejected...


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 17h36

 -Frankly, hardly ever...*maybe* five times or less the entire time in my blogs here (4 years). How often have you seen them? To be clear, to me 'first meet conversation' means sitting in front of each other. I assume that's what you mean

I've only been on here for two months. and I can think of at least two..talking about all he talked about was himself..or there was no conversation to speak of.

I can recall kids in elementary school that were probably on the Autism spectrum, but we considered them anti-social.

That could be true...and sure there have always been people that weren't good at socializing. Always will be. I just see it in my kids and their friends thoughout the years, as more pronounced.

I'm going to say this is symptom social anxieties more than social media. Granted, social media might have contributed to an increase social anxieties but certainly not the cause. It's actually not new. I mean, did all guys have the 'courage' to walk up to a girl they liked to talk to her when you were growing up?

So then why the increase in system social anxieties? I actually just read a study about this about a month ago. social anxieties are on the rise. Using your logic, what else has changed to account for this. I'll let you guess what the study ruled the catalyst was.

And sure..guys have always been apprehensive about approaching women. Well most, I was never bright enough to be deterred. But out of say a group of 15 guys I hung out with regularly in high school college years..I can only think of one, who just flat out wouldn't do it.

I'm not saying social media doesn't have it's drawbacks. Of course it does. However, maybe this is a matter of you seeing this through the filter of yourself and your own personality and experiences. Again, none of this is 'new', just different and more exposed.

And this is the part that I would still disagree on. Equating todays social media use as a equal to what we had in the 70's and 80's isn't even close. People are actually addicted to their cell phones..not a hyperbole, true cases. LOL

I could be Projecting my beliefs into the situation, but I respectfully say, I don't think so on this one. I'm pretty versed at removing myself from the picture, when I go down these paths. Do I fall into the side that thinks it's out of control, and detrimental to a healthy society. Sure. But i would claim that as an researched opinion as opposed to just my point of view.

I love these conversations with you Lala. haha
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 17h40
    Citer pagancountrygirl:
    Hey....I can still drive a stick! You were talking about a broomstick...right? No?? Crap... OK, I can still drive a stick. I have a CDL. lol

    "Dude, you better not mess with me or gonna unfollow you."
    I was cracking up over that one. I can't even "unfollow" someone. I've never been on FB so I couldn't block them, unfollow them or anything else. I'm a dinosaur of the low tech variety. We're on the verge of extinction. Again.
Now were talking ...a woman that can drive a standard. You're just getting better every day Pagan. haha

All my kids, besides my oldest, are like social media fiends. My oldest is more like me. Would rather not have to text ever again. LOL
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 17h47

 Still, not the first time I have ran across youth not having face to face social skils. This all could have been avoided. Maybe I shoulda just threw a bag full of emoji at them while they were slippin into their cloths. They might have understood that
Things need to change along the lines of this social communication thing

The emoji's they might have understood. LOL

I was a crazy ass driver in my teens..like was actually thinking about a career in stunt driving crazy. One time I was tearing through the neighborhood. Dude recognized the Mustang and was knocking on my door that afternoon. I answered the door, listened to him give me shit...hell I know I was in the wrong. Said yes sir, I'll slow down sir...and he left.

If he'd have called my dad...I'd have gotten the crap beat out of me. I was smart enough to know when to shut up and say yes sir, when I knew I was wrong. Part of the social skills.

I'm never amazed anymore when today's kids can't figure this out.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 17h50
    Citer japaneseass:
    maybe...just maybe...the young kids nowadays are afraid of being rejected??? so they hide behind the device, in case if they are rejected, they don't have to show their looser face...

    as growing up, we went though a lot of rejections...sure we were disappointed and sad, even miserable and defeated, but we knew it's not the end of the world...we just picked ourselves up...and carry on...

    i think people nowadays are so scared of being rejected...
I think you're exactly right on the dating issues and social media. Plus then it's easier for them to send the barrage of hate comments afterwards, that you know they'd never have the balls to do in person. LOL

Hell, i never liked it when I got rejected asking someone out. Still don't. But it's just part of life and you learn to just move on. No biggie.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 19h46

 To be honest. I can't say for sure...I rarely look at the ages on here. As evidenced by mine..when I'm in blog mode, unless it's something that is way out of whack..I just answer the post. LOL.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


Platosgames 102H
3189 messages
23/10/2018 19h54

 See I would take that as a contributing factor as well...but you bring up a point. video games...

Have you ever played any of the mmorp's? I've played a couple. It becomes another extension of "social media" ...people are talking online. Chatting, interacting..but not face to face. So it's sorta like another extension, or one of the building blocks of the dysfunction .

I will concede, social media is not the sole cause of the breakdown in social skills. Lack of parenting.. the helicopter parenting you described. It's all part of it. But what's also part of it..is when the parents can't get involved. or should I say..won't get involved, it's much different than when i was a teen.

Instead of having a peer group to get my "direction" from , comprised of a handful of peers, today's teens and twenty somethings. have a peer group of millions. All striving for attention. All ready to give advice...when in reality, few even know the meaning of the question.
" I refuse to belong to any organization that would accept me as a member" Groucho Marx


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