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Thoughts on Gender Identity = Part 2
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Thoughts on Gender Identity = Part 2 Okay, I thought this was going be easier, but I need start this blog with another disclaimer…This is a very complex topic, with so many different perspectives and opinions that it’s very intimidating putting my 2 cents into the mix… These are my thoughts based mostly upon my own personal experiences and observations…it is by no mean a scholarly review and assessment on the topic. While I have personally looked into things like Jungian Psychology and the concept of the Anima and the Animus, I’m intentionally leaving those theories out because I do not know enough to effectively relate them to anyone reading this, and while I find the theory helpful in my own life, it would be irresponsible to try and present it to others without a more in depth understanding…but if you’re interested, look it up….i think a lot of it rings true for me. Since this blog is written mostly to help clarify my own thoughts and maybe unravel some things that honestly confuse me, I don’t expect it to be helpful to anyone else. But if it is, cool……If not…also cool I think the only way to really address this is from my limited pedestrian experience. So, I’ve decided to break it down into semi manageable categories in the hopes that it touches on things that seem to so often be difficult for the general public to understand, let alone accept. I often include myself in that confused state. So, I’ve decided on the following categories, not listed in order of importance, listed as they pop into my head. 1. Use of public restrooms when personal gender identity does not match what a majority of people perceive 2. Passing…a somewhat related topic to number topic 1 3. Who gets to call themselves trans in all it’s various forms, and who gets to decide who gets too (grammatically awkward, sorry) 4. Cross Dressing – sexual fetish or a form of personal growth(yes?) 5. Coming Out or Not 6. The Spectrum 7. The Alt Right and the belief that trans people are personified proof that our society is crumbling and cannot afford to accommodate this made up lifestyle. (the best for last) So, I think that’s all I can handle right now…I can not adequately address topics like gender dysphoria or the feeling that a person was categorized inaccurately at birth because their genitals were the only litmus test for naming them either a boy or a girl. These are not part of my personal experience and should be for others to explain.. And while I think the general public does have a difficult time understanding someone going through transition and how that must feel, I have heard so many touching and eloquently relayed personal experiences that I’m sure that there must be an article or other blog that does a good job with that topic. If you know of any, please let me know….i’d love to be able to reference something for people that don’t understand and might benefit from some accounts of real life experiences. And as I review my list, I think I might need to do a Part 3 and maybe even a 4th. We’ll see how it goes Public Restrooms – short answer….let this fight go for now….. I understand that it’s seen as one of our most obvious needs and how it could be a major issue related to a person’s basic human dignity….let it go…..not completely, but as an issue that warrants special legislation, it’s a loser from the get go….i see it used again and again to make us out to be perverts and monsters…You’ve seen the ads….a little girls goes into a public restroom and is followed by the most pedophilic character central casting could find that claims she’s a woman….end commercial….you just got beat down by the haters, and they know it.. There are some things that are achievable now and some that will need to come later….start with new facilities and old ones that can easily either incorporate a separate mixed use, 1 person at a time, or something that doesn’t put people so on edge….I can understand why a woman would be uncomfortable sharing this private space with what she perceives to be a man….we have not advanced as a culture to where that concern is unwarranted….so baby steps…..work at it over time, but be gentle with others that feel threatened. Passing…..damn, this is a tough one for me….because I actually feel sort of like a hypocrite. I’ve been told that I look passable…which BTW is totally untrue…I’m 6’1, and walk like an old man on my bad days…..i might be able to work on my walk, but I don’t know if I want to carry my act that far…Yes, it would be nice to be passable, to avoid the scrutiny of unaccepting eyes, but that is the luxury that most of us are not born with….And I said act earlier….do I really want to be an act…a good imitator that values blending in, over what’s inside and carry that on the outside…I’m still in the middle of trying to figure this out.. What I don’t want to do is develop my outward presentation as my stereotypical idea of a what a great looking woman looks like, …or do I?????? Bottom line, most of us will never pass….for those that are more part time cross dressers and don’t present in public, not really an issue…but I want to go out, I want to flaunt what I’ve got and be seen as at least interesting and unique if not beautiful…So, passing should not matter, but it can be safer at this point in time if you do….better a cat call than a bat across your face. This really sucks…I think that we need a major shift in our particular version of pride….you can be gay and usually not have it be an issue, if you want. Same with other forms of sexuality that don’t draw attention, but trans folk are in a different camp….so I think we need something more like our version of James Brown’s “Say it loud, I’m black and I’m Proud”! I’m personally not a huge fan of “We’re here, We’re Queer, Get used to it”! No punch, starts off good, but ends with a kind of snippy entitlement vibe..i’ve been hooked on French phrases lately, and maybe we could take “vive la différnces” (long live the differences) and tweak it a little. “ vive toutes nos différences” (long live all our differences) That’s it, my head hurts…to be continued again……… With love and respect, Aimée |
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Pure Magic Aimee.... very humbling for them both upon opening, one may think JeffX
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Aimée. D'après ce que j'arrive à comprendre (et ce n'est vraiment pas évident) tu énumères les sujets qui nous préoccupent toutes à des degrés différents et tu arrives à mettre des mots là où ce n'est vraiment pas si évident. Bravo pour ton blog. Continue Anne.
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