Blog Rules
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Publié :12/7/2008 19h42
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I do not tolerate unessesary swearing...
There will be no harassing myself or guests...
I do not write anything on request anymore, I only write on requests at my regular blog (passion is not my regular blog anymore)...
If I post something incorrectly you can either correct my mistake or keep your comment to yourself...
I do not allow my writings to be shared or copied...
There will be no negative comments about women...
No men are allowed to comment on allegedly being an INFJ or a romantic. You may use your profile to pick-up women but this blog is not meant as a pick-up line for you...
I reserve the right to remove comments or ban readers as I see fit...
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Foreplay Techniques (4th Edition)
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Publié :29/7/2005 17h37
Dernière mise à jour :7/4/2012 23h02 41064 vues
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Erogenous Zones
(Stroking the fire)
“Women generally like to feel that you are taking your time in pleasuring them. They do not want to feel that you are rushing to their genitals or clitoris” ‒ the illustrated guide to Extended Massive Orgasm by: Steve Bodansky Ph.D. and Vera Bodansky Ph.D.
“Fabulous foreplay is all about enticing and exciting both her mind and her body.” ‒ How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure by: Lou Paget
“Skin-the largest organ- covers the entire body in nerve endings. When sensitive areas are stroked, these nerve endings get stimulated and pockets of explosive sensation erupt. These touch-sensitive areas are known as erogenous zones.” ‒ Kama Sutra for 21st-Century Lovers by: Anne Hooper
“In the same way that getting her in the mood requires making her feel special, turning her on physically requires giving her your full attention. Is she feels that you are completely engaged in the moment, focused on her, on being with her and pleasing her, she is bound to open like a flower in the midday sun.” ‒ How to Give Her Absolute Pleasure by: Lou Paget
“A man should always make a point of pressing those parts of a woman’s body on which she turns her eyes.” ‒ Kama Sutra
Many of us men can become erect within 5 to 30 seconds. Women do not have this ability, they need time for their uterus to lift and thus get the vagina to expand. If the vagina does not have the appropriate time required to expand then the moment you try to insert your penis into the vagina (penetrate), it can cause discomfort or serious pain to the woman. This is where erogenous zones and foreplay come into the picture.
Erogenous zones are the areas of a person’s body in which you focus on during foreplay, and foreplay being what you normally do before you have intercourse (some of you may know or refer to it as making-out). These areas are focused on in order to delay sexual intercourse and increase physical and mental arousal.
These areas (erogenous zones) are most likely the following…
Mouth, Lips
Neck
Shoulders
Breasts, Nipples
Forearms, Fingers
Stomach, Belly Button
Lower Back
Hips, Thighs (Inner or Outer)
Buttocks
Calves
Ankles, Toes
There are always numerous ways in which we can go about doing things. Take a vacation for example, some people may prefer to jump on a plane when traveling so that they may get there as quickly as possible. Others may choose to drive there (if possible) so that they can not only enjoy the place they are going, but also enjoy the scenery along the way. I did community service work for a long time out in Maine, there are two ways of getting there; one way goes mostly by interstate, and the other way goes strictly by highway. I have always found interstates to be quicker but you don't really get to see very much. For this reason I always choose the back way, it takes about two hours longer, but you get to see the open country along the way. It gives you the chance to not only take in the scenery, but to also get your mind prepared to enjoy the place you are on your way to.
Erogenous zones (foreplay, making-out) are virtually the same in the fact that you can skip them and go straight for the genitals (taking the airplane or interstate), or you can take your time and enjoy each other to the absolute fullest (taking the car or scenic route). Many people who prefer to fuck will find that they want penetration as quickly and as hard as possible, again it is like taking the airplane or interstate. People who like to make love are going to take more pleasure from the added sensations and relaxation that comes from stroking and massaging every inch of their lover’s body. Seeing how relaxation is the key to a woman becoming aroused and eventually having an orgasm then it is probably best to take the scenic route now isn’t it?
There is a great deal of men out there who love sports; therefore you may understand this analogy a little better. For some reason a lot of people always compare sex to its baseball terms. Personally I prefer to think of sex in a similar fashion to a stock car race.
There are many ways in which you can go about racing your car, but a good racer will take it slow. He or she will get out on the track and run their car up and down through the turns to help get the tires to heat up and improve traction. If they do not do this and just step on the gas then their car is going to be slipping and sliding all over which at high speeds could cause them to loose control and wreck out early. Once the tires are ready and the race is underway… you can sit tight and draft through the first half, which will help with gas and reduce the risk of wrecking from taking an aggressive standpoint. Some drivers may prefer to just step on the gas and just try to outrun everyone on the track, while this works sometimes for the “expert” racers, it often makes the younger racers or rookies to crash and burn.
Knowing when to pit is always a big thing, you want it to be with the leaders, otherwise you will fall way behind and not have even the slightest chance of catching up.
Once you hit the halfway point the race becomes something totally different…
You are now in a position where you must focus on winning, you can once again “put the pedal to the metal,” or you can continue to draft and sling shot in and around the pack. Again, putting the pedal to the metal is risky because you have other cars in your way. If you loose control of your car then you will not only take yourself out of the race but you will also take some of the others out of the race as well.
So now you are sitting here wondering what the heck all that had to do with sex?
Well you can take your time, get to know each other’s bodies (like warming up your tires). This gives you a feel for each other both emotionally and physically. Or you can just go for broke and “put the pedal to the metal” and risk thrusting in and out of her hard and fast without taking the time to fully turn her on, which could result in her experiencing pain. I do not picture to many women liking this kind of thing all that often, but I am sure that is what many men would love. (Most guys seem to just aim for the finish line and not care about anything that stands in their way).
Knowing when to back off is always a very important thing. You need to keep on pace with your partner or you could finish to fast and thus leave her unhappy (like pitting in a close race, you want to stay with the leaders, in sex, the woman you are with is one of those leaders). This can always affect men if a woman finishes to fast, but a lot of women can have multiples much more easily then most men.
Nearing the end, you can start hammering away or you can keep a slow pace and just worry about finishing in good standing oppose to trying to win the championship with just that one race.
It can be wonderful to finish on top, but that first place victory will mean absolutely nothing at all if you caused others to wreck in the process and thus gain you nothing more then a lot of enemies. This applies to sex in the fact that if you always finish ahead of your partner then she will be left hanging in your dust. Seeing as though this woman is someone you care about, you do not want to leave her behind. You want her right on the finish line with you, let her take first place or settle for a tie, but never ever finish ahead of her. No woman in the world wants a selfish lover!
The trick is to go slow, savor how she feels, allow your desire to build up to the point that you can not last for even another moment longer before you have to thrust into her as deep as possible.
I know a lot of guys question the need for taking their time with a woman. It has been this way since as long as most historians can find and to help prove that I would like to point out a few things from the Kama Sutra which was written about 2,000 years ago.
“While the woman is lying on his bed, absorbed in conversation, the man should loosen her undergarments, and when she begins to protest, he should overwhelm her with kisses. Then when his lingam is erect, he should touch her with his hands in various places, and gently manipulate various parts of her body.” ‒ Kama Sutra
I would like to point out that this is showing that a man should in fact engage in conversation with a woman and not just talk to her when he desires sex. This is also one of the problems with how women got treated in olden times. We see that the author is in a way encouraging what we (today) would consider to be a sexual assault. Here we see a representation that when a woman says, “no” (protests) that a man should in fact listen to her and yet still try and persuade her to have sex by massaging her body, thus possibly getting her aroused and then desiring the sexual acts to come.
This is a large problem because if a woman says, “no”, then a man should listen to her and not continue to pressure her thereafter. With all of the sexual assaults that happen around the world on a daily basis it leads me to believe that men still often think and act this way. It is not okay at any point in time for a man of honor to persuade a woman to do something that she does not actually feel like doing. If a man of honor is to engage in any kind of sexual activity with a woman then it needs to be something that the woman truly desires on her own and not by his cunning (persuasion).
“If she is a young girl, he should first put his hands on her breasts, which she would probably cover with her own hands, and under her armpits and on her neck.”
“If however she is seasoned, he should do whatever is agreeable to him or to her and fitting.”
“After this he should hold her hair and chin in his fingers to kiss her.” ‒ Kama Sutra
In modern society I think a lot of people only associate inexperience with virginity. Many people have the attitude that once they are no longer considered a virgin that they suddenly know everything that there is to know about sex. Therefore, when the Kama Sutra says “young” it makes people immediately associate it with a girl probably between the ages of 13 to 20 and thus assume that because of the younger age it means she is still a virgin. I will mention that a man or woman being a virgin or not has nothing to do with their sexual knowledge or potential.
Previously I was speaking to an older gentleman who is a co-worker of mine about why I was writing this book. Eventually within our conversation the topic changed to my opinion on sex and how the youth of this world handle it. I was quick to mention that I think that many of the youth in today’s world are stuck on themselves and think that they know everything that there is to know about both life and sex. I stated that I believed that regardless of how many times you have sex, it would not always mean that you are learning anything new or experiencing different things. Most people often have sex the same way each time they do it and only change who it is they are having sex with.
It was here that he stopped me and said, “I think you are right about this. My new girlfriend was married for 20+ years and her husband had never done anything but fuck her. Until she met me, she had never been with a man that actually believed in slow and sensual sex. While she desired to experience it, he only did what he wanted and cared very little for her. Now that she has finally experienced it, she loves it so much that she never wants it any other way. By no means am I complaining because I also like slow sex better then that rough stuff that you youngsters seem to do. I just think it is a perfect example of how correct your way of thinking is.”
Here he is sitting there and confirming exactly what I was thinking. Just because someone has had sex does not actually mean they really know very much about sex. Unless someone studies and tries or just studies numerous sexual aspects in general then they will often not really know anything about sex at all. Women do in fact often cater to the sexual desires of a man before she does her own and thus it puts women in a position where they miss out on a lot of various sexual experiences. In this particular situation the only thing the woman’s husband did was fuck her and therefore she went 20+ years of her life without experiencing anything new sexually and also not gaining any kind of true sexual pleasure. She wanted one thing and he wanted something different and as usual, the husband only followed what he desired and disregarded her desires.
Here we see that a young (inexperienced) woman should be massaged to help her relax and learn about what she likes best. In order to help her learn what she likes best it gives directions on specific places to touch. What is not mentioned is the fact that in order to truly learn from foreplay it would involve applying different pressures and speeds to your techniques so that a woman can see how her body reacts and thus revealing what truly turns her on or not. If a woman is seasoned (experienced) then a man should do what he knows she likes or he should listen to her if she tells him where and how to touch her. Young or seasoned, we then see that kissing is also a very important factor. Once the sexual union is finished, a man should not just get up and leave her there. He should in fact continue to show her his affection by cuddling with her and or conversing with her again.
“Man and woman, being of the same nature, feel the same kind of pleasure, and therefore a man must first sexually arouse the woman by ardent love play, and then vigorously commence his sex act, so that she reaches the climax earlier or simultaneously with him.” ‒ Kama Sutra
Once again we see the mention that it is very important to please a woman’s entire body so that we do not finish ahead of her. While many women might not mind the occasional misfire, they will eventually become displeased if it is a constant occurrence.
There are several ways you can tease and arouse a woman; the most important thing to know is that every part of your body will provide a different sensation to her. The most common of these parts you can use are…
Mouth, Lips
Tongue, Teeth
Nipples
Hands, Fingers, Fingernails
Toes, Toe Nails
Now that you know what parts of your body you can use, you have to know what parts of her body to use them on. Not only does each part of your body that you use to stimulate her provide it’s own unique sensation, but the area in which you are touching her will provide another unique sensation. There are numerous ways to go about touching a woman; the following is a basic list of different places and ways to stimulate your partner.
On one last note I will mention that foreplay is setting the stage for the way you will soon be having sex. If you plan on engaging in rough sexual intercourse afterwards then I would suggest you be a little firm when you are caressing her body so that she can sense what kind of mood you are in. If you want to make love to her slowly afterwards then make sure you are very gentle and loving in the ways you caress her body. Either way you desire it you should make sure that you keep pace. Massaging her roughly will probably get her set in a more aggressive mood. If you then suddenly make love to her when she felt like you were going to fuck her then you will loose your connection to her and thus probably not be able to obtain the maximum sexual pleasure possible. Always follow the rhythm in which you set! Altering it greatly can in fact ruin the pleasure and possibly even the mood altogether.
The mouth: Many people often only think of the mouth in terms of kissing. While kissing is wonderful (as addressed in a previous section) sometimes there are other things that can be done to it.
Finger(s): Slowly trace around her mouth.
Slowly run one of your fingers across her upper and lower lips.
Insert one of your fingers into her mouth so she can suck on it.
Tongue: Lick along her lower lip.
Lick along her upper lip.
Lick the corners of her mouth.
Nape of the neck: You can softly slide your fingertips or the palms of your hand along this area alone or while you are kissing her. Kissing here gently while stroking her breasts is a nice combination. Always try blowing gently while sweeping your head side to side.
The ears: Not all women find the ears sensitive, some do love it though. You can kiss and suck on her earlobes or just stroke all the way around the ear with your fingertip(s). Some may choose to flick the earlobe with their tongue.
Inside of the elbows: As with the back of the knees this area can be very sensitive for some people. Kissing or running your fingers around here is a nice touch though.
The breasts: Not all women do actually enjoy breast or nipple stimulation as sensitivity varies from woman to woman. While some women have highly sensitive breasts, you will find that others have little to no sensitivity. The easiest way to tell if the woman you are with enjoys the stimulation is by her reaction. If you are touching her breasts and she gives out a loud or gentle moan, or closes her eyes while she thrusts her head back and chest forward, then it probably means she likes it and wants it to continue. Here are some of the things you can do if she does like having her breasts played with…
Finger(s): Run small circles (clockwise or counter-clockwise) around the base of her nipples or to the tip directly.
Using two of your fingers, gently pinch her nipple or roll it between your fingers.
Run one of your fingers back and forth over the tip so it rocks back and forth.
Flick the tip gently with one of your fingernails.
Hand(s): You can cup the entire breast in your hand and gently squeeze it.
Softly place your hand against her breast so that it is hardly making contact and slide your hand up and down to tickle them. (The grooves in your hands can create added friction against the tip of the nipple if you line your them up right).
Mouth and tongue: Gently suck the tip of her nipple, or slide your mouth around the base and suck on all of it.
Flick the tip of her nipple with your tongue (rapidly or slowly), or softly run clockwise and counter-clockwise circles around the tip and base.
Blow a small puff of air against the tip of her nipple.
Kiss her nipple lightly or kiss all around her breast.
Lick down around the base of her breast.
Lips: Gently brush your upper or lower lip against the tip of her nipple.
Teeth: You can use your teeth to lightly bite or graze the tips of her nipples, however this should be done with caution as it may not be what very many women might like.
Nipples: Softly press your nipples to hers and gently grind them together. This is a very nice addition for when you are kissing her.
When playing with a woman’s breasts you should make it a point to alternate as to not get one overly sore. Treat them with care by doing the same thing to the new one as you just did the other. Some women seem to have varying sensitivity between breasts, it would be a good point if you knew this before tackling them as it could mean some techniques will work better on one then the other.
The hands: Women love to suck on a guy’s finger to tease him and men can do the same! Suck on her fingers, and run your tongue over the tips to give her a preview of the action you are about to give her genitals when you get down there (if you are planning to). You can also run the tip of your tongue across the grooves of her hands and around her fingernails.
The back and shoulders: The back and shoulders is another place that often seems to be over-looked. This area houses the spine and shoulder blades, which as we all know can provide intense pleasure when stimulated.
Finger(s): Slowly dance your fingertips up and down her spine
Slowly run one of your fingers along the base of her shoulder blades.
Softly caress her shoulders, either at the same time or one at a time.
Mouth: Kiss up and down her spine.
Kiss across her shoulders.
Gently blow small puffs or one long puff of air along her spine.
Tongue: Lick up and down her spine slowly.
The stomach: Depending on the woman’s body structure her stomach may be very sensitive. If she is someone who is sensitive then you should make it a point to spend some time here.
Finger(s): Run one of them around her bellybutton.
Gently slide your pinky finger in and out of her bellybutton (if you can).
Slowly trace along her abs.
Mouth: Kiss her bellybutton
Kiss down the center of her stomach to her bellybutton and then back up.
Tongue: Lick around her belly button.
Dip the tip of your tongue into her bellybutton.
Lick along the center of her stomach.
Lick around the base of each of her abs.
The buttocks: Many people are uncomfortable with having their butts played with. Make sure that the woman does not mind your hands being in this area before you approach it. If you have a green light there are several things that can be done…
Finger(s) and hands: Run one up and down her crack.
Gently press one of them against the opening of her anus. Do not penetrate into her, the object is to tease the muscle and get it to flex or spasm a little.
Lightly tap one of her cheeks. As with the breasts you should make sure to alternate between cheeks if you are going to do this for long. Focusing on one for too long can result in getting rather sore. A little sore can be arousing, however obviously getting to sore could ruin the mood quickly.
Tongue: Lick up and down her crack.
Lick circles around the opening of her anus. Once again do not penetrate, you are just trying to tease the muscles.
Mouth: Gently blow along her crack.
Softly blow across and around her cheeks.
The vulva: When it comes to light foreplay you can pay attention to her genitals, but do not become too aggressive yet. This is a good way to tease her, but also will help you test her level of arousal. If you get your fingers down there and she is soaking wet then you know she is enjoying herself and will be able to accept your penis easily when it comes time for penetration. If you do not feel much wetness then it is a good indication that you still have some more work to do. Here are a few things that can be helpful for toying, and testing this areas level of arousal before you continue further.
Finger(s) and hand: Cup your hand over her vulva and gently rock it (your hand) like an ocean wave.
Gently tap her clitoral hood with one or two of your fingers.
Using two of your fingers, gently pull on each of her labia.
Take one of her labia and run it between two of your fingers, gently massaging it.
Run one of your fingers up and down between her labia.
Slide one of your fingers to the entrance of her vagina and circle it without penetrating her.
Inside of the thighs: I have noticed that many people approach the thighs only when they are getting ready to stimulate her genitals. If you always do this then a woman knows that the “innocent” fun is about to stop and become much heavier and intense. While this may be great a lot of the time, I do not think it would be all the time cause nobody always wants exactly the same thing over and over again. Because of the guessing game involved with this area it can really help to get a woman over the threshold.
Mouth: Kiss up and down her thighs from her kneecaps to her hipbone or kneecap to just below her genitals.
Tongue: Following the above, lick instead of kiss.
Finger(s)and hands: Gently dance your fingers up and down.
Using your hands rub small clockwise and counter-clockwise circles along her thighs.
Behind the knees: For some people behind the knees are often a very sensitive area. If this area were to be normally very ticklish on them then you would probably want to avoid it. Using your fingertips to gently massage this area can feel very wonderful for some though.
The feet: Some of us have very sensitive feet, actually I would say most people do. Even when ticklish the feet can provide some wonderful sensations that travel all the way back up our bodies. It would be good to make sure that her feet are clean before getting into heavy play here. If they are clean then taking a turn with sucking on each toe or licking slowly between them is something many women love. If you do not feel comfortable sucking on them then you can gently massage the heel, ball, and toes with your fingers.
Using your feet: At the beginning I mentioned that you could use your feet, however I did not give any details about it above. Your feet and legs can work wonders as a helping hand when playing with a woman’s upper body. If you are in an embrace with her kissing her mouth, breasts, shoulders, or arms you can always gently rub your feet up and down her calves. You may often find a woman naturally doing this to you as a sign she is enjoying what you are doing. Doing it to her if she isn’t you is a nice add-on though.
There are of course other things that can be done that I did not mention. Remember that we all like different things. I use the word “gently” a lot because I like things gentle, you can be rough if you desire, but make sure that is what your partner wants as well. Teasing can be a wonderful thing and foreplay can be a wonderful way to accomplish that. You want to know the limit though; sometimes there is such a thing as to much teasing. Once it comes to that point it is possible that she may become frustrated and then ruin her mood.
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Treating Women Like the Goddesses that they Truly Are (Rough Draft)
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Publié :30/7/2005 15h51
Dernière mise à jour :12/3/2010 10h54 38273 vues
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I had to add much to this and subtract some other stuff. Some was posted a few days ago but most of it was not.
“Treating Women Like the Goddesses That They Are”
“It has been my observation that the surest way to guarantee a man’s ability to turn on a woman and drive her mad with desire is through good old-fashioned courting.” - Lou Paget
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to fall upon the man, and he slept; then he took one of his ribs and closed up the flesh at that place. The Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to man. The man said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called woman, because she was taken out of man.” - Genesis 2: 18, 21-23 (New American Standard Bible)
The bible is without a doubt one of the greatest writings yet produced on this Earth. Not everyone that exists is a religious person, but millions of people are all over the world. Even those who are not connected to a specific religion do have some kind of spirituality or basic belief system. It would appear that this very passage in the bible has been the foundations of the way men have and continue to perceive women throughout history and even still in today’s society.
Not only is religion hard to understand, but the English language in general can be just as hard to understand. The words have so many different meanings that we see them in various writings and yet have to really stop and think about what they mean in their particular pieces.
The Holy Bible is without a doubt one of the greatest writings ever produced. Although the world today is not as challenged by religion as it once was, it still effects virtually every corner of the Earth. The above passage is the very thing in which many seem to manipulate more than any other one. Many religious organizations teach that women should not have the same rights as men. Many of them also teach that women were placed on Earth as a servant to men. I must stop and wonder about these teachings… if God were so loving and kind then why on Earth would he ever create something only to be a servant to another? In order to understand what has happened within this, we must look to the actual definitions of the word that is being used; in this case the word is “companion.” According to the Merriam-Webster dictionary the word servant can have the following meanings: 1) one that accompanies another, 2) one that is closely connected with something similar, or 3) one employed to live with and serve another.
It is here that we see the English language manipulated in its biggest form. Based off the fact that women have so much power over men just through mere physical attraction, men have thus degraded them by claiming that they are meaning number three, they were strictly meant to be man’s servant.
It is my belief and general observation that most women within modern society are more knightly then men. I know this sounds harsh… but I am not here to be friendly! One must look at the general behaviors of “women” in order to see which one is more honorable.
Women tend to be more laid back in the physical aspects then most men. It is not that they are incapable of fighting or defending themselves, it is that they do not get hot tempered until they know there is no other choice. For women, violence is often a “last resort” were as with us men it is normally the “first” thing that we do. In many ways this can seem like more of a weakness… however, one who rushes into battle is without a doubt a fool. A passionate and intelligent person would take the time to get to know their enemy. As such… when a fight does come to take place, a woman is more likely to know everything that the man is going to try and do. One must remember that in most cases, the best offense is a good defense! Truly knowing your enemy is a very powerful defense, and thus can become an offense as well. Us men on the other hand… act more with the muscles in our arms or pants more than we do the muscle in our head. Lastly, I must commend women on the fact that when they do finally fight… they do so with extreme passion! Passion, I am afraid to say is something that many men in modern society do not know anything about.
Let’s take children as an example next. In the event of a woman accidentally getting pregnant… she often faces that challenge head on. As we all know, many men often hear the word “pregnant” and secretly begin to mentally plan their escape while he tries to smooth talk and say he is going to be there for her all the way. A man will be the first one to say he will be there for the woman every step of the way, and yet he will be the last to actually follow through with that oath. Sure there are women, who often get scared, I think this fear has more to do with her partner’s reaction though then it does her actually having a child within her belly. There are even women who say they do not want the baby and that it may even possibly ruin their life. The amazing thing comes when the child is actually born… that child suddenly becomes the center of the mothers universe despite her possible previous rejections. Many fathers will react the same way upon seeing the child. In many cases though, the moment the head begins to crown there will be a sudden breeze and when you turn around you will find a man shaped hole in the door from where the man crashed right through it during his quick escape.
In relationships of a short or long term status… men and women also show big differences. Women have a tendency to show some serious weakness here, often times they will give everything they have into each relationship. If something begins to go wrong… most women stick it out and think that it can get better if they put more effort into it (this can result in them getting seriously hurt). For most men, the moment something goes south… they are already mentally or physically packing their bags. It may perhaps seem as though a woman giving so much would be a weakness, however that is really not the truth. I must commend them once again for giving it a sure chance and not running away at the first sign of danger. I must curse most men for them being so willing to run away at the first sign of danger. Yes women do have a problem with knowing when to call it quits (they hold on longer then they probably should most of the time), but at least I can say that they made an effort!
The only time I can really say that a relationship can not be saved is during a verbally abusive one or a physically abusive one. As we see everyday in the news there are a lot of women who get beaten by their husbands. We see through many women’s self esteem problems that there are a lot of men who are verbally abusive as well.
Boys are young and can in fact make mistakes and then learn and grow past them. Boys often fall victim to pulling girls hair and teasing them on the playground. Sure it is not right but it is also a natural phase that most boy’s go through and then they learn the proper ways eventually. Older men on the other hand obviously have not learned better through their years and thus it is very safe to say that if a man is 25 to 30 years old (or older) and is still hitting women, he will always continue to hit women. Sometimes when something breaks, it can not be fixed!
In these examples… the woman is actually the stronger of the two. Why are they stronger? To put it simply… they care a lot more about things then men do. Men are physical and women are more spiritual (remember that being spiritual does not always mean religious). A Woman posses a natural passion for many things that man just simply does not.
I could sit here all day and continue to name the ways that women differ from men and how women are good at some things and men are good at others. I am not going to do that however because it should not matter who is good at what or who is better at what. There are a lot of things that women can learn from men and there are a lot of things that men can learn from women. While there are certain ways a man should always act when in public and around other men, there are also certain ways that a man should act in regards to women in general. It does not matter if you are romantically involved with a woman or not, all women deserve to be treated with the same manner of respect. As a man you will indeed always treat a woman you love better then a woman you do not love and hardly know. What I am about to mention though applies to all women in general.
The simplest way of thinking is that women always come before men. That does not mean a man should worship the ground in which a woman might walk. All it means is that women are beautiful and they deserve the right to be shown attention and affection at all times.
Stand when a Woman Enters a Room
A man should stand when a woman enters a room. This applies in a general sense of first meeting a woman in public. If you are lounging around at home with your wife or girlfriend she is not going to expect you to get up each and every time she comes and goes.
Always Pull out the Chair for a Woman
Women should again not have to be burdened with such petty things. It shows your loyalty and keeps it in her mind that you know she is present. Never allow a woman to begin to think that you are not thinking of her, we all know where such thoughts can lead. No point in wandering down a path that I am sure many of you men have wandered before, as the old saying goes “flattery will get you everywhere.” I would not word it that way, I would say, “flattery might get you everywhere.”
Kneel to Kiss a Woman’s Hand when meeting for the First Time
The Hollywood movie Hidalgo comes to mind in regards to this action. During one of the earlier scenes of the movie a woman offers her hand to Frank T. Hopkins (Viggo Mortensen) who happens to be a Western cowboy that is not familiar at all with the foreign ways of treating a woman. He does not know what to do with it and therefore he just shakes her hand.
Had he been more observant then he would have realized what it was she was looking for. When a woman offers her hand for a handshake it is often with the thumb up and the palm to the side. When a woman is offering her hand to be kissed it is often with the palm and fingers down.
If a woman offers her hand to you in such a way then it would be proper to clasp the tips of her fingers into one of your hands and then kneel down on one knee. You should raise her hand to your lips slowly and gently; anotherwards do not suddenly tug or yank on her hand. Make sure that when you kiss the “back” of her hand that you do so with your lips and don’t try licking or slobbering all over her hand. This is not meant to be an arousing or sexual act in general; it is simply recognition of her beauty.
In most cases a man will not have the opportunity to perform an act such as this. Many people do not shake hands when meeting and even fewer women offer their hand for a man to kiss when they first meet. A man can not simply grab a woman’s hand and kiss it. If a woman desires to make contact or to have her hand kissed then she will offer it to him. While I believe in this act, many women no longer do.
Open the Door for Her
Back in history it was common for men to have women lead the way due to the possibility of attack or ambush. I find this absolutely horrifying that any man would value his life over that of a woman. Things are no longer as brutal as they once were; obviously there is not a fear of attack or ambush in our day to day lives anymore. Opening the doors for a woman is yet another one of those things that some women today take great offense to because it could once again possibly mean that a man is trying to say the woman is weak. I do not do this because I think women are weak, I just do not think a woman should have to be burdened with such minor things. Try and avoid smart comments when doing this for a woman, just hold the door for her and give a little nod if you feel it appropriate. Saying “after you ma’am” is something that could seem sweet or possibly offensive, try to avoid it unless you know that particular woman well. Saying, “ladies first” is probably yet another phrase that could possibly be offensive to a woman that you do not know. I would stick to a nod or nothing at all until you know your audience.
Carry Items for Her
This appears to be another thing that is no longer very common in modern society. Perhaps women see it as a control issue, kind of like saying that they are not strong enough to carry something. It should give the message that as a man you do not believe a woman should have to carry “to many” items at once. Try to focus this on certain situations such as, helping with groceries, luggage, shopping bags, etc. If you see a woman carrying more then her arms seem to desire to contain then relieve that burden from her. While offering to carry something for a woman when she has a bag or a book in her hand seems nice, you have to remember that it really isn’t making the same impact as it would if she were to have a stack or books or a handful of bags.
Maintain Eye Contact
It is proper respect to look a person (male or female) in the eyes when you are speaking to them. Most men normally allow their eyes to dart around her body and pay close attention to a woman’s breasts or legs. It is of course human nature to have both that attraction and that reaction. However, a man needs to do his best to pay attention to what a woman is saying to him. More importantly, a woman needs to know that he is in fact paying attention to her. Keeping your eyes in contact with hers will show that you are in fact listening even if you are not necessarily talking a lot.
Watch your alcohol
Many people enjoy a drink now and again; some doctors even say a shot a day is actually good for you. Us men tend to be a little heavier in the drinking department. This needs to be monitored by you because it presents a negative image of you to your partner and any possible future partner(s) that sees you that way. Remember that there is a time and a place for everything, drinking all the time is not going to show you in good manner(s), your actions will slip, your words can slip, and the list goes on about possible issues it can cause. I am not saying to stop drinking, just limit how much. A lot of guys seem to find it nice to go home and pop open a beer before doing anything else! The first thing you should always do is acknowledge your wife or girlfriend and then your children (if you have them). Remember to put them first! While I am not a religious man, I do like what the Holy Bible teaches in regards to alcohol. Alcohol is more then welcome to be used but it should not be used in an abusive manner. A man or woman should stop himself or herself before they reach a point of being totally drunk.
Watch the Language
I do not like these words in person or even just casually mentioning them here, but words like these… pussy, cunt, bitch, slut, whore, dike, and the list goes on (you have the idea). These words are not okay to be using, some women might like hearing them when in certain moods, but the majority of them will not and until you know that you should not even think them let alone actually say them! Never use them around anyone not even other guys! Doing so could make you accidentally slip some time when you are around a woman. There is a time and a place for everything, this however is one that really does not normally have a time or place either.
Maintain Good Table Manners
It does not matter if you are within your own home, or out in public, there are certain things that are okay and then there are certain things that are not okay. Sitting at home in private with the family, out in public with the family, perhaps out on a date, at work, or even just hanging out with friends… there are certain ways in which one should behave. I could sit here and say that you should never have your elbows on the table and that you should always place a napkin in your lap. I am however not going to lecture on these particular things because they are a matter of personal taste. I am going to say however that one should not engage in yelling or raising their voice. Saying, “excuse me” after passing gas is a very big courtesy issue. It is considerably more appropriate to actually leave the table to do these things, but if by accident you do pass gas then you should apologize for it. I know that it is already embarrassing enough to disrupt the meal as is, but it is even more disruptive to not offer an apology after interrupting the meal. Be mindful of your language in general, you are obviously not the only person there and one should make sure that your language would not offend the others. I would not suggest foul language at all even if your party does not mind it, however that is obviously your judgement call and not mine.
Listen
People speak because they have something to say. Obviously they desire to have someone truly listen to what they are saying or they would not bother saying anything at all. When someone is speaking to you then turn to him or her and make eye contact. Do not just nod along or say “okay” a few times, as this is very annoying. If you really do not want to talk right then, then make sure to politely tell them that. You should also make sure that you make a mental note though and find them later to have the conversation that they were trying to have with you.
Not only is listening to another when they are speaking a matter of respect, but how you return the conversation is also going to show your level of respect and maturity. Never use your fists as a resolution to a problem. If you are in a heated conversation and need time to breathe then express that to the person in which you are speaking to. If they are as well mannered as you they will then give you some space so that you may cool down.
Communication is the foundation for everything! It is essential that you discuss your feelings with anyone you are close to. People can not possibly know how you feel if you do not specifically tell them how you feel. Be mindful not to hurt the person in which you are dealing with, and do not allow them to hurt you. With time and practice, you will learn that virtually any problem can be solved if you are able to talk about it together.
No Means NO
If someone asks you not to do something or to stop doing something after you have started then you need to be respectful and follow his or her wishes. As people we often get carried away in the moment and thus allow ourselves to do things that we would not normally actually want to do. Because of this it is very possible that we may begin something and then suddenly realize it is not right and then want to remove ourselves from that situation.
While this can apply to many different things in life, it has a much bigger result in regards to relationships between men and women. A lot of men hound women to perform various acts (sexual and even non-sexual). More often then not a woman is not going to feel comfortable with what is being asked of her. With persistent and smooth talking men, often times the woman will do, as the man desires despite her ill feelings about it. At some point in time she is going to wake up (maybe during or maybe afterwards) and want the activities to stop. I know a lot of men who complain about this and I have to wonder why it is they are complaining? The truth is that in this kind of situation, the women did not even want to start and due to the man being a smooth talker, he then convinced her to do that in which she had no real desire to do. Considering she originally told the man no then that man and men in general have no right to get upset when she gets up and walks away or just asks the man to leave.
If you are a man that does not want to be in this kind of situation then do not allow yourself to be in it. Before you attempt something you should discuss it with the person or people that are involved. Since you are actually a legal adult I would suggest that you actually act like one. If you are a real man and truly love those around you then you would never want to do anything that might make them uneasy. Talk to them and make sure that they give their opinion and then you give yours. In the end, both sides should be respected and no pressure or smooth talking should be used. What is better… a woman truly giving herself to you, or her giving herself to you only because she has no other choice?
Let a Woman Make Her Own Choices
To explain this I am going to use an old story from the legend of King Arthur (Arthurian Legend).
In short… Arthur looses a duel and is told that he has so much time (365 days, one year) in order to solve a riddle/question or come back and forfeit his life. The question is… What does a woman want?
For the next year Arthur and all of Camelot tries to find an answer to this question. Needless to say, the great king and his great city are unable to figure this question out.
With his 365 days (one-year) up… the king rides to his fate. Along the way Arthur comes across a very disgusting looking old woman who asks him, “Why are you so cheerless?” He responds by telling her of what is to come of him and why. The hideous woman cackles at him and tells him that she can answer the question. Hearing this, Arthur tells her that he will grant her anything she wants if she would be willing to help save his life. In return she supplies him with the answer, “What a woman wants most is to have her own way.” Upon telling the knight who beat him the answer to his question, Arthur is freed from having to forfeit his life.
Now freed and cheerful again, Arthur gets word of what the Loathly Lady desires in return for her having helped. She desires to marry one of his Knights of the Round Table!
Being the most noble of the knights… Sir Gawain steps forward to marry the lady (Dame Ragnelle).
Upon their wedding night (which Gawain has been dreading since she is a hideous old woman) she reveals to him that she is actually a very beautiful woman. She was cursed so that she would only be beautiful for half of the day (a reverse story to Shrek where the princess was beautiful by day and hideous by night). She gives Sir Gawain the choice of whether or not she should be beautiful by day and hideous by night, or beautiful by night or hideous by day? He ponders this for awhile… should she be beautiful by day so that all of the men can envy what he has, or should he only allow her to be beautiful by night so that he can have her beauty strictly to himself? In the end, he says the choice is not his to make, but is in fact her choice to make. Upon giving this answer… the curse is lifted and she remains beautiful for all the future days and nights.
A man should never speak for a woman unless she asks for it. A man should never make a decision for a woman even if she does ask for it. It is not proper to speak for another and it is not proper to think for another. While you may intervene when a woman is in jeopardy you may not think and speak for her.
While those are all things that I think are mandatory when dealing with a woman, there are also more things that should be done for women that you care for.
It never hurts to take a moment from your day to give a gift to your loved one. Many people seem to think that all gifts require money. This is not the case… there are numerous things in which you can do for a woman that does in fact involve spending money. There are also numerous things that you could do in which you do not have to spend any money at all. Sometimes the cheap and simple gifts are actually more meaningful then the big expensive ones. Often times it is the little things in life that actually matter more then the big things.
Remember that when you do something for someone else (especially someone you love) it should not be done with the expectation of getting something in return. The definition of a gift is… something voluntarily transferred by one person to another without compensation. If by chance you do happen to get something in return then you could accept it, or if you wish you may decline it. Do not go off getting upset though if you do not get anything out of it. Giving something only to get something is not what gifts are all about! If you give a gift to someone and they give one back to you then it is not really an exchange. Obviously you have done something that made them feel something and they suddenly desire to make you feel something similar in return.
There are a lot of men who think that they are the ones who court the woman. When in fact it is actually the woman who courts the man! A man can not get anywhere with a woman unless she allows it to happen. You can buy her a drink, but she has the choice to accept it or reject it. You can send her flowers, but she can turn away the delivery if she so chooses. If you lean in to kiss her then she can either lean in as well, thus accepting it or she can lean away and reject it. It really is more her choice then it is a man’s choice. The best way to get a woman to not reject you is by being polite, and by being polite you must have and show proper manners and respect towards her and everyone else. How ones friends and family feel about you will often have a very significant impact on how a specific woman feels about you.
Here is a short list of things you can do for your loved one to show your appreciation or affection on a consistent basis…
Send her flowers: Flowers are something that many women enjoy, there are a few things to consider when sending a woman flower’s though. Flowers do eventually die; therefore you want to make sure they are as fresh as possible. If you go out on a date and bring flowers then you have to remember that once the date is over the flowers then become a representation of your feelings for her and overall impression of her. If you really care for her then you would take the little bit of extra time or money required in making sure that the flowers are fresh. Every time she looks at them she is going to remember you, obviously the longer they last the longer she will remember your gesture.
Something to keep in mind when getting and giving a woman flowers is the meaning of the flowers you send. Yes, it is true; flowers do actually have different meanings! For instance… a red rose can be a representation of love and respect, just respect, or just love. It is most common though for the red rose to be a symbol of love. A yellow rose is commonly a representation of friendship. You can mix these two flowers to send a message of “a loving friendship” if you desire to. The real point being in the fact that you can actually create a secret message with the mixture of different flowers. There will be many women who would decipher you message quickly and others who will have absolutely no idea what possible message it gives.
You do not always have to actually go to a store and buy the flowers. You can always stop along the side of the road and pick a wild flower(s) to bring home. You could also take them from your own garden (if you have one) before you walk into the house. Either way, it is the thought that counts!
Breakfast in bed: While your lady is asleep you can sneak out of bed and prepare her a nice breakfast of your choice. Obviously it would help a great deal to know what her preference is and then prepare something that suits it. Grab a tray and bring it up to her, place the tray next to her. Gently awaken her, when she awakens she will be greeted with a pleasant surprise! Always a good way to start off the day now isn’t it? Nothing is better then a beautiful and genuine smile from a woman!
Cook a dinner: Even today many women still seem to mainly be the cook of a lot of households. Sometimes it can be a real treat to cook the dinner so she does not have to. This would work well just about any given day; it would work best though if you happen to know your lady has had a rather stressful or bad day. Obviously she would be even more stressed at the idea of having to go right home and prepare a meal. Imagine her surprise if she was to walk in and see a meal already prepared! Talk about a sudden stress relief and true moment of happiness.
Jewelry: Jewelry can be a tricky thing… not all women like jewelry and some women are actually allergic to certain types. This is something that you should buy if you know the woman you are buying it for. Nothing is worse then spending a large amount of money and then getting it home to her just to discover she does not like it or is unable to wear it. This could result in possibly a bigger hassle then anything else, I know it is a very nice gesture, but you may want to stick with something that won’t possibly backfire.
Calling to say hello: Sounds strange doesn’t it? Sometimes it is very nice for a man to make a spontaneous call to his lady that will show her he has been thinking of her even while they are apart.
Cuddling: Us men are known for only getting close to a woman when we want to get a piece of action. Imagine the surprise when you actually get close to your lady without actually trying to take it further. Wrap your arms around her and hold her, bring your head to hers and just lay there. Allow her to feel the warmth of your body and the thump of your heart within your chest. Allow yourselves to drift away together to a far off place and just relax.
You may just decide to take a moment to gently run your fingers through her hair. Perhaps gently run your fingers over her thighs and stomach. This is a time for enjoying each others company though, and the object is not to get some action from her.
Allow a little free time: Our lives can become very chaotic rather quickly can’t they? If you happen to be a married couple with children then I am sure you know this all to well! If your wife happens to be the one who deals with the children most of the time then it can be a very nice surprise for her if you change the role. Take the initiative to arrange the opportunity for her to go and get away. Take the children out of her hair so that she may use a much earned and needed hour or two alone where she could possibly just sit and relax, read, or maybe even take a nice warm and relaxing bath. What she wants to do is her choice, but you need to be the one to create the opportunity.
Go for a quiet walk: I must say that even when you are alone it is very peaceful and relaxing to sometimes go for a walk. This could be a stroll along the beach, a walk through the woods, or walking down the street after a nice snowfall.
This is one of the reasons I love the state I live in so much. The population is pretty small as is, but after a fresh snowfall it is nearly totally dead outside. Going out afterwards and walking around is wonderful cause the snow is covering the trees, it crunches lightly under your feet as you walk, overall it is very enjoyable. It provides a temporary escape from all the worries and troubles of the world.
Do the dishes: Many homes today all have automatic dishwashers, not all of them do though. If your woman happens to be the one who not only cooks but also does the dishes afterwards as well then you could relieve some of the duties from her. If she has to ask you to do the dishes then you have just failed. The trick is to get up somewhat promptly without being asked and do the very thing that she would normally do. This is a very small but possibly very meaningful gesture. It could give her a small moment of time where she can now go relax, or maybe she will join you and dry them as you wash. Either way you have just gained something, either given her an added moment of relaxation, or got an extra moment of time together in a joint activity.
Draw her a bath: There are lots of women out there who enjoy the relaxation that comes from soaking in a nice warm bath. Light some candles and scatter them around the room to cast a gentle illumination and then toss in some bath salts or some bubble bath and allow the tub to fill. (Make sure the aroma’s all compliment each other otherwise it could become a environment that is not very enjoyable very quickly). If she has had a long day at work or even just around the house then she will be very pleased to be able to walk into such a gentle environment.
Dance with her: Not everyone likes to dance, but for those who do… allow yourself to be caught in the moment. It does not matter if there is actually music playing or not, if you feel the sudden urge to sweep your woman into your arms and dance then go ahead and do it! It will have a much bigger effect if it is unexpected then it would be if you actually planned on going to a club or ball.
Write her a note: Sometimes it is wonderful to just leave a simple note somewhere that your woman might not normally look. You could leave it in a dresser drawer so she is surprised when she opens it. You could leave a note on the bathroom mirror if you know she is about to go right in after you have taken a shower. You could arrange the refrigerator magnets to say a special message.
The last time I was visiting my brothers house I noticed that there was a ton of miniature magnets all over the refrigerator. Each magnet has one word, and they we arranged into a poem. I stopped to ask them who had done the poem. They told me that they make it a daily ritual for one of them to leave a note or poem on the refrigerator using the magnets. Sometimes they blindfold one another and then they each pick ten words. Once they pick the ten words they then try and figure out a way for them to describe their feelings or relationship with each other using only those words.
This is a perfect example of what I am talking about. Sometimes little things like this can be a great deal of fun and have very some very deep meaning.
Start her car: If you happen to live in a cold area where you get snow some of the months in the year then you can make it a point to go out and start her car for her in the morning. Take the time to brush it off and let it heat up so when she gets out there she doesn’t have to freeze her butt off.
A picnic at work: You can always drop by her office unexpected with a picnic basket and have lunch together.
Compliment her: Always remind her how beautiful she looks, how great she smells, and so on and so on. With some women, flattery is the most wonderful thing to them. Never pass up the opportunity to tell and show a woman how you feel about her.
Obviously there are more things that you can do for her. Every woman has different desires; this should help get you thinking in the right direction though.
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Circumcision & Abortion
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Publié :5/1/2009 12h57
Dernière mise à jour :12/3/2010 10h53 37652 vues
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Women are given the legal right to decide if they want to have an abortion and there isn't much of anything that a man can do about it because a woman has the right to make decisions regarding "her own" body. Why aren't men given that same constitutional right and freedom... why is it that parents get to decide to cut the foreskin of a infants penis off without caring or considering how that infant feels about it?
Sure... you can argue that an infant isn't capable of making that type of decision, which is exactly why no decision should be made until the child is old enough to make it for themselves.
The moment an infant takes its first breath... it is no longer considered "part of a woman's body" and is therefore entitled to the same rights' and privileges as any other American citizen. It can be argued that parents are the guardian of a child until they are 18 years of age and therefore it is still a parents' right to make this decision for the child. A parent isn't legally allowed to force their daughter to have an abortion even if they are a teenager, which means parents' guardianship does not authorize them to cut the foreskin of a man's penis off either.
Men deserve the right to make this decision for themselves!
Why are women given so many legal privileges that men aren't?
According to most available medical research; male circumcision helps prevent or reduce acquiring or spreading a limited amount of sexually transmitted diseases. This is exclusive to sexual contact, which means that a child would be 12 years of age or older before his penis being circumcised or uncircumcised would actually matter.
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Using Webcam's Safely
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Publié :13/7/2008 15h19
Dernière mise à jour :4/1/2009 17h20 33947 vues
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In today�s technological world exposing parts of your body or masturbating on a web camera is not uncommon. Some people get pleasure in watching a live feed of another person pleasuring themselves while other people get pleasure from allowing others to watch them on a live feed.
I certainly will not say that watching someone expose themselves or watching a person masturbate on a web camera is a bad thing. On the other hand I do think that there are some basic safety guidelines you should be using when watching or allowing yourself to be watched.
Watching someone else: Please keep in mind the following information when watching someone VIA a Web Camera.
1) Do not be pushy. When you are watching someone that is shy or uncomfortable it is smarter to give him or her time to warm up to you. In my opinion it is wrong to force someone to perform an act for you because they aren�t going to enjoy it nowhere near as much as you will. Masturbation deserves the same rules that sexual intercourse does in that both parties should be completely satisfied or there is no point in having sex at all.
2) If you are chatting with the person as well as watching them you should be talking to them in the manner they ask. It may be that they want to talk erotically or it could be that they are nervous and want to talk about something non-sexual. Regardless of what you personally desire it is your responsibility to be respectful to the person you are watching.
3) Make sure that you are watching someone that is of legal age to be doing what they are doing. Teenagers between the ages of 13 to 17 shouldn�t be watching a man or woman that is older than age 18 and a person that is over the age of 18 should not be watching someone younger than the age of 18.
4) If you are watching someone that thinks they are exposing themselves to you privately then do not lie if you have friends around. While they might be okay with you seeing them naked or performing a sexual act they may wish to not show the entire world. It is very important to respect the privacy of the individual that you are watching.
5) Do not give out personal information about yourself to people on the Internet. Even if you know a person in real life there is no need to reveal your personal information on the internet since they either should already know that information or you could exchange that information with them in person, which is a lot safer than broadcasting it over the Internet.
Of course there are other things that you can probably think of as far as safety precautions go but this is the most important information to consider first. Masturbating while watching another person masturbate is by far the safest way to experience some form of sexual pleasure but make sure you don�t get carried away and put yourself at risk.
Letting others' watch you: Please keep the following information in mind when exposing yourself or performing sexual acts for another person VIA Web Camera.
1) Do not give out personal information about yourself to people on the Internet. Even if you know a person in real life there is no need to reveal your personal information on the internet since they either should already know that information or you could exchange that information with them in person, which is a lot safer than broadcasting it over the Internet.
2) If you only want one person to watch you then please make sure that you ask them if they are alone or if any of their friends are around watching. If they have friends around and you don�t want them to see you then I would suggest stopping the act all together. You can ask the person to have their friends go away but odds are that even if they tell you their friends left those friends are still there watching.
3) Do not allow yourself to be pressured into doing things that you don�t want to do. If you feel like pleasing yourself but don�t want to expose your whole body then leave your panties or boxers on even if the viewer tries to persuade you to take them off. In the same, if you don�t want to do anything sexual at all then disconnect the feed if your viewer keeps trying to persuade you to take your clothes off.
4) Do not take money in exchange for letting people watch you take your clothes off. While our laws do not see this as criminal I still do. Porn actors get paid to act out movie scenes just like regular Hollywood actors do. Charging someone money to watch you take your clothes off or masturbate is still money in exchange for a sexual favor and hopefully our legal system will recognize that soon.
5) Tell your viewer what you want and make sure they comply with your wishes or terminate the feed. If someone is disrespectful enough to degrade you or insult you while you are giving them such a nice gift I would suggest kicking them to the curb altogether and finding yourself another playmate.
6) Do not use your Web Camera as a means to tease classmates, coworkers or anyone that you see or interact with on a regular basis or somewhat regular basis. I would hate to see a man or woman get physically assaulted because they got carried away with teasing someone on a Web Camera.
7) Do not expose yourself on a Web Camera unless you know you are doing so in privacy. While I previously mentioned that you should make sure your viewer is alone it is also important to make sure that you are also alone. It would be wise to make sure that your relatives, roommates or friends are away or make sure you are in a room that you can lock the door and not have someone else walk in on you during your broadcast.
 Do not expose yourself behind your partners back. It may be that your girlfriend is unhappy with you so you decide to masturbate while others watch or it might be that your boyfriend is away and you want to masturbate anyway; whatever the case I do not agree with or support engaging in sexual activities without your partners consent and knowledge. Masturbation may seem harmless to some people and yet to another person they may still consider it a sexual act worth ending a relationship over.
A note to parents: In today�s day and age it is better and safer for your child to learn about sex or sexually experiment over a Web Camera than it is if they go out and have sex with multiple people they casually meet on the streets. Talking about sex with your children may be very difficult for some parents but it is extremely necessary. If you do not feel comfortable talking to your child about sex then I would suggest you find websites or books that pertain to the topic and have your children read them.
In today�s work nearly every home has a computer and now that video chatting is so popular I am sure nearly all home with computers also have Web Cameras. Odds are is that if you have a very sexually curious child they have used the Internet to chat with others erotically, looked up pornography or even exposed their bodies to other people.
A child (This does not mean a young child it could be your 20 year old son or daughter that you still think of as a kid) is going to do what they want in most situations because we learn better from mistakes than we do anything else. The best thing that can be done to combat these types of mistakes it to make sure that your child is obeying safety rules as well as giving them a safe and constructive way to express their sexuality or a safe and constructive way of learning about sexuality.
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Using Webcam's... "No" Still means "NO"
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Publié :13/7/2008 14h43
Dernière mise à jour :4/1/2009 17h18 32443 vues
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In today's busy, chaotic Internet based world it is not uncommon for couples to endure long distance relationships. One of the ways people can communicate today sexually across great distances is through broadcasting images with the use of a webcamera. This does of course normally mean that one or both people will end up revealing 'parts' of themselves or they will reveal their entire bodies. It is also not uncommon that one or both people will masturbate while they view one another.
While this method is pleasing to some people and certainly removes the risk of contracting sexually transmitted diseases there are some other risks involved that should be considered before engaging in the activity...
When you broadcast an image over the Internet it is possible that someone may intercept it. Once another person has this feed or still image they can pretty much do whatever they want with it, such as showing it to their friends or even posting it on a web site.
Sure there are privacy laws that protect you in certain situations but when you are on the Internet, it can be very hard to prove that you didn't give this person permission to view your video and pictures as well as hard to prove that you did not give them permission to post it on their web site. Without being able to prove that this offender actually did something wrong you will likely have those videos or images forever on the Internet.
Some people feel differently about their bodies and therefore different people are willing to reveal different levels of nudity...
Some women may be willing to reveal their breasts while taking off their panties and showing you an actual close up of their vagina might be "off limits" as far as they are concerned. I've seen plenty of women on webcameras (on dating web sites) that will striptease until they meet someone worth being more playful with and then go off to privately show them more.
In a few situations I have seen women expose their breasts and then masturbate while leaving their panties on so that they wouldn't have to show their actual vagina to 'strangers'.
Some women couldn't care less about who does or doesn't see their bodies or what they are doing. They'll happily show you their faces and they will very happily let you see every centimeter of their body. After they have teased you enough they will give you as close of an angle as possible and masturbate with enough fury that you'll think they are trying to squeeze in one last quick orgasm before the world ends.
In many situations women are willing to reveal their face or their body but they are not willing to reveal both.
Everything depends on the two people that are interacting with one another as well as their fears about who is seeing them and what those people might be doing with those images. While it might be frustrating to have a woman say, "No I don't feel comfortable with that" she has legitimate reasons as to why she is saying no and it is her choice as to whether or not she wants to tell you why she is uncomfortable with revealing herself to you.
You could be married to a woman for 20 years and that woman still may not feel comfortable with revealing her body over a live webcamera feed. She isn't saying no because of you specifically, she is saying no because she might not be in the mood or simply because she is afraid of an eavesdropper.
Remember that "no means no" in all situations and once someone says no to you... back off and accept the answer you were given. It might be that if you try again later she will feel differently or maybe she won't. Sometimes giving a woman time is the only way to truly get something.
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Allow a Woman to Choose and Speak for Herself
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Publié :13/7/2008 13h40
Dernière mise à jour :29/4/2009 10h54 33644 vues
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I normally address issues from a neutral perspective because I don't like directly speaking for others'. I normally write to inform people of possibilities and then use that information to form their own opinion. In this particular case however I have a ton of experience so please pardon the "ranting" that may be portrayed.
We INFJs are a more feminine type of male than your average male. We are soft spoken in most situations or just plain don't speak at all unless we have something meaningful to contribute to the conversation at hand.
Due to my soft spoken nature I have had to deal with my mother, father, brother and sister always "speaking up for me". It doesn't matter if we are sitting around at a family gathering or out at a restaurant; my family members always voice my opinion about past events, current events and they even go to the extreme of ordering food for me at restaurants. The problem here is that they don't actually know what it is I truly think or feel and they rarely know what it is that I want to eat so they shouldn't be "speaking" for me.
This is a horrible thing to do to a person unless that person has specifically given you permission to do so! All people in general (especially a woman you are involved with) deserve the right to speak for themselves.
I know that a lot of males out there can tend to be a little overly dominant to the extreme of planning events without consulting with whom they are dating as well as even ordering food for a woman when they go to a restaurant. Unfortunately this flows into the bedroom as well by men only using positions that they believe the woman enjoys while having sex. Sadly a lot of this comes from prior relationship experience and most women can probably agree that you should avoid bringing old experiences into a new relationship.
Every relationship should be handled in the same type of manner that you handle meeting a new person. You meet them, get to know them and loosen up as the friendship forms. As time goes on you develop various comfort zones that are what ends of making that friendship or relationship a memorable and important part of your life.
The Kama Sutra (one of the oldest and most famous texts written) states, "If, however, she is a seasoned woman, he should do whatever is agreeable either to him or to her, and whatever is fitting for the occasion."
While the Kama Sutra is known as a "sex book" or "sex bible" it is important to remember that it was written not only as a guide for sexual pleasure but also written as a general guide to teach men how they should treat a woman.
In today's changing world, where women are fighting for independence, it is important to allow her the opportunity to choose what activities you do together, to allow her the right to say how you have sex as well as speaking freely in casual situations. Failing to allow a woman this right will often end up in a relationship taking a turn for the worse.
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Changing Things Around
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Publié :12/7/2008 20h03
Dernière mise à jour :29/4/2024 23h24 33583 vues
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I had previously posted that I wasn't going to post here anymore but I have gotten several emails wondering where I went or comments about wanting me to keep my blog going. I appreciate those comments and feedback and I am going to keep this blog up instead of deleting it.
I won't be posting to much on it aside from general advice because I am running my own blog off another site that actually generates income from advertisements and donations. I will be deleting a ton of stuff off this blog though so that all that remains are advice posts. I will also be removing some of my 'long' posts and breaking them up into smaller posts so that people can read them and comment easier.
I know that this will change the look of my ability to write which I am not fond of but those that have followed my blog for a long time know that I can write as well as think very creatively.
For those that have returned and those that are new... I hope you find some useful stuff on here.
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