You Can’t Beat the ‘Gag Reflex Excuse’
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Publié :23/4/2013 9h05
Dernière mise à jour :14/7/2021 13h07 11953 vues
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Ever wonder if some of the stuff you think you know about sex might not be true? Sex myths start for all sorts of reasons, and are usually buried in misinformation stemming from being uncomfortable with certain topics revolving around what goes on (or doesn’t!) in the bedroom.
Debunking those myths can broaden your range of sexual experience, and open the door to new adventures. All it takes is a little honest and open discussion with your partner to work through the hype and find out that nearly all things are possible! The following four sex myths are prime for debunking:
Sex Myth # 1: You Can’t Beat the ‘Gag Reflex Excuse’
Being well endowed is always good for bragging rights - but not always so great if you like receiving oral sex! Many women eye large equipment with a wary eye, and plead a gag reflex when the idea is broached. Most guys give up at this point, and either do without or find another partner. Fortunately, the ‘gag reflex excuse’ CAN be beaten!
Reassure her. She probably doesn’t have an aversion to the actual act of giving oral sex - she’s just scared you may try to cram it down her throat and she’ll throw up on you. (SO not sexy!) Lie back, grab the headboard and solemnly promise not to grab her head and force her down on you. Be patient and let her experiment - she doesn’t have to completely swallow you for it to be fun!
Offer motivation. If she’s still leary to go down on you, offer to do her first. Turn about is fair play! The sixty-nine position with her on top gives her control, and lets both of you have some fun.
Try it together! If you’re really self confident in your manhood, buy a couple of sex toys and hold a contest with her to see who can deep throat the most inches. When the situation is casual instead of tense and loaded with anxiety, it’s a lot easier to relax and just go with the flow. Once she figures out that she probably won’t puke all over you, she’ll be much more inclined to give the real thing a go.
Sex Myth # 2: Women Don’t Want a One Night Stand
Oh, please. Women today have evolved wayyyy past the “I need a man to protect and provide for me” stage. We have jobs and careers just like you… and sometimes the effort of starting a ‘relationship’ is just too much effort. We dream of meeting a guy who will spring for a nice hotel room, give us exactly what we want, cuddle for fifteen minutes and then leave so we can sleep in.
One small problem. Guys who do that are studs, but women are sluts - or so we’ve had hammered into our heads since birth. We still want to think of ourselves as ‘nice girls’, so let us have our illusions, OK? We want to pretend to ourselves that it’s a night of passionate romance while it lasts, so don’t tarnish it with dirty talk - we’re not whores just because we want to get off without commitment.
Sex Myth # 3: Anal Play is a No-No
Oh really? Nerve endings are nerve endings, and anything down there can trigger a lot of excitement - for both of you! Drop the idea that women who like anal play are nasty, or that men who like it are secretly gay.
Guys, you’ll find your partner is a lot more likely to open up to the idea if you don’t make it a one way street. Admitting you like a little back door stimulation is more likely to turn her on than off, and if you let her experiment on you, she’ll probably let you play doctor with her, too.
Don’t miss out on heightened pleasure and fun because of ridiculous hang-ups or ‘taboos’. As long as you trust each other, you shouldn’t be afraid to try anything at least once!
Sex Myth # 4: Guys Don’t Fake
This is probably one of the most prevalent myths - that men can’t fake it. A study conducted among college age men and women revealed the shocking fact that while 50% of women admit to faking orgasm at some point, 25% of men admitted to doing the same thing!
When asked why they felt they needed to fake, men listed three main reasons:
Sex was taking too long and they wanted it to end without ‘hurting her feelings’
Orgasm was unlikely (in many cases due to medication they were taking)
They ‘missed their moment’ while trying to hold on until the woman climaxed
A man wearing a condom can fake just as effectively as a woman. The real question is should ‘faking it’ be necessary at all? Most sex therapists agree that honesty is the best policy - and sex without orgasm isn’t pointless. Once you and your partner agree that a climax is icing on the cake of a good time, you can both relax and enjoy yourselves. When the ‘pressure to perform’ is off, orgasm often comes naturally!
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Believe it or not, women have a prostate just like men do and that why they can squirt
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Publié :10/3/2013 15h31
Dernière mise à jour :3/4/2013 12h12 12111 vues
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The liquid that is being expelled from the urethra is prostatic fluid.
It comes from the female prostate which is also known as the G-Spot.
Believe it or not, women have a prostate just like men do!
In fact, the prostatic fluid has the same components as ejaculate except without the semen.
This fluid is clear and watery and can be released in amounts from a few droplets up to more than a cupful.
Women can ejaculate once in a session or several times. It can dribble, gush, spurt, squirt and anything in between.
There are several ducts called paraurethral glands which feed into the urethral canal which are housed inside that spongy mound with ridges called the G-Spot.
When she is aroused and or stimulated, these glands fill with fluid and get engorged with blood and release the ejaculate through the urethral canal when she expels the ejaculate either through pushing it out voluntarily or releasing it involuntarily.
All women have the capacity to ejaculate because we all have the anatomy to do so. Here are some reasons why women don’t ejaculate:
•*She simply doesn’t know it is possible or even exists.
•She mistakes the feeling of needing to ejaculate for the feeling of needing to pee and either holds back or goes to the bathroom.
•She has a hard time getting into a deeply aroused and surrendered place sexually.
•She is not with a partner she feels comfortable with.
•She doesn’t masturbate and is not in touch with her body
•She has body image issues and self-consciousness
•She doesn’t know where her G-Spot is and it is not getting enough stimulation
•She is afraid to let go or she is afraid the ejaculate might make a mess
•She has experienced sexual abuse, shame or trauma.
•Her Pelvic Floor Muscles or PC (Pubo Cocxygeus) Muscles are too tense or too weak
•She is not giving herself adequate enough time to build up the ejaculate and get into a highly aroused state
Just remember that there is nothing inadequate about you if you don’t or can’t ejaculate. You are not less than if you don’t ejaculate. So have lots of compassion for wherever you are at along your sexual journey and know that it is perfect. Just keep opening and exploring your sexuality and follow what brings you pleasure and connection with yourself and your partner
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The art of eating pussy
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Publié :16/8/2012 10h51
Dernière mise à jour :13/9/2012 17h43 12719 vues
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Lots of folks know how to eat pussy. But how many of us can say that we have perfected the art? Eating pussy is kind of like the sport of boxing- it's a sweet science.
Fortunately, becoming a champion at this craft doesn't take any brawn or talent. It takes some practice... and it takes passion.In order to separate yourself from the competition you need to hone your skills and put your heart and soul into the ordeal. No half assing it.
OK, enough of the boxing analogy- let's get down to brass tacks...
Going down on your girlfriend might take a little trial and error, but when you get it right- she will worship the ground that you walk on forever. What follows is a collection of our most effective oral sex tips and techniques:
How to Eat Pussy Tip #1: Make sure she's comfortable
The importance of this can't be stressed enough. This theme is mentioned all throughout this website for good reason. Even the silkiest of tongues won't make your lady purr like a kitten if she's feeling restless and insecure.
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How to Eat Pussy Tip #2: Learn Her anatomy
No two pussies are the same. They come in all different shapes and sizes. Some females have labia (lips) that fold inward; whereas others have thick, succulent lips that are begging for your attention.
It's a good idea to learn to locate your honey's clitoris. If you're lucky, her clit will be well exposed and visible to you without an awful lot of hunting. However, chances are that her little "orgasm button" will be hiding under what's called a clitoral hood. It's OK if you can't see her clitoris at the moment. For right now, you just need to have a general idea where it is located.
How to Eat Pussy Tip #3: Going in for the Kill
Great. You're almost there! Now is the time to be cool as a cucumber. Be sly... like a fox. Approach her pussy slowly. Women love to be teased.
Start with her stomach. Lick it. Kiss it. Make designs on her belly with the tip of your tongue. Next, slide your way down toward her genital region. Lick, kiss, and suck her inner thighs and all around her pussy.
DON'T EAT HER OUT JUST YET.
Continue to inch closer and closer to her nest, but drift away just before you get there. Do this a few times and your girlfriend will be climbing the walls with excitement!
When she starts panting like a dog in heat, you'll know it's time to start your feast. Nimbly caress her pussy lips with your mouth. Gently kiss and lick her labia as you work your finger in and out of her love tunnel. You can use your free hand to massage her breasts and play with her nipples.
If you really want to kick things up a notch- give your girlfriend the most extreme orgasm of her life. Treat her to the most intense pleasure possible by wearing an oral vibrator on your tongue. (No piercing needed.)
How to Eat Pussy Tip #4: Work the Clit
Gradually increase the pressure of your tongue on her supple pussy lips. Now, gently spread her legs as you maneuver your nimble tongue inside of her. After teasing her for a few moments more, her clitoris will be yearning for your affection.
Carefully pull her lips apart and look at her inner labia. Now look for her clit at the top of her vagina. See if her little pearl is ready to come out and play. If you can't see it, lick the hood of skin that is covering her clitoris while keeping her pussy lips slightly separated with your fingers.
At this point, your girlfriend should be extremely turned on and dripping wet, so don't be afraid to migrate from gentle licks to a more aggressive sucking action. Observe her response. You should be able to gauge how your lady is feeling by observing her body language. Then again, why risk misreading any signals? Just talk to her. Ask her how she's doing.
If she gives you the green light, start sucking harder on your girlfriend's clitoris. Gradually increase the intensity until she starts gyrating her hips like a belly dancer. When she grabs the back of your head and buries your face deep into her pussy while howling "Oh God... yeah... oh my God, don't stop... it feels so good... yes... yes"- you'll know she's almost ready to cum!
So, keep going. DO NOT STOP! Yes, your tongue probably feels like it's on its last leg of a 26 mile marathon... but that's all part of learning how to eat pussy. You can deal with it. You're a trooper! She's right on the edge of having the most amazing clitoral orgasm ever, so hang on to her precious little gem for dear life...
How to Eat Pussy Tip #5: Switch it Up
Now that you have perfected the art of eating pussy, you're ready for our last piece of advice. The best way to make a girl orgasm it to fit all of the puzzle pieces together. Don't get stuck on one thing. Pay close attention to how your lover responds to everything that you do. Every chick is different. If you are not getting the desired effect- switch things up a bit.
Stay busy using all of your weapons simultaneously. You've got much more than just a tongue. Hopefully, you are putting all of your fingers on both hands to good use. Have her suck your finger while you use your other hand to finger fuck her pussy. Try removing your wet finger from her mouth and using it to gently massage her ass hole. (You might have to approach her ass with caution. You don't want to freak her out. However, if she likes a little anal play- by all means indulge her!)
Remember, the words that you speak to your girlfriend can be just as powerful as what you are doing to her physically. Keep her comfortable and relaxed. Don't try to force her to do anything that she doesn't want to do. Remind her of how beautiful and sexy she is. Tell her how good she tastes. Reassure her about how crazy you are about her... Chicks love that shit!
All the while, continue to lick and suck away on your girlfriend's glorious clitoris. Finally, your honey will experience ecstasy as her sexual passion comes to a triumphant crescendo- and then... aah release!
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even if you are advertising yourself as a submissive woman, there will be men kneeling in front of y
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Publié :3/8/2012 4h59
Dernière mise à jour :28/4/2024 17h48 12655 vues
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Being a newbie, a curse?
Like in anything, in BDSM there is a first time for everything and this is exactly what I want to talk about. My original title was "The Curse of the newbie". Sometimes, I feel there is a curse in being a newbie in BDSM and you either feel that nobody wants you or worst, you are now fresh meat for some!
In this perfect world that BDSM is (hmmmm!) there are difference between men and women who begin in BDSM. It create this situation that I describe as "The curse of the newbie!"
For men:
Dominant men:
If you are a Dom (Top) and you are new in BDSM, it seems that this is used against you and often by women that are new to the lifestyle too!!!!!! It seems that women feel the need to find an experience Dominant partner, creating problems to Dominant men that begin! Their only posibility for the new Dominant men to find a female sub is to lie or change the truth a bit!
I am the first one to insist about being honest and telling the truth. How the hell a new Dominant man that begins in the lifestyle can fight something like that! I would say that the submissive women in the lifestyle should change their belief about this, because, they are the one who create this situation after all, but, we all know that pigs could start flying before this happened! There is not much that the new Dominant men in the lifestyle can do!
My suggestion is to stay honest. If a lady insists about wanting a Dom with experience, and you are beginning, just let her go to someone else....it is HER lost, and anyway, at the first problem, it will be thrown at your face that you are a beginner.... Just imagine; you lie to the lady and later on, she found out about the fact you were a beginner. That situation put a huge cold in the relationship, relationship that could explode because you lied! Worse; let's say that the relationship do explode, and the lady in question tell everyone that you are a liar.....This is really a loose / loose situation.
Submissive men:
Experienced or not, it is still hard to find a partner when you are a submissive men. But if you are young and handsome, you may find yourself in a situation that is very similar to what women go through.... Patience and tenacity are the keys!
For women:
Being a beginner in BDSM is VERY different from men when you are a woman beginning in BDSM.
Dominant women:
Believe it or not, even if you are advertising yourself as a submissive woman, there will be men kneeling in front of you, begging you to dominate them. Dominant women are very rare in BDSM. (I am not talking about pro-Dommes because, many of them, not all, have NO BDSM interest but the content of the wallet of their customer.) Yes women with genuine BDSM needs are rare. It mean that, when you advertise yourself as a female Dominant, you will have a list of men wanting to submit, even if you are a beginner!
Submissive woman:
Still today, there are more men than women in the lifestyle. According to a survey we made in 2007, there is about 3 men for every women (Domme and submissive) in the lifestyle. It mean that submissive women too, are in a good position to find a partner, yet, here, there is a very particular situation; women without experience is a very precious commodity in the BDSM market for BDSM submissive.
I must admit, I have a beef in this situation; Catharine and I have seen many Dominant men doing twist and turn to find a submissive female partner without experience, to have the thrill of "feeding" from a newbie female submissive. The Dom will give them a "proper training" in which they are going to give the submissive some values about what a submissive should be, well, according to them. Here is the problem; For us, a BDSM relationship is a long term one, where, slowly, the BDSM values are build upon time for a long term relationship, but these Dom do not want a long relationship, they just want the thrill of the "first time" and after getting it, they will not care about that submissive, leaving her often hurt and broken or at best, very confused about BDSM. We have seen many female submissive quit the lifestyle because of situation like this Incidentally, often these submissive were looking for a long term relationship with an experienced Dom ......
If you are a young and attractive woman, you will have a lineup of men wanting you as a partner..... You are a prize that often, they will want to show, but some Dominant men, after having play with their new "toy" will abandon it to find a "newer toy". ....Oh! If you think that you are not young and pretty, beware, you may be shocked to discover that you are a precious prize for men that think otherwise.
Ladies, I know that there are many that are saying " you must get an Experience Dom." If you are just looking for a short sexual game, it is perfect, but if you are looking for a long term relationship, bewares of not making the mistake of missing a good life Dominant partner because he is less experienced! I must put things back in perspective; yes, you may find a long permanent BDSM relationship with a experienced Dom, but, if you are talking with an experienced Dom, ask yourselves; where did he get all this experience, why he isn't with a sub now? Remember, as in life, in BDSM the saying is still true; "what shine isn't always made of gold!"
BDSM is a merciless world. When you are a beginner in BDSM, for different reasons, you become either an unwanted person (men looking for female Dom and being consider like am unwanted competitor) or you become a prey. Yet, I believe in honesty in BDSM. The only way to survive is to stay honest and careful. Do not rush into BDSM. Yes, I admit that we all want this relationship quickly, but, stay focus and take the time to negotiate when it is the time.
Be patient. If you are a man, remember that the odds are against you, but, we know of men finding partners. If you are a woman, be careful.
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Why would men want two women, when they can be perfectly satisfied with one?
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Publié :3/8/2011 18h02
Dernière mise à jour :11/3/2012 6h17 13885 vues
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just one?
I guess it is a psychological thing. After all, one woman has essentially all the same body parts as another. Why would men want two women, when they can be perfectly satisfied with one? That's sort of a silly question because it is like asking why Bill Gates didn't retire after making his first billion dollars. Men who make love to two women are revered by their male counterparts. It gives a man a feeling of accomplishment and achievement, making him feel like he's the man .
I spoke to some men who were involved in a menage-a-trois ( with their partners and all have the same post-experience reaction. They all feel let down and disappointed. You see, the purpose of fantasies is that they provide a goal or ambition we would like to have but never actually believe we will attain.
For example, if I have sexual fantasies about Halley Berry, and by some miracle I actually fulfill that fantasy, despite how exciting I might think it is at the time, in retrospect I will likely feel a little disappointed because the fantasy element is gone. The whole purpose of a fantasy is that it's an escape from real life. Once our fantasies- but not our goals- come to life, we have no mental escape from the daily stress of our lives. If you consider the consequences of three-way sex, both for you (the sense of disappointment and lost ambition) and your partner (distrust and jealously), you might hesitate before trying it.
is three a crowd?
Almost every man who has the opportunity to have three-way sex will take it. Chances are, that at some point in a relationship, your girlfriend or wife might teasingly ponder the subject and bring it up in a conversation. At this point, men stop thinking with their brain -as the blood flow heads south- and start pushing for the fantasy to come true. What we men don't realize is that most of the time, women will often start this kind of conversation in order to probe their partners' secret fantasies and then use it against them.
To a woman, sharing her boyfriend/husband with another woman serves the purpose of pleasing her man . To a man, sharing his girlfriend/wife with another man is almost like seeing her get in front of him. It can be a traumatic experience.
If you ask a woman to have group sex, the response will be extreme. Either she is into it or she is completely opposed. A sense of doubt and mistrust will creep up even if she is into it, because you are confessing your desire to make love to another woman. If she is completely opposed, she will think you are cheating on her, and are not satisfied by her. Either way your relationship will change. It might not end, but it will likely face some serious trust issues down the road.
Is it worth it? Some men will say yes, that every man should experience it once. Perhaps they are right, but chances are you can never fulfill this fantasy with someone you are in love with. My advice is simple, if you are in love with your partner, don't bother asking her about group sex. Keep your fantasies as your fantasies. Without them, our lives would be a little more dull
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Practice tantric sex and tantric sexuality, connect with your partner and enjoy sex like never befor
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Publié :29/7/2011 5h53
Dernière mise à jour :10/7/2021 11h35 13281 vues
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Ever wondered what tantric sex and tantric sexuality is all about?
When you make love with your partner, the union may perhaps last for a good half an hour or more.
But tantric sex can help you prolong the connection and increase sexual intimacy by a hundred fold if done the right way!
What is tantric sexuality?
According to ancient Indian scriptures, the energy levels of a human body are controlled by nine chakras (wheels) that pass along a vertical straight line.
By activating and creating a connection with these chakras, you can experience happiness, get rid of pain and emotions, or control and enhance any human emotion that you have ever felt.
Today, science has proved the presence of these energy centers in the body, and is still trying to understand how it works.
Tantric sex is the art of activating these nine chakras during the sexual union of a man and a woman. By doing that, you can experience bliss beyond words and connect on a higher plane that’s beyond the realm of what our mind can understand.
Confusing? Yeah, let’s go straight to the sex then!
Experiencing bliss through tantric sex
First of all, you need to give yourselves a few hours of free time with no phone calls or distractions. To create an explosive sexual connection, you need to be focused on each other and nothing else.
You can have tantric sex for an hour or prolong it for more than a day! It’s really up to you and your partner. To start off, indulge in tantric sex for an hour or two. You’d soon realize that two hours of sex is just too short once you’ve created a connection between each other on a higher plane.
Understanding tantric sex
Tantric sex isn’t a dirty fetish or a little sex game of exhibitionism [Read: Sexy exhibitionism]. It’s pure, clean and more delightful than falling in love for the first time. Tantric sexuality is an art that has to be learnt and mastered. It’s the meditation and awakening of the mind while indulging in sex. It’s pure LSD of the sexual kind. Here, we’ll just tell you how to go about it the first time. Explore and create your own connections, because passionate sex, just like our own minds, is as unique as a fingerprint.
Tantric sex – The beginning
Follow these steps, and take a break whenever you feel like it, whether it’s a cigarette break or to take a piss.
Setting the space
Set things in a manner that would please all your senses. Use fragrances like musk or sandalwood to stimulate your senses. Light candles and use a playlist of very soft ethnic music. Dress in loose clothing that can come off easily, like a sarong or a robe. Red is the color of fertility, and would be preferred over other colors. Choose aphrodisiacs like strawberries, oysters, or chocolates to feed each other while having tantric sex.
Choose a drink like a mild red wine so you can get drunk more on each other than on the drink.
Tantric sensuality and the awakening
Sit down cross legged or on your knees in front of each other. Relax and feel comfortable in the surrounding, once you’re past all the giggling and blushing.
Gaze into each other’s eyes in the soft candlelight, and prepare your partner by lightly moving your palm or fingertips all over your partner’s body to tingle and awaken the nerves. Tease your partner with long strokes throughout the length of the body, brushing close to the points of heightened sensation like the privates and the breast, without touching it.
Preparing yourself for tantric sex – The nine chakras
Once you’ve stroked each other for at least a few minutes, your nerve endings would have a heightened sense of touch. Now it’s time to activate the chakras in your body.
Face each other and sit very close, but don’t touch each other. Place your fingers on your own nipples and massage yourself in a spiraling motion while gazing at each other’s eyes (or the hands if you think staring is rude!). Massage yourself for nine deep, long breaths.
It’s the nine chakras we’re talking about, so the massaging should be done in multiples of nine as you move your hands downward. Move your fingers down to your ribs, and repeat the spiraling massage for 18 breaths, two times nine. Move your fingers down to the end of your ribs and repeat the motion and breathe slowly for 27 breaths, three times nine. Now move midway between the ribs and the navel, and repeat this for 36 breaths, four times nine. Now bring both the hands together just below the navel, and circulate the skin as you breathe for 45 slow breaths. Then massage midway between the navel and the pubic bone for 54 breaths. Then do the same just above the pubic bone for 63 breaths. Massage your privates for 72 breaths. Finally, massage just behind the genitals for 81 breaths. Now lie down beside each other, but don’t touch each other.
If you’re confused about where you have to massage yourself, don’t worry about it as long as you have nine points between your nipples and your last point of massage.
Awakening the kundalini
The kundalini is a sexual energy that rests within all of us like a coiled serpent. When you massage yourself and think of nothing but your carnal desires, your sexual energy would start to grow along with your desires. [Read: Happy ending massage]
To awaken your partner’s sexual energy, the woman should sit behind the man, closely in such a manner that the breast and the back touch each other. Repeat the massage in multiples of nine, but this time the woman does all the massaging first, followed by the man who sits behind the woman.
You can pause between steps to have a sip of wine or an aphrodisiac. Once you’re done massaging each other, lie down next to each other with the sides touching.
Heightening the arousal
Sit down with your backs touching each other and feel your buttocks touching each other’s. Place one hand on your heart, and the other on your privates and gently sway back and forth slowly, while taking deep, long breaths. Close your eyes and visualize the colors and think of nothing but your sexual desires.
After a while, you would start to feel a sexual awakening. If one of you try to sway faster in sexual excitement, the other partner should restrict the pace and maintain the same speed. Imagine sex and through your closed eyes, watch the colors form and fill you with sexual energy.
At times, the sexual energy may be so intense, your eyes may start misting up or tearing, but don’t stop the motion. It only means you’ve awakened an intense sexual force you haven’t experienced before.
Now change from the to and fro motion to circular motions and rotate your waists in sync together. This requires practice and it’s better to slow down sooner than later at the initial stages. Lie down again, and rest awhile.
Merging the sexual energy
Face each other and sit down, preferably cross legged or on your knees, with your knees touching each other’s. Place one hand on your heart and the other on your privates and sway back and forth, looking into each other’s eyes.
Lean back on the in-breath and breathe out as you move forward. Do this calmly and slowly. Massage yourselves on the nipples as you begin to sway in harmony. Shift your gaze from your partner’s eyes to their privates, and shift your hand from your nipple to your partner’s shoulder.
As you do this, for the first time, your sexual energies would come in contact with each other. Continue moving to and fro with deep, long breaths as you feel the sexual energy come and go in waves.
Uniting in tantric sex
The woman now moves onto the man’s lap and sits down facing him. As both of you move together through the tantric connection, the man penetrates the woman while she sits on his lap and locks him in her thighs.
Now the woman puts the man’s right hand on her back between the shoulder blades, and his left hand supports the buttocks. The woman’s left hand goes between his shoulder blades and the right on his sacrum. This completes the path of sexual energy circulation between the man and the woman.
In this position, known as the Maithuna, the energy chakras are aligned, between the navel, the solar plexus, and the heart, and the energy flows through each other in a manner you would not have experienced before.
Gaze into each other’s eyes, and seal your lips together. Breathe into each other as you sway back and forth, and then connect your tongues. This connects your entire body, the mind and the soul. Let this swaying turn to rocking and finally into thrusting.
Climaxing into sexual bliss
As climax approaches, both of you should close your eyes and move your hands from between the shoulders to the top of the neck. You can pause each time you’re on the verge of orgasming, until you are ready to orgasm. As the waves of the orgasm begin shuddering into the very core of your body, clench your teeth and bring the sensation to your head, to a point near the top of your head, just over the scalp. Let go of your mind and be still as the waves of sexual union overpower you.
Ending the sexual union of tantric sex
Stay in the same position until both of you are back in the mundane world, and your breathing and heart rate comes back to normal. Gaze into each other’s right eye, stroking each other’s face, neck, and shoulders. Slowly, begin a tender disconnection. Lower your hands to the sides and gently, let the woman lift herself off the lap and sit down facing each other.
Bidding farewell to the sexual energy
According to Tantric sexual philosophy, physical union of humans is sacred and similar to the union of the force of heaven with the power of the earth. As you sit facing each other, touch each other at the knees. Place your right palms up on each other’s left knee. Feel the connection, and allow it to fade. Gently, let go of the physical connection and draw yourselves apart. Close your eyes and sit in your own space. Open your eyes when both of you are ready and thank each other for what you have shared. [Read: Sexual fantasies for men and fantasies for women]
When you’re indulging in tantric sex and tantra, while the act itself is important, it’s the moments leading up to it which make it far more pleasurable. Practice tantric sex and tantric sexuality, connect with your partner and enjoy sex like never before.
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Happy Valentine Day
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Publié :14/2/2011 16h19
Dernière mise à jour :11/8/2011 18h57 13490 vues
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Happy Valentine Day
The look of love is in your eyes
The look your heart can't disguise
The look of love is saying so much more
Than just words could ever say
And what my heart has heard
Well, it takes my breath away
I can hardly wait to hold you
Feel my arms around you
How long I have waited
Waited just to love you
Now that I have found you.
You've got the look of love
It's on your face
A look that time can't erase
Be mine tonight
Let this be just the start
Of so many nights like this
Let's take a lover's vow
and then seal it with a kiss
I can hardly wait to hold you
Feel my arms around you
How long I have waited
Waited just to love you
Now that I have found you
Don't ever go
I can hardly wait to hold you
Feel my arms around you
How long I have waited
Waited just to love you
Now that I have found you
Don't ever go
Don't ever go
I love you so
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[Advice 4 Kandy Girl] Stimulating the G-spot to the level where it will squirt requires 3 things
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Publié :30/12/2010 15h54
Dernière mise à jour :3/5/2012 8h07 13767 vues
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Stimulating the G-spot to the level where it will squirt requires three major items: time, tender play and (usually, but certainly not always) vaginal finger fuck or what I call "giving good hand". What you do is this: you start with stimulating the G-spot (which to some women is even more exciting than stimulating the clitoris) with your fingers and slowly and tenderly work your way to the point where you can slip your hand into the vagina (wear latex gloves at all times, not only to protect yourself but also to protect the tender inner vaginal tissue, and use lots and lots of lubricant). A good tip when you're using lubricant in and around the vagina is to warm it slightly before applying it. It's cold as it comes straight out of the dispenser, which to most women is very uncomfortable on the warm, tender and highly stimulated vagina. Simply have the dispenser ready, but floating in a bowl of warm water so it will warm up while you're playing.
Once you're in, stimulate and stimulate and stimulate (literally pump up the volume) until you feel the vaginal muscles contracting around your wrist (the first sign of an orgasm coming up). That is the signal to change position. Leave four fingers in the vagina and lay your thumb over the clitoris. Now simply squeeze the G-spot from behind and - like you were pressing an orange or a lemon - you'll squeeze out the liquid.
Whatever you do now: DON'T STOP! The orgasm will not only be very, very, very intense, it will also revolve. Let it come and come and come again until your partner asks you to stop. This revolving orgasm may very well last for ten to fifteen minutes. Squeeze out the liquid, ease up a little and when the next wave comes up, squeeze again. There is more to come.
Useful tips
1. If you're into bondage, then by all means tying someone down can add another dimension to this. The movements will be extremely strong, unexpected, uncontrolled and sometimes can be spasmodic. This really will be an orgasm like she's never had before.
2. Spread the bed with lots and lots of towels, because you don't know how much fluid may come out, but there's a fair chance it will easily fill up two or three layers of towels.
3. Be careful and think about safe sex. The fluid may spray around like a fountain and may spray as far as your partner's knees and about half a yard high.
4. Be careful about your own fingers. The orgasmic contractions may come to the level of contractions when a woman is giving birth. This can be a very painful experience to the person doing the fisting. If you can't stand it anymore, remove a finger but don't remove your hand. If you want the full effect you have to keep up the stimulation.
If this is new to you remember that there is a good chance your partner may feel ashamed the first time she experiences this. It's very, very intimate, not only the ejaculation itself, but also the intensity of the orgasm. Be prepared for shouting, yelling and possibly animal-like roars and DO comfort your partner immediately afterwards. Have a drink ready, because she probably will be very thirsty and cover her right away to avoid her catching a cold.
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Multiple Orgasms and how it can be diffent for all women
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Publié :24/12/2010 9h25
Dernière mise à jour :24/12/2010 12h42 13990 vues
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I am always in search of understanding how the female body react to multiple orgasms. I came across this article and I had to share it. I think every sexual active man and woman should take 5 minutes to read it...............let me know what you think.
The female orgasm normally last much longer than that of a man. It is preceded by the erection of the clitoris and the moistening of the vagina. In is not uncommon for the woman to experience a sexual flush which is a reddening of the skin over much of the body and can be explained due to the increase of blood flow in the body.
When a woman nears orgasm the clitoral galns moves inwards under the clitoral hood and the inner lips become darker. Closer to the orgasm a woman will experience a tightening and narrowing of the vagina with the overall vagina lengthening and dilating becoming congested with engorged soft tissue. The uterus then experiences muscular contractions. In woman the feeling a total orgasm happens when her uterus, vagina, anus and pelvic muscles undergo a series of rhythmic contractions. In most women the whole overall experience is extremely pleasurable. Once the orgasm has finished the clitoris re-emerges from under the hood and returns to normal size usually within ten minutes.
Orgasm and Health
Although I couldn’t find any health studies concerning woman and orgasm research on men and the orgasm and sex as a whole showed that the physical activity requires major exertion of many bodily functions. In 1997 a study by The British Medical Journal in 918 men between the ages of 45-59 then followed up 10 years later showed that men who had fewer orgasms were twice as likely to die of any causes that those having at least two orgasms a week. In 2001 a follow up that was specifically focused on cardiovascular health found that having sex three times or more a week led to a 50% reduction in the chances of heart attack or stoke.
Achieving Orgasm
One of the main ways to achieve orgasm is by direct or indirect stimulation of the clitoris. This can be achieved a number of ways such as through sexual intercourse, manual masturbation, oral sex, non penetrative sex, a sensual vibrator or an erotic electro-stimulation. An orgasm can also be achieved by stimulation of the nipples or other erogenous zones. In the absence of physical stimulation orgasm can be accomplished from physiological arousal alone.
The G-Spot is important for woman to realize an orgasm this is an internal gland called the Skene’s gland in woman.
girl_illustration.jpgVaginal Orgasm
The female body can attain orgasm from stimulation of the clitoris and also from stimulation of the G-Spot. Its full name is the Grafenberg spot and is a small area behind the female pubic bone surrounding the urethra and accessible through the anterior wall of the vagina. There are certain scientists that believe only certain woman actually have a G-spot. The G-spot orgasm is sometimes referred to as “vaginal” because it results from stimulation inside the vagina, including during sexual intercourse. However please note only stimulation of the G-Spot and other inner vaginal stimulation results in a “vaginal orgasm”.
There is great debate as two whether there is a two orgasm theory that there is a vaginl orgasm and a clitoral orgasm. Many believe that the two orgasm theory is a perception put forward by men and is heavily criticised by feminist such as Ellen Ross.
Freud was the first person to put forward the concept of a purely vaginal orgasm he argued without any evidence that a clitoral orgasm was an phenomnan and upon reaching puberty the proper response of a mature woman changes to a vaginal orgasm. This theory held parlance for a long time because many women felt inadequate when they could not achieve orgasm via vaginal intercourse that involved little or no clitoral stimulation.
The belief that most people now deem right now we have a greater understanding of the female genitalia and sexual organs is that the clitoris is much larger than we ever understood before is the clitoris actually extends inside and around the body of the vagina and complicates if not invalidates the vaginal vs. clitoral orgasm. Recent anatomical research shows that there are nerves connecting intravaginal tissues and the clitoris. This link between the clitoris and the vagina is evidence that the clitoris is the “seat” of the female orgasm and is far more widespread that the visible part most people associate with the clit. It may explain why some women can realize orgasm by sexual intercourse alone as the may have more extensive clitoral tissue and nerves than other women making an orgasm from penetrative sex possible.
Anal Stimulation
The anal orgasm is often talked about but often misunderstood it can be brought on by anal stimulation such as from anal sex, an inserted finger or sex toy. Anecdotal evidence suggests that some women experience anal orgasm as qualitatively different from clitoral or “vaginal” orgasm, though for many the distinction is less clear.
In both sexes pleasure can be gained from the nerve endings around the anus and the anus itself. It is known that anal-oral contact can still be pleasurable without stimulation of the clit.
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It is pretty self explanatory a breast orgasm describes a female orgasm that is triggered by stimulation of the breast. It is not achievable by all women when their breast are stimulated but anecdotal evidence suggest that stimulation of the breast area during sexual intercourse and foreplay, or just simply having their breast fondled creates a more intense orgasm. One study claimed that 29% of woman had at one point or other had experienced a breast orgasm. The way it is explained is that stimulation of the nipples produces the hormone oxytocin which is produced in the body during sexual excitement in all other sexual circumstances.
Multiple Orgasms
Women sometimes don’t have or have a very small period of time between when they first experience an orgasm and then the next one. These subsequent orgasms may actually be more powerful or pleasurable than the first. In some women their clitoris and nipples are very sensitive after climax thus making additional stimulation very painful. There are reports of woman having too many orgasms including a story of one woman in the UK who had them throughout the day at the merest hints of a vibration. Other techniques are analogous to reports by multi-orgasmic women indicating that they must relax and "let go" to experience multiple orgasms.
In Conclusion
The female orgasm can be achieved in several different ways depending on which of the different erogenous zones is stimulated. In many instances it may take time and patience but they can be rewarded with multiple and extremely pleasurable orgasms.
Multiple Orgasms How The Differ For All Women
Some girls feel that one is sufficient and others find that their clitoris is too sensitive after their first orgasm and their just not interested in having any more. Girls unlike men on do not have a refractory period, after their first orgasm they are in the plateau stage and stay aroused for longer and if stimulation is continued more orgasms are likely. These appear as a sequence of climaxes that come close along without an interruption in arousal. For some women they may need some seconds to relax before stimulation can continue when having multiple orgasms but then an another orgasm usually occurs inside minutes.
A likely situation for this to occur is if the clitoris is stimulated manually or orally till climax is reached, followed by another climax during intercourse.do_not_disturb
Some girls might find that their clitoris is extraordinarily sensitive after their first orgasm.
If direct stimulation is too intense, try indirect stimulation on another part of the genitals. It would help to take deep breaths, rocking your pelvis in time with your breathing, while the energy builds up again in your genitals. Within a few minutes you could find that over stimulation will give way to pleasure. There are two types of multiple orgasms.
Sequential Multiples
These are a series of climaxes that come close together with an interruption in arousal. The woman might need a few seconds to relax and then stimulation can continue, with another orgasm occurring within minutes. A likely situation for this to happen is if the clitoris is stimulated manually or orally until climax is reached, followed by another climax during intercourse.
Some women might find that their clitoris is very sensitive after their first orgasm. If direct stimulation is too intense, try indirect stimulation on another part of the genitals. It might help to take deep breaths, rocking your pelvis in time with your breathing, while the energy builds up again in your genitals. Within a few minutes you could find that over stimulation will give way to pleasure.
Serial Multiples
These are orgasms that come one after the other without interruption in arousal. These are only seconds apart and may feel like on continuous orgasm with multiple peak points. This is likely to be achieved if the clitoris and G-Spot are being stimulated simultaneously.
Some women find that their second or third orgasms are more powerful than the first, and some find that their orgasms become progressively less intense.
In conclusion
Achieving multiple orgasms can be refreshing, exciting and even lead to an overall sense if well being for a long while after the event. A great way to get multiple orgasm is of course through self pleasure.
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Do you need a passion decoder ring
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Publié :1/12/2010 21h25
Dernière mise à jour :7/4/2011 14h11 14501 vues
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When I was a kid I would go for prize inside the cereal box. My favorite was the decoder ring. It would decode secret message on the box. Well now I am all grown up and wish I had it back when I read profiles. From what I herd women are as bad men and men are as bad as women with their self marketing bullshit. So here is what I seen and here is what they mean when you use your 2.0 passion decoder ring. Brought to you by some lonely cant get laid members............did I say that out loud 
W4M
"Baggage" - I can't deal with actual human beings
"Curvy" - fat
"Drama free" - I'm still bitter and involved with the last guy who got me pregnant
"Love to laugh" - I am a boring as hell so hopefully you can make it entertaining
"Looking..." - spam
"Must love..." - spam
"Partner in crime" - I'm as clever and interesting as a brick
"Seeking..." - spam
"Sensual" - fat
"Something real" - spam
"Treat me..." - BBW with a highly undeserved sense of entitlement
No picture - fat
Picture of sunset, flower, cocktail, eyes - fat
Three or four sentence post of superficial crap with picture of cute or hot woman - spam
"Not looking for sex" - I'll blow you
Five paragraphs long post - I'm fucking insane
M4W
"see what happens" - I'm hoping for at least a fingerbang
"down to earth" - boring
"sincere" - needy
"romantic" - needy
"drama-free" - I need a vagina that won't bother me after I'm done with it
No picture - I resemble a creature from Middle-earth
Picture of anything else other than a person - I will give you an STD
"Love to eat pussy" - Don't really know which part the pee or the baby comes out of
"spoil you" - I hope you're into watersports
"lets chat" - My other hand is on my erection
"love [music, movies, tv]" - I'm a cultural retard
"experienced" - one or two date convictions
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Below is my list of the Top Ten Most Overused Phrases In passion Ads
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Publié :17/11/2010 10h03
Dernière mise à jour :4/12/2010 8h46 14760 vues
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Below is my list of the Top Ten Most Overused Phrases In Personal Ads. If YOUR ad does not contain any of the following phrases, please contact me immediately!
10) "I live life to the fullest!"
(Is this really the most profound philosophical statement you can come up with? Dig a little deeper, Nietzsche.)
9) "Loves to laugh" or "Fun-loving"
(Alright! A person who enjoys laughter and fun. What a rare individual; I must meet her at once. Just once I'd like to see "loves to sob uncontrollably for days on end.")
 "I'm ____ years old but I look MUCH younger!"
(Sure you do. And if I just did a couple more sit-ups, I could still make the Pats starting lineup. Is self-delusion great or what?)
7) "I'm a down to earth..."
(If I see this phrase one more time, I'll... I'll... I don't know WHAT I'll do! I might be forced to actually turn off my computer and go interact with people in the REAL world. Okay, I probably wouldn't do anything THAT drastic. But you get the idea.)
6) "I can go from jeans to a cocktail dress in 10 minutes!"
(You must be very proud. I can't believe they haven't made this an Olympic event yet.)
5) "I'm a intelegent..."
(If you can't SPELL intelligent... do you see where I'm going with this? Class? Anyone?)
4) "I'm a typical (insert astrological sign here)."
(Astrology? Yeah, it's a science. I think they use it at NASA. I don't even know where to begin here. If you're looking for some insight into the nature of my character, don't ask me what my sign is. Talk to the Easter Bunny, he has the real inside track on me.)
3) "I don't have a pic, but trust me, you won't be disappointed!"
(Trust me, I will.)
2) "Looking for THE ONE" or "Looking for my Soulmate"
(Really? These are the most fresh and original lines you can come up with? Your mother and I had such high hopes for you. Oh well, there's always trade school.)
And the Number One Most Overused Phrase In A Personal Ad is...
1) "Don't worry, I plan to loose [sic] the weight real soon."
(Ok, it's probably just me, but why am I still worried?)
Put them all together, and the end result usually looks something like this....
"Fun-loving, down-to-earth woman with 5 kids from 5 different fathers seeks a intelegint guy who loves to laugh. Must be in shape! I'm temporarily 50 pounds overweight, but don't worry, I plan to loose the weight right after I finish these fries! Must look like Brad Pitt and be no older than 35! I'm 49 but I look MUCH younger! I don't have a pic, but trust me, you won't be disappointed! I'm a Libra so I live life to the fullest! I get along best with Geminis who have six-figure incomes! Must have a big heart and a bigger house, cuz the landlord just kicked us out!"
(Well, as long you have realistic expectations.)
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pressuring or coercing your girl into anal isn't effective.
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Publié :2/11/2010 21h00
Dernière mise à jour :2/7/2012 20h35 14799 vues
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The "ass fuck conspiracy?" You haven't, eh? Well, I probably should not do this, but I will -- I will share the secrets of the little-known ass fuck conspiracy. But only if you promise to use it only for the greater good (aka: pleasure). (Note: there are basics of this plan -- lube, limits, pacing, etc. -- that are well-known, oft-talked about, and are part of any successful sexual interlude which will not be specifically covered here, but DO keep them in mind.)
Overview: Lighten up, no matter how pressing your desire for ass fucking may be. Talking, pressuring or coercing your girl into anal isn't effective. Tricking or forcing her into it is out of the question. Pleasuring her into it is a whole different story........
THE BASIC RULE: You must be well-versed in pleasuring the "usual" parts. That's right, you must be handy with a pussy. If you're not already giving your girl heights of orgasmic pleasure like she's never seen, you're not ready for the ass fuck conspiracy. If you're not skilled with her vagina and related parts (and genuinely enjoy being so), there's no way she's letting you near the "other" place. Period. And she has a sense of this, trust me. If this is an issue, go back and figure it out, then proceed only when you've practiced more.
Step #1: Orgasms, orgasms, and more orgasms (for her, duh). If you're providing your girl with many lovely and varied types of O's, she's going to have an inherent trust in your knowledge of and ability in the area of pleasuring her, which is going to make the issue of ass fucking much more considerable. (see above.) Also, for most girls, its more desirable and more pleasurable to do anal if they've already had at least one or several orgasms. More on this below.
Step #2: Oral, oral and more oral. While you're down there showing off your superior oral abilities and facilitating those O's, mix-it up a bit -- flick your tongue, swirl it, and perform oral on and around her asshole. This will not only introduce her to the fact that there are many lovely nerve-endings there, which she will most likely enjoy, but will exhibit the fact that you are adventurous and appreciative of and committed to the pleasure of her entire being. This creates a much different atmosphere then that of completely avoiding her asshole and then trying to stick something in it. You know?
Step #3: The T'aint. "It ain't the pussy and it ain't the asshole." You may have heard of this little place between the pussy and the asshole. If you are enjoying or working up to Step #2, don't forget this little place for licking, etc.
Step #4a: Fingering. There are a couple different sections to the "fingering" step. Fingering begins on, around and in the vulval area (which you know if you've adhered to the Basic Rule). Specific to the ass fuck conspiracy is the fact that inside the vagina itself, there are many special "spots." (Also useful: "mapping" the vaginal anatomy of your particular girl.) You've most likely heard of or are familiar with the "G." Well, did you know there's a "reverse-side G?" It may have its own special name, but I don't remember it right now. Its on the opposite side of the "G" -- that's right, on the wall seperating her pussy from her ass. The "internal t'aint," if you will. This is a special place; special because it feels really good when stimulated -- tickled, rubbed, pressed on, up, down, side to side, circular, you have to experiment a bit to find the right stimulus for your girl. Also special because most girls haven't had lovers who have taken the time to find all their internal special spots, particularly this one, and if you are that special lover then you have already set yourself apart in a really great way. And special because when you are stimulating this little area, you are actually stimulating her asshole, which is your ultimate goal here in the ass fuck conspiracy. Now, if she really responds to the stimulation of this little area, as evidenced by the usual signs specifying heightened pleasure, you should feel really encouraged. You are most likely golden for ass fucking sometime in your very near future. If she's unresponsive, unsure or she out and out doesn't like it, you may have to reconsider your options or at least spend more time on steps 1-3.
Step #4b. Fingering cont'd. At some point, you're going to want to proceed with your superior fingering skills on into her ass. For several reasons. One -- you want to relax that mostly tight, unrelaxed space slowly. You want to open her up in a pleasurable way, not just ram your tool in there. You try one finger --- slowly, see how that goes, then probably two. Most people know this even if they aren't familiar with the secrets of the ass fuck conspiracy. Reason two -- not only are you relaxing the space, you are pleasuring her. You are now in the vicinity of the reverse G -- but now on the other side of the internal t'aint. Are you with me geographically? So, while you're exploring, relaxing and fingering here, your job is to help her enjoy it. While your fingers are in her ass, you are actually stimulating spots in her vagina. Did you know that? In that light, most of your movements should be directed "up," towards her vagina, as opposed to "down," away from it. It turns out, that nature, in her ever-comical way of tripping us up, has actually made some really great pleasure spots in the vagina easier to reach from the asshole. Ha! Funny isn't it? Even more funny since most women won't let you anywhere near their asshole. Right. ha. This is where I should tell you that many women who haven't experienced vaginal orgasms can and will experience "anal" orgasms via this method. Remember -- its because when you are in her ass, you are really stimulating spots in her vagina. Also remember that the internal t'aint (either side) is a very delicate, thin area (although strong, especially if she kegels), so act accordingly -- nothing too rough or jamming, please. Again, you have to experiment a bit to find out just where her great spots are and to what stimulus she responds best. This should be no problem for you, since at this point, having incorporated all of the above, you are a master lover -- adept at reading all the clues from your lover and responding accordingly. Even if she's super-orgasmo girl and regularly has all types of orgasms -- vaginal, clitoral, etc., she may experience orgasms from this like she never has -- rolling, continuous, non-stop, fully body, etc. And she may squirt, or ejaculate. (I'm not going into female ejaculation here, or debating whether its "real" or not, that's a whole other story, I'm just warning you.) Or she may not. She may not like it. She may feel weird. She may feel out of control. She may love it, but she may feel weird or out of control, and hence, want to stop. You are responsible for dealing with these variables. That's just the way it is. Deal with it without whining no matter how much you were "progressing" with the plan and are bummed you can't proceed.
Step #5: Don't forget the clit. Oh-no-siree. While you're doing all that other stuff, encourage her to play with her clit, or you do it with your other hand. Reasons for this are twofold: One, her clit is a pleasure place, and you want a pavlovian-type association going on here. Two -- it will enhance orgasmic possibilities. And/or give her oral. Remeber the orgasm part above? Now's the time to absolutely insure she's having them.
This is a good time to mention THE GOLDEN RULE: Never ass to pussy! Pussy to ass, OK, but don't put anything in any other places after they've been in her ass, it could lead to yucky infections. Keep track of your fingers, designate if you have to.
Step #6: Actual ass fucking. Now, if you're lucky, and all of the above steps have been successful, you may just find that she's asking you to fuck her ass. You should be so lucky. It could happen. Anyway, you may now be ready to put your cock in her ass. There are many ways to go about this, keeping in mind the foundation of lube, limits and pacing as mentioned above. Here are some tips, since much has been written (and can be found) on how to proceed with ass fucking.
Tip #1: Fuck her pussy first. If you haven't already, its good to do this first. Why? well, it feels good, loosens up the entire area (remember, its all very close together), she may have more orgasms, especially given all the above action, its good for lubrication purposes. And its fun.
Tip #2: Be creative with lube. Yes, there's lube in a tube. There are other types -- her juices, your spit, be inventive, use what's there.
Tip #3: You introduce your tool, let her back onto it at her pace, with you facilitating -- gently, slowly, adding a teensy tinsy bit of equal resistance every time she makes a move. This is teamwork -- you adding resistince provides extra sensation, and if she's hesitant and has already demonstrated she likes you to be "in control" or she likes to be led down debaucherous paths, she needs you to keep the pace or she may abort the mission. I know you're excited, I know you're having fun, but keep track of her responses and don't lose her!
Tip #4: Don't forget the clit. Somebody get the clit! Again, as above, pavlovian connection and increased pleasure.
Tip #5: Reverse cowgirl. Most people only think of one or two positions when planning ass fucking, but don't forget "girl on top," it works for anal too. Reverse cowgirl anal gives her control over depth and movement and allows her to experiment and find all the good spots, what feels best to her.
Tip #6: If she's really enjoying it, she may squirt (see above).
Tip #7: A reminder: never ass to pussy! For those set on indulging in this taboo action, you wear a condom and have her wear a female condom, then everyone is safe and you can go back and forth. Otherwise, never ass to pussy unless you wash (thoroughly) or switch condoms. Even if you're not overly concerned about your partner's health (which you should be), think of it this way: even if she loves it, you're not doing it again anytime soon if you give her an infection through sloppy habits. I know its all close together, figure it out.
Tip #8: Safe Word. "Safe word", you say? "We're not S&M types, we don't need a safe word." Well, you might, so come up with one just in case. You see, due to various psycho-social factors as well as thin lines between pleasure and pain, your girl may feel the need to tell you to stop or say no even if she doesn't want you to. And you don't want to stop if you don't have to do you? No, I didn't think so. So, "stop" or "no" are not good safe words. Come up with something else -- "red" or "pickle" or "smurf" or anything at all that doesn't usually come up in a sexual context. Because you DO want to stop if she really wants you to. Not stopping if she really wants you to will completely ruin the ass fuck conspiracy.
Tip #9: She may cry. In case you haven't noticed, girls can be kinda emotional. Just because she cries doesn't (necessarily) mean you hurt her or something. She might cry for any number of reasons -- intense orgasms, emotional release, just because. Hey, she also might laugh. Don't take it personally.
Whew! If you've done all this, you are successfully ass fucking! Congratulations. Proceed as with other fucking and enjoy.
Other considerations: You may have to enact the ass fuck conspiracy over a period of time -- days, weeks, months -- it all depends on the variables of how long you've been together, how open-minded she is, etc. With a girl you haven't been with that long who's never been open to anal, it could take a while. I am in no way implying you can be successful in one session (or at all, for that matter) even if you are the greatest lover on earth. Oh, and the bigger you are, the longer its going to take, sorry. You could be "stuck" at #2 or #4b for quite awhile. Let her know how much you love it, let her enjoy all the fabulous orgasms, let her know in a really sexy way how much fun you're having and how much you really want her ass one day. Naughty mid-day phone calls reminding her of these things don't hurt either.
Once you actually do it, she may love it but not let you do it that much. She may love it and want you to do it all the time. She may love it and have "issues" about it. She may be worried you're "ruining" her asshole, her virtue, etc. If she starts ejaculating, you may have more laundry to do. She may eventually want to be DP'd, and you may have to buy more toys. More chores and financial investment due to ass fucking!? Who knew? Well, you started it. She may follow you to the ends of the earth for providing such mind-blowing orgasms. More drama may come about in eventual breaking up. ("But I let you fuck my ass!") She may be mad at you for turning her into an anal slut. Ass fucking can be murky territory. These are all your problems to deal with. Good luck.
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Are vaginal orgasms better than clitoral orgasms ?
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Publié :21/9/2010 6h26
Dernière mise à jour :13/10/2010 6h14 14466 vues
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I came across this article and I agree on most of it but there parts that I think that off based. What is your take on it ladies
We’ve come a long way since the days when science doubted the existence of the female orgasm. Today, a woman’s sexual satisfaction is a major field of study and the average couple has spent a great deal of time trying to improve her experience. This is certainly appreciated, but some of you may be trying too hard; her level of satisfaction may already be everything she could hope for. That’s right: You may be striving toward a goal that has been based entirely on myth. This misinformation circulates with surprising frequency and you may be shocked (if not relieved) to learn how wrong some of them are. Read on as we discuss, and set right, the biggest female orgasm myths around.
All women want a G-spot orgasm
Put in the simplest terms possible: This is a load of crap. While it’s true that many women lust for G-spot orgasms, it’s a complete orgasm myth that all women desire such a thing. For many women, having the G-spot stimulated -- even "correctly" -- results in a sensation that can only be described as extremely uncomfortable. It can make a woman feel like she needs to urinate immediately, and that’s never fun. It can also cause her to feel pain, and not in a sexy S&M kind of way, either. In fact, the whole stimulating the G-spot thing can annoy some women to the point where it completely turns them off for the rest of the evening. Yes, some women love having their G-spot stimulated -- but many don’t.
Women need a skilled partner to orgasm
Many men pride themselves on their ability to make a woman orgasm (and your skills are definitely appreciated), but the ultimate responsibility for a woman’s orgasm belongs to her. It’s perfectly normal for a woman to have difficulty achieving a vaginal orgasm -- that’s why God invented the clitoris. Meaning: She can still achieve a fabulous orgasm even if her lover is a virgin with limited experience and know-how. A man’s efforts are certainly helpful, but if she’s not achieving orgasm she has no one to blame but herself. Additionally, many women suffer from performance anxiety just as men do. If a woman falls into this category, even the most skillful of men wouldn’t be able to make her orgasm, regardless of his efforts.
Women need to orgasm to enjoy themselves
This orgasm myth couldn’t be further from the truth. Sex feels good whether you have an orgasm or not, and when combined with the right level of intimacy, the experience can be immensely satisfying regardless of whether or not she climaxes. Many women even prefer foreplay to actual sex and orgasm. Why? Because, for some women kissing, hugging and caressing are more satisfying than anything you see in porn flicks. If you combine these acts of affection with slow and steady penetration, most women will be perfectly content at the end of your love session.
Vaginal orgasms are better than clitoral orgasms
This orgasm myth is a bit like comparing apples and oranges. OK, not exactly, but you get the idea. The basic point is this: Both are perfectly lovely and they can be equally satisfying. The only reason vaginal orgasms are regarded as the Holy Grail of ecstasy is how infrequently they occur. Statistically speaking, it’s estimated that 30% of women will never even experience one and only 30% do so with regularity. That means you have a very good chance of dating or marrying a woman who will never achieve a vaginal orgasm. Unfair as that may sound, clitoral orgasms are not to be taken lightly; they can be absolutely earth-shattering under the right circumstances, and some women prefer them. Clitoral orgasms are wonderful and there is no reason to pity a woman who hasn’t experienced an orgasm through vaginal stimulation.
Women can’t ejaculate
Anyone who still believes this orgasm myth has clearly never seen a good porn film. Women can definitely ejaculate, and some can do so more forcefully (and with more volume) than men. It’s a relatively new acknowledgment in the scientific community, so the research still leaves something to be desired, but there’s plenty of evidence to support the claim. We know that women ejaculate through the urethra, just like men. Female ejaculate contains the same substances male ejaculate contains, and it’s produced in the "female prostate" -- an organ which is extremely similar to the male prostate, albeit smaller. Women seem to ejaculate primarily through direct stimulation of the G-spot (some scientists believe this is actually the urethral sponge), but not all women can or will experience ejaculation. So, if she doesn't have a gushing end, don't think she didn't enjoy herself, just try again another time.
orgasmic mythology
So there you have it: Five female orgasm myths totally debunked. While it’s admirable to concern yourself with your woman’s pleasure and level of satisfaction, you’re not solely responsible for her orgasm. If she doesn’t have one, she could still be having the time of her life. If, however, you really have your heart set on making her holler, we recommend asking her to masturbate for you, which will provide plenty of insight (and quite a show) into how she prefers to reach orgasm.
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